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How do u handle a 2 yr old who has lost her mom? When do u explain?

Gina - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Do you keep pics up or put them away? at what age can they comprehend?

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Shannon - posted on 03/23/2010

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That's tough and I'm very sorry for her (and your) loss. I'm not sure what to tell you about how to handle her but I would say to keep her routine as consistant as you can, give her plenty of hugs, love, and attention, and let her know it is ok to be sad and to miss her mommy. I would explain it to her in a very very basic way immediately (or as soon as she asks) maybe tell her the angels needed mommy's help so she had to go away but she loves you very very much and will always be watching over you from heaven....???

As for the pictures I would say keep them up or if its too hard for the rest of the family put them in a special album just for her and keep it handy for her to look at whenever she likes, that way she can always feel like she knows her mom. Maybe even have people that were close to her write down things that made her special, stuff about what she was like, what she liked to do, ect to keep for the little girl to read when she is older because she is going to have questions about whether she is like her mom and what her mom was like.

I think that children understand alot more than people give them credit for. She is bound to pick up on the emotions of those around her and know something is wrong. In a very basic way she is capable of comprehending it now but not like an older child or adult would she just knows mommy isn't around and everyone is sad. I think it is better to be open but simple about it than to try to ignore it.

I don't know that I have been any help but I wish you all the best!

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