how do u get ur son to stop saying the f word. i've tapped his mouth and we've told him no. help.lol
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Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010
I am sorry but if he is your son then he heard it from either you-- his parents, a tv show or someone you let him be around. To put a stop to it you have to stop saying the word yourself (if you are) watch him better and be a better influence for him.
He has no idea what the word means or why it is bad and is only mimicking what he has heard elsewhere so why are you spanking him? He does not need to be PUNISHED he needs to be TAUGHT the difference between appropriate and inappropriate language!
Please don't think I'm high and mighty... I was a mechanic before I became a mother... I have invented a few cuss words of my own. But each and every time the f bomb comes out... Either Daddy fusses at me, or I fuss at him. Hopefully we can train each other to stop it. But I do think it's important to let the baby see that not even grownups are allowed to use that word. (or the others)
TealRose - posted on 03/22/2011
So .. because your tiny son, heard a 'bad word' from somewhere and is embarrassing you in public ... you SPANK him, and hit his mouth ??? I sincerely hope he doesn't actually stop talking altogether - because at that age he cannot differentiate between a good word or a bad one, and you hitting him just puts fear into him opening his mouth at all.
And to all those 'mouth soap' advocates out there. Yes it IS a chemical. Yes it is dangerous - it froths and chokes. And yes... children DO die from it. And no ... NO there is NO way it is every right to use what amounts to chemical warfare on a child!
I am 56 and I never hit my children or soaped their mouths and they are now great adults.
Kristen - posted on 06/18/2010
I don't think spanking or tapping his mouth is right. Where did he learn this from? Who on earth is speaking like that or allowed to speak like that around him? My brother dropped the f-bomb in front of my son once and got an earful when he argued with me. For one, STOP using that language around him and secondly, staying calm and not getting worked up when he uses it will help. He may respond better to either time out or ignoring it - you'll just have to see
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Vicki - posted on 12/10/2011
I would be upset if my boy swore AT someone, but if he dropped something and said 'fuck' then I wouldn't be upset at him. I say it myself so it would be double standards. Ok I'm trying to cut back, but really, it's just a word, it's part of our language, he's not stabbing puppies or anything. Use another word yourself, make up a funny sounding one even, maybe he'll pick it up. I also reckon the more attention you give to it, the more he'll do it.
Liz - posted on 06/18/2010
Stop taking him in public.
Tell him frankly "If you're going to say bad words, you dont get to do fun things."
Trips to the store or restaurant are not vital to life.
Children are never too young to have boundaries and consequences, make them and stick to them.
Angela - posted on 06/17/2010
Do you know the source of where he learned it? My son used to say the s word really young cause of family laughing when he'd say it. This encourages him. How do others react around him? The two ways i did was when he said it Id give no response, cause thats usually what they want, even if it is negative. Also if I said a potty word I would slap myself and said bad mommy and send myself to my room and pretend cry . For some reason his respose to me punishing myself was stronger then when I punished him. Also I said if he really needs the urge to say it get it all out at home, not in public. Cause at least at home I can take care of it appropriately. In public you get looks for him cussing and looks if you punish. The looks are usually ones with no parenting experience. Now my son is 4 and any bad word even stupid he comes up to me and says its a potty word. At 2 they are testing you so test back. Goodluck
Lisa - posted on 06/17/2010
Please please don't put soap in your child's mouth. It is a toxic element and will make him very very sick. And it is so unnecessary. Ignore the behavior and it will go away and be sure no one is using the f word around him. But, please, don't resort to poisoning your child as a method of discipline.
Gislaine (Gessie) - posted on 06/16/2010
THIS SOUNDS AWFUL,, ignore totally,,, no reaction cuz now he is getting one or soap in the mouth,,,, I have done it and trust me,,, he will think twice next time,,,, that is nothing compared to what I had as a child,,,,,,,,,,,, he will FIGHT the soap.. my daughter did and that was the end of that,,,, hope I helped,,,, xx
Kawaiiana - posted on 06/16/2010
IGNORE IT. Whenever you spank him or punish him he is getting attention so he keeps saying it. don't feed it and it may be embarassing but over time he will quit. my 2 yr old was in love with the b word. and in the beginning i popped her everytime she said it but just kept on saying it. but once i quit giving it attention she quit.
