How do you punish your toddler for hitting?
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Cassidy - posted on 07/29/2010
My 2 year old likes to hit others when he wants something or is mad. I tell the child that he hit to tell him they don't like that. I then talk to my son. I tell him that he needs to use his words and not his hands. If he stills has an issue I put him in time out. I will say that I think he mainly does this b/c he has 2 older brothers that do it to each other but they are normally playing around with each other. With the older ones nothing seems to work to get them to stop. They are 7 and 8. I have all boys.
Kristen - posted on 07/28/2010
Its definitely hard. My son does the same thing. I normally give a firm no and tell him he needs to use his words. But when he's just throwing a tantrum over something ridiculous and continues to slap or try to slap me sometimes I give a light slap back on him where he slapped me and it seems to snap him out of it
Diana - posted on 07/28/2010
I find that if they can't get your attention or are frustrated because they can't "say" what they want, they act out. You have to remember that they are learning what's right and wrong and forget sometimes or get caught up in emotion. I tell my son when he starts to hit that we don't hit, hold his hand and I always ask him, would you like to be hit. . He always shakes his head no, I then tell him to apologize and he will hug and give a kiss. I also tell him that it makes Mommy sad or Mommy cry when he hits her in sign (we have found sign language helps him communicate his needs). We repeat this a lot but you have to remember they have short memories and need repetition. I don't think at this age there is a need for punishment but a need for guidance. You have to let him know it's not funny and act has if you are hurt.
Also, if you are hitting him, even a pat on the behind, for hitting and telling him not to do it, that's confusing to a child.
I think it's a phase with kids this age and it will pass once he learns.
Catina - posted on 07/28/2010
I know how you feel. What I've done is stop doing and saying things to Cadara what I wouldn't want her to do or say to me. I did correct this behavior bey simply talking to her in a firm voice making good eye contact, and I kept at it I have even had to hold her hands together as I spoke to her. I believe I can't do something to my toddler and then try to teach her not to do those things, they don't understand. If I swear she will more than likely swear so I don't swear anymore, when I hit she hit so I don't hit anymore she doesn't either. That's just me though, gotta find something that works for each kid! Good luck