How do you discipline a two year old? Time outs, little hand slaps (when a danger issue) and scolding don't seem to work.

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Marlana - posted on 06/05/2009

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I've tried the hand taps, a few times, that actually help becuase now I dont have to do that anymore,which I'm glad about I hated doing it. So now, I just demonstrate the hand taps as a threat, then she will stop what she is doing. I also will take one of her favorite movies, and that straightens her up right away!

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Elizabeth - posted on 08/22/2010

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My daughter just turned 2 on the 18th. We also have a 10 month old. My two year old slaps, hits, and takes away toys from my youngest. She doesnt get offended when she gives my youngest the toys, but when she takes them on her own to play with. I have tried time outs (2 mins, to go along with her age....2=2mins.) Anyways this is not working. I dont know where else to go. If there is any advise that would be very helpful. Thank you.

Lyndsay - posted on 06/05/2009

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I would say that redirection is the best thing. Show him something else, like a toy of his to play with and send him on his way. Of course this doesn't always work (I know!) so sometimes I put my son in the corner on time-out. But he HATES this, and struggles, so I have to sit in the corner with him usually while he screams his head off. After like 2-3 minutes I'll tell him why he was in trouble and tell him to put his listening ears on, and he usually is a golden angel for awhile following that.

Jessica - posted on 06/05/2009

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When nothing else works like time outs I start taking toys away from my 3 year old and i had to start doing that when he was about 2.5 years old

Tiffany - posted on 06/05/2009

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If it is a serious NO, I pop his butt or leg to get his attention. If it is not a serious thing, i ignore him. he learns that if i dont react he get bored and moves on to the next thing. Or i put what ever "it" is out of sight/reach if possible. His big thing is the trash can, and that is a big no. same with the toilet water. everything else I just try to keep up high or doors shut! I laugh at time out, my 16 month old would never sit for a min in time out, but that is now. I am sure as he gets older, he will get in it!

Lucie - posted on 06/05/2009

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Hmmm, I'm not sure. I thought smacking children wasn't a good way to get the point across because my son started to learn that when I was annoyed with him I would do it. But he reversed it. He was taught by me doing this, that he was then allowed to hit me and others if HE was annoyed. I wouldn't really recommend it.

Kara - posted on 06/05/2009

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Hi Melissa! I have a 3 yr old girl, and she's extremely stubborn. I know a lot of moms will disagree, but try spankings. Even a very light spanking on the bottom will get the point across. I tried time-outs and taking things and nothing got my point across, but if I grab her up and swat her butt, then I send her to her room til she's done crying about it - she comes back out of her room acting like a saint. I highly suggest it. (Mind you, just a light spanking will do the trick. It doesn't hurt them, but it hurts their feelings enough to get the point across).

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Quoting kerry:

hi melissa my name's kerry I also have a 2 yr old and if after i tried everything you mentioned i put her in her room and close the door which always works as she doesn't like it. good luck.


i usally do the same thing if everything else fails i have a 2 year old boy and a 3 1/2 year old boy so it usally works for both of them usally they are just really tired

Kayesha - posted on 06/05/2009

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Also make sure she explain what she did was wrong and y was it wrong and if she dont know u explain it to her, good luck!!! :~)

Kayesha - posted on 06/05/2009

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Take away things that she plays with and see how that works I have a son and when I do that he gets mad but then he behaves because he wants it back. But dont give it right back to her she have to deserve it first, if she throws a tantrum tell her to lay down and take a nap, that should get her.

Lucie - posted on 06/05/2009

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I guess it all depends on techniques really. I have a two year old myself and know that there are ups and downs in what they decide to do at that time. My son was a monster last week and did everything that he knew was wrong to try to push the boundaries.



All I do is give him him warnings. Three strikes and you're out sort of thing. There are exceptions ie, if he hits someone, goes straight to the naughty step. I think they are supposed to stay there a minute for each of their years. Two minutes for a two year old...give or take a minute depending on what they have done.



First warning: Tell them not to do it and give reason as to why.

Second warning: Same as above, but tell them they will result in being put on the naughty step/into time out for their actions.

Third time: Place the child into time out, go down to their level and explain why they have been put there and tell them that they must complete their time there.



Leave them alone in time out (should be somewhere neutral with no toys etc) where they can't see you and do not talk to them until their time is complete. If they leave the spot before time is up, place them back, no matter how many times this may take. But do not talk to them as they can often see this as a way of negotiating.



When their time is complete, you should then ask for an apology. If an apology is made, give them a big hug and then move on to a positive activity with them.



If no apology is made, then you should sit them down again, but stay with them. Do not talk or look at your child. After a minute ask for an apology. Repeat this process until you have achieve what was asked for.



In a danger situation, make sure that you have brought them out of that situation and explain why you asked them to stop what they were doing. ie, if a child goes to touch a hot oven, bring them away from this, again down to their level to talk to them eye to eye and explain why you were not happy with this.



I hope this helps you hun. It has proved to be very successful with myself and my friends. :) xx

Kerry - posted on 06/05/2009

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hi melissa my name's kerry I also have a 2 yr old and if after i tried everything you mentioned i put her in her room and close the door which always works as she doesn't like it. good luck.

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