Dawna - posted on 06/16/2010
Why is everyone judging the mom? He could have heard it in a store or maybe a babysitter. And we all know how truthful babysitters can be now don't we. First, if he is old enough to talk, ask him where he heard it. He keeps saying it because he is getting a respnce from everyone around him. Let him know that handsome boys use nice words. Give him appropriate words to say when he uses it, ex; "My-Oh-My", Oh-Man" or "Say What?" You could also walk away and say to him; "That hurts my ears, I'll come back when you can use nice words". Hope this helps, Please let me know how it goes.
spanking is definitely not the way to go. Just get down to his level and tell him it's not a word he should be using as it is disrespectful. Give 2 warnings and use time out....
Do you think it is an attention seeking behavior? he might be trying to get your attention and dropping F bombs most likely works... Explain to him that if he wants to have your attention he has to ask politely for it and that swearing is not the way to go. let him know that when he swears it makes your time with him less fun and that you are not willing to give him attention if he uses the F word.
When he uses the word to get your attention, ignore him. The behavior might escalate a little as he tries to catch your attention but I am pretty sure the behavior will subside when he sees that swearing does not give him the result he wants.
Briana - posted on 06/15/2010
I cant believe there are people who are really putting nasty tasting things in their toddlers mouths, because of something they picked up from you, your influences, or someone you let them be around. Clearly its their fault, and they deserve to be punished because of your wrong doings. I know this sounds harsh but i could not even imagine doing that to my children. Those are the type of children who will never learn the right way to do things, but just skimper around the wrong ways to avoid punishments. However i do agree with most mom's on here, sometimes you realize you have said it, or someone else has, and its a mistake. You teach them not to use those kind of words, not punish them. I could see MAYBE if it was a 6 year old swearing their mouth off who clearly knew better, but a toddler? Really. Anyways just my 2 cents. I would try to ignore the bag language, as that seems to work with most, and if not move on to time outs. See how that goes. Good luck!
Ashley - posted on 06/14/2010
First, we stopped swearing in front of him the minute he started. I know we should have never done it, and it was rare, but you know how kids are - they pick up on everything. The stopping ourselves was essential. I know they don't always learn it at home - so if you know where they are learning it, you have to ask that person to stop. Second when he did it we didn't scold, we told him very firmly that it wasn't ok to say that and gave him an alternative. He can say "oh my gosh" "oh my goodness" "darn it" or "oh man" and now he does. He completely stopped saying the bad words.
Happie - posted on 06/14/2010
The more u spunk him,,,the more u tellin him to use da word..I mean by dat u givin him dat mind dats der is smething with da word dats y he keeps usin it.he cant fynd anythin wron with usin it.So if u leave hm he is goin to get bored nd sooner or later foget it,,my dota is one picky,sneaky,,nd vry stubon child..she once heard da "B" word in a movie we were watchin bak at hme nd she usjed it,.,imagine at 2 yrs...We didnt yell or spunk her nd it didnt take hre long to foget it..
Tani - posted on 06/14/2010
Do you have any other kids?? What I had to do is when my eldest swore, we COMPLETLY ignored her and paid heaps of attention to my youngest. When my eldest came over to get attention we told her we don't like spending time with children who use yucky naughty words. If she kept going, we put her in a corner or her room and kept up with playing with the other child and made it so she could hear us. We made her apologize then had a talk. Another thing we had to do is if one of us parents slipped up, they got a good 'growling' and sent to the room for 5mins. meanwhile the other parent would go on to the kids how they were naughty and what a bad word etc
Kirsten - posted on 06/14/2010
Ignore him, at that age he's probably just doing it for attention and spanking, etc. is attention just as much as laughter or something positive. If you ignore it and don't say it around him he'll just forget about it and get bored with it.
