Cynthia - posted on 05/13/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
My daughter's father and I haven't had the best relationship. We've been together 3 years and things haven't always been easy. My pregnancy was horrible because his family & I don't get along. After our daughter was born things were a little better until he started drinking more heavily. Then the arguing started! When I went back to work it only got worse because he had to take responsibility of the baby 2 nights a week so I could go to the gym. We're both 25 so we're still young enough that we're jealous and we both have some trust issues. We'd always talked about marriage, but neither have agreed at the same time that the timing was right. We were trying for our daughter! 8 months ago he walked out on us. After the anger subsided we functioned as a somewhat normal family...it's important to me that we look past our issues and focus on our daughter. Her father continually falls into trouble...car accidents, fights, harassing phone calls to us when he misses visitation...it's gotten a little ridiculous. His latest issue with the phone calls has put us in a place where we are having no contact until we go to court. We are 3 months pregnant again and had agreed to start working on things so that we can keep our family together. He is a good man, a good man with some issues to work out. We love each other and aren't ready to give up on our family, but my family is hounding me to walk away. I'm just not ready to give up on him, but I also don't want to be putting our children in jeopardy of being raised by unhappy parents. I know he loves us. I know that in a perfect world we want our family together. I'm just not sure when I should say enough is enough!