How can I make my kids stay out of my bed at nights?? moms please help me,,

Marleny - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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HI everyone. My 6 year old daughter and my 4 year old son have theyr own rooms but for some reason they always wake up in my bed, it doesnt matter what i tell them they just dont want to sleep in theyr beds!..

what can I do to change this? im worried that when its time to get married again this will affect them.

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Sarah - posted on 08/19/2012

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I have a 11, 9, and 7 year old who won't sleep in their rooms.. one in my he'd, one on my floor and the other sleeps on the couch in the living room

Karen - posted on 01/18/2010

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Read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I am reading it right now and it has helped me lots. Good luck.

Lashida - posted on 01/17/2010

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How i got my kids to sleep n there own rooms was i would let them fall asleep in my bed then put them n there beds & if they wake up in the middle of the night to get back in your bed u have to make go back to there room even if thats means sitting in there tell they go back to sleep.....

Kiana - posted on 01/16/2010

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my son is 2 and half and he wakes up bout the same time 230am everynight cryin, and he will come get in my bed if he cant get in the door he goes in the living room cryin and he will turn the tv on and just sit there and cry... i have no idea what to do

Sandy - posted on 01/16/2010

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Im in the same boat. I have a 3 year old and we just started putting a sleeping bag on the side of our bed and told him if he gets up in the middle of the night and feels the need to be in our room that is where he is to sleep. He still trys to get in our bed, lucky for me my husband is a light sleeper. Hes doing better. I guess I would say whatever you decide to do make sure to stick to it.Good luck.

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I'm in the same boat...kids come in really late and it's hard to keep bringing them back to their rooms. We give a special toy (flashlight) and tell him he can keep it with him if he stays in bed at night. We also put music on repeat, since that seems to be a reason to get up, at times. The incentive program is good, too. Getting a star on their hand in the am if they stayed in bed is one suggestion. Then they can look at their reward all day and be reminded that they did a good job. You can also try a baby monitor, putting the part that picks up the noise in your room and the listening part in the kid's room. when you hear her get up then talk to her through it (works good in conjunction w/ a gate at her door). sometimes just hearing your voice can help her feel reassurance and get back in her own bed. Good luck...I'm still waiting for the day mine stay in bed!

Jeanie - posted on 01/15/2010

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Try an incentive program, make a sticker chart or some way to track. Then tell them that when they have slept in their beds for a week or so....you will have a pajama party together. Or some other fun activity. After the week is up, make a pallet in the living room and have an old fashioned slumber party. All together, might keep them out of your bed for good and you still get to have some fun in the process!

Heather - posted on 01/15/2010

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My kids are a little younger, but I put a baby gate up at their door. They don't feel like they are "locked in" because they can see over it and everything, but its a reminder to them that they can't get out of their room until I tell them to in the morning...maybe worth a try?

Marleny - posted on 01/15/2010

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thanks so much I will try it, only thing is when they come in is usuallly late and im sound asleep so i dont realise theyr there till the morning time when i wake up..

Michelle - posted on 01/15/2010

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it sounds like you have let them away with it a few times now they have got to like the idea of sleeping beside mummy, which is normal ....my 9 year old tried it when he was 4 and my 4 year old has tried it a few times.



you have to be consistent dont allow them one night then expect them to understand that another night isnt allowed. as soon as they come in beside you, you have to say no this is mums bed and take them straight back to there own beds. they might keep chancing there luck a few nights but if you keep lifting them straight away they will realise that mummy is no longer allowing this and will give up



hope this helps :)

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