Lisa - posted on 06/14/2010
I really don't think that putting soap or hot sauce in a child's mouth is EVER a good idea. And spanking is not an effective method of discipline, all the research shows that. In Canada, spanking is illegal and considered child abuse.
Best thing is to stop letting him hear others say it and when he does, to just ignore it. I used to say, "Oh my God," and my son would say it. Then, Daddy changed it to "Oh my Donkey" and he said that for a while but when we stopped, so did he.
Mary - posted on 06/14/2010
Well first of all, are you saying it in the house around him where he can hear it? If you are, then stop doing it. That will make him do it more if he hears you doing it. Also, what programs do you allow him to watch on tv? Are you letting him watch cartoons where they say it? Yes they are even saying it in some cartoons now days. The Simpsons is a really bad cartoon for kids to watch and South Park. Also, what kind of music do you have playing in your house? Do you play rock music where they use this word a lot? If so, that will only encourage him to say it more. Children repeat what they hear in the home. Beings he's only 2 it is really bad for him to be talking like this. When he gets older he will really have a bad mouth. Also, teachers and things in school will hear him and ask where he learned that and he'll say my mommy and that won't look so good for you so I'd say first of all, quit saying it yourself. If you have to say it cause you are really frustrated, then make sure your son is not around to hear it or write it on facebook or on here or in an e-mail to your friend where he can't read it. Those are my suggestions.
Melissa - posted on 06/12/2010
You need to figure out where he's hearing it and try to curb it. Then just ignore it. If he's two, he's learning all sorts of new words, so he doesn't understand why he's getting spanked for saying a new word. Most parents understand....
Lori - posted on 06/12/2010
Hi the best thing to do hun is ignore it. Just say to him oh fudge is a nicer word we can use that word....It's all about positive affirmations. Also directing attention away from what he said and giving him something to do is also good :) Good Luck.
Camia - posted on 06/11/2010
Don't say the word yourself. Children learn by example. I have the same problem with my daughter saying the S word. My mom says it around her and I, myself, also. We have to lead by example and encourage other adults to do the same so they won't learn bad habits.
Geralyn - posted on 06/11/2010
I totally agree with Sarah about teaching rather than disciplining because he doesn't know what he is saying - he is only repeating. Actually he'll keep saying the word just because he gets a reaction. I said "crap" and my son immediately said it after me. I ignored it and said an alternative word making a game out of the new word, and he didn't say "crap" again....
Ashley - posted on 06/10/2010
Well first whoever is using that word around him needs to stop. I get on my bf all the time for cursing around our son. If it's someone else saying it, ask them to please refrain from cursing around your child. Explain to him that it's a bad word and no one should use it. Don't let him get a rise out of you, if so he'll keep doing it to get a reaction.
Maggie - posted on 06/10/2010
first, explain to him that it's a "yucky word" and then if he says it again just ignore him. He does it to get a reaction out of you or his dad so when he doesn't get one then he'll stop. My son did it for about a week but stopped when he got bored.
Kareen - posted on 06/10/2010
my son went through that we just would look at him and tell him that word is not allowed, try and distract him, then we would go about our business and ignore him, he would say it over and over coz he knew he could get a response and when we stopped responding he had to look for another way to get our attention, we would be sure to praise good behaviour. you just have to deal with it calmly so that he does not realise how to push your buttons, thats most likely his goal! good luck
Becky - posted on 06/10/2010
You just have to keeping telling him that that word is a mommy and daddy word and he cannot say it. Put him in a time out EVERYTIME he says it even if you are at a store. Most the time people wont put their kids in a time out at a store or out in public because they are afraid people are going to look at them bad but they are going to look at you worst if you don't do something. When my daughter does something wrong I always put her in a timeout nomatter where we are. Once he knows he will get in a timeout when he says it everytime even if not a home he will stop. If you don't want to do it inside the store walk him into a bathroom and make him serve his time out there. Even if he is in timeout for an entire day of saying it as long as you don't give up he will realize that is in not aloud to say that.
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