How do I get my 4 Year old out of my bed?!?!

LeeAnn - posted on 05/19/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My youngest son was very sickly as a baby so he always slept with us so we could keep an eye on him. Now, he's 4 and we can't bribe him to sleep in his own bed! Help!!! My husband and I need some much needed alone time.

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Kelsey - posted on 05/19/2009

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make sure you put him in his own bed while he is awake!!.....also try putting a night light in his room and a childrens bedtime cd to play while he sleeps....and every time he gets up just keep taking him back to his bed and tucking him in!:)

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Sara - posted on 05/20/2009

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With my twins I lay with them in their bed for the first 2 weeks of sleeping in it. (They shared a queen size at first). Then after that 2 weeks I went to just sitting next to their bed while they fell asleep. Then I moved to sitting by the door for a week. Then out for good. This was the method recommended by my doctor when I asked him. He said it's less traumatizing for some kids. And it made it so my kids sleep in the dark with no nightlight. They didn't need one to start cause mom was there, now they're just fine without it. Good Luck.

LeeAnn - posted on 05/20/2009

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Thank you guys for all of your comments. I will have to try every one of them!

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Take him shopping and let him pick out a new bed, sheets, nightlight, etc....Then stand firm! Tell him he has to sleep in his own bed now that he is a big boy. Be persistent and keep putting him back in his bed no matter how many times. Under no circumstances should he be allowed back in your bed - you don't want to give in to him at this point. You may need to sit with him in his bed and rub his back to soothe him so expect that you may be tired for a while until he transitions. If he is really having a hard time then I would suggest a small toddler bed placed next to your bed. That way he's still close to you but in his own bed. You can gradually move the bed further and further away from yours and eventually down the hall to his own room. Good luck.

Tammy Lynn - posted on 05/19/2009

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If you haven't already...buy a really cool bed! That was how we started. My son is now four also. I kept him in our bed because I was a stay-at-home mom and my hubby needed his sleep, and well...with breastfeeding...it was quieter for everyone to just pull him into bed and let him camp out at the milk truck. Unfortunately, that resulted in a child that wouldn't sleep alone for a really long time. We bought him a firetruck bed, and would go in to his room and read books, then watch a movie right before bed (one that induces sleep...not something exciting), Before we knew it...it had gone from sitting and watching with him to talking to him from the hall as he watched the movie, while checking on him every few miuntes or so, to now...he can go straight to bed without guff. We started that transition when he was 2, only took about a month to learn the new routine. Oh, and...keeping him in bed and him not joining you in the middle of the night? Well, I rewarded him with stickers or one piece of M&M the next morning for every night he didn't join us in the bed. Some people would be against tv's in a kid's bedroom, but they didn't have our unique situation and didn't know what I was going thru. The tv is only hooked up to a dvd player...no cable...that way i have to approve the amount of time spent and quality of show watched. Everybody's situation is different...this technique might not work for you...just thought I would share. Also, I Used the JO JO method from Super Nanny! When he would get out of bed in the middle of the night...I would tell him..."No Jonah it's bedtime." Very Nice, Personable by saying his name, and can make eye contact. Then we walked him back to his bed. The second time he got out..."NO, it's bedtime". More firmly but nicely said, without eye contact. The third time he got out of bed that night, we didn't look into his eyes, or say a word...just walked him back to bed. And repeated this several times thru the wailing etc...until; he gave up. The first couple of nights it took about 2 hours for him to get it...then it went down to 45 minutes, and then 15 minutes. etc. This really worked for us, but mostly him. Now? He loves his bed and his space...and trust me...my hubby and I love our space too! Hope it helps...discard what you've tried. -L

Tiffany - posted on 05/19/2009

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Have him involved in picking out his new bed and bedding. Make it seem like something really fun to do!!!

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