How can I get my 3 year old to stay in her bed all night?

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Liz - posted on 08/10/2009

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I would like to say there is an easy solution to this. Our oldest child from 2.5 years for almost a year after slept in our room. He would go to sleep in his room (big boy bed) no problem but then would get up in the middle of the night, and come into our room. We would take him back to his room 10-5 times a night and that is exhausting especially if you have any other children (we had a newborn at the time). So our Dr. recommended that we put a sleeping bag on the side of our bed with a pillow and everything, and if he came in he could sleep there but NOT IN OUR BED (because that starts a whole new problem) and he did that for about 1-2 months and then he starting staying in his bed.

Consistancy is important, but you can't exhaust yourself either. The gate is a good idea if she is just having a hard time going to sleep but a crying baby either at your bed or at a gate is still a crying baby.My oldest just got to a point that he started feeling more comfortable in his bed.

When our youngest went to a big boy bed we put the boys in the same room and they sleep great now. When they get old enough and want their own rooms we will give them their own rooms back, but for now they love having a bedroom together. (My brother and I had to share a room until I was about 8, and we did just fine, but that was about the age I wanted my own room). :) I hope this helps.......As long as you don't let he in your bed she will learn that her bed is a lot softer than your floor. :) They also grow a little and certain things that may be scaring her (ours was the train across town) will eventually not bother her anymore.

Be patient, I know it can be overwhelming!!

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Quoting Tracye:

How can I get my 3 year old to stay in her bed all night?




Trayce, Hey, my name is Donna.  I've had a few kids but learn that the older I get, the more I still need to learn!    First, ask your child why they need to come to your room:  are they scared, do they just need to go to the bathroom, etc.?  Also, make sure they are not getting any TV that is too stimulating soon before bed.  Then, tell them that you need your sleep to be a great mom  and when she is in your bed, you can't get good sleep, that Daddy and you are sleeping partners and she has her own bedroom too.  Be very reassuring that if there is a real emergency, you are right there for her and you want her to come to you/  I think reading and cuddling before bedtime and having prayer ( a routine anyway) is soothing to kids.  Tell her you'll be so proud of her when she can wake up in her own bed!  I wish you well.

Madonna - posted on 08/09/2009

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We're not in a big girl bed yet, but I have heard of one solution: putting a baby gate in the doorway. That way they can see you when you check on them (if they're crying), reassure them, but tell them it's time for bed. This would be I guess instead of sitting at the door and physically putting them to bed each time they get out which is another route that I've heard of. Good luck!!!

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