How do i get my son to sleep through the nite?
Shirley - posted on 08/14/2009
I would wait till you move, get settled but not too settled......... Sort of like new place new routine. My 18 month old also still has a bottle but it is first thing in the morning and sometimes before her dinner, I am trying to ween her off formula and get her to drink milk ( for some reason she hates milk and cheese) but I have no issues with her still using a bottle for comfort, she will drink water or juice from a sippy cup throughout the day. Come to think of it, she is using the bottle less and less and asking for it less so I guess she is weening herself off the bottle naturally. I would be too concerned if he is still getting a bottle throughout the day, I know some 2 1/2 year olds that still get a bottle when they are at home just before their nap or bedtime, but it is not their main source of fluids. I would concentrate more on the night waking. Unfortunately your boyfriend needs to come to grips with letting your son cry. My husband was also like your boyfriend and wouldn't let his princess cry, but he saw how tired I was and when I got pregnant with our 2nd daughter he knew we had to do something about it ( this would mean he has to get up too whilst i'm looking after new born) When I purchased the book I read him the chapter on night waking and it seemed to sink in. Now when he challenges me on things I just tell him to read the book ha ha ha :)
Good Luck with the move and the settling technique
Amanda - posted on 08/14/2009
Yea ive tried to do that but my boyfreind (the dad) wont let him cry he jumps to him every wakenin gsecond i have told him over and over again taht if we just let him go like you were talking about he will fall asleep and sleep through the nite. i think the only reason he gets up for a bottle is bc he is in a routine and if we brake him from the bottle he will sleep throught the nite! we are in the process of moving 16 hours away so i kinda want to wait until we get settled in so he has a comfort zone! does that make any sence to you should i wait til we are settled or should we start it now!
Shirley - posted on 08/13/2009
My 18 month old also wakes, when I spoke about it to my pediatrician he told me to buy the book Toddler Taming by Chris Green. In the book it talks about strict bed time routines and helping your child self settle when they first go to bed. This is linked to night time waking. Chris Green says that at this age they do not need to eat or drink overnight, it just feeds the habit of night waking and causes tooth decay. You basically let your child cry ( I know it sounds horrible but it works!) When you put your child to bed you tell them that you love them and you are going to leave the room but you will check up on them later, leave a night light on or the hall light and walk out the room. Let them cry for 5 or ten mins what ever you are able to handle, go back in re-settle them and once again give them a hug and kiss then leave the room. You repeat this process as many times as it takes but each time you let them cry 1-2 mins longer than previously. When they wake in the middle of the night you let them cry and do not respond unless they are hysterical, sick or teething. If there is nothing wrong with them you then impliment the above technique. It takes about a week or 2 ( and this time is hell it really plays on your emotions) but if you stick with it it works. Jessica still wakes and calls out for me sometimes crying but after 5 mins she self settles. It is really how much we as parents can tolerate, letting our children cry does not hurt them physically or emotionally ( thats what they tell me)
Good luck, I highly recommend Chris Greens book it is very interesting reading!
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