How to break the pacifier habit

Caryn - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 44 moms have responded )

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My 27 month old son still uses a pacifier when he goes to bed...night or nap. He flips out if he can't have it. He's fine to give it up when he gets out of bed, but how to get him out of the habit over all? I'm starting to noice the "binky bite" w/ his teeth. Need to get him to give it up on his own. Soon. :) Suggestions???

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Christie - posted on 10/02/2009

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I had to get rid of my daughters when she was 3 months old... she was finally sleeping through the night, but would wake up everytime she lost it! Mommy needed sleep! We got rid of them cold turkey... two rough nights and she was over it!

Nicole - posted on 10/02/2009

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We had the pacifier family come and take it away during nap time...she left a new toy in its place

Rebecca - posted on 10/01/2009

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cut the nipple part off and when he tries to use it and relizes he cant then he will get ticked off and just stop using them .

Susan - posted on 10/01/2009

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Just take it. It will harder for you to hear him cry but don't give in. We took our son's pacy last summer when we went to the beach. Told him a fish got it. He hasn't asked about it since. Someone suggested doing it on vacation because there so many things to distract them. It worked!

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Amber - posted on 04/12/2013

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My son held on to his binky like it was a lifeline! We actually started out by only giving it to him during naps and when he was real fussy, but as time went on, he seemed to want it more (it went from a suckle need, to a want). My mom found the bye bye binky method ( www.bye-bye-binky.com ), printed it and suggested that we go with it. At first I was a bit mad at my mom, but I soon got over it. The method worked amazingly well. My son stopped sucking on it after 4 days! He proceeded to carry it around for another week, but never put it in his mouth. He then got tired of carrying it and simply lost interest. Mom was right, it worked, highly recommended!

Kari - posted on 10/03/2009

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When our friends had their baby we told our daughter that she needed to pass on her pacifier to the baby because she was a big girl and didn't need it anymore. She was happy to do it but the following 2wks were a little rough but not horrible. Just come up with a good story and talk about it a lot before you take it away.

Jaime - posted on 10/03/2009

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let me know if you figure it out.... my daughter is the same age and will not give it up. :(

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Lie out all the teets and dummies in front of your toddler, give him a pair of scissors, let him cut it up in pieces, take photo's, make him take a few photo's of the end poduct. Everytime he cries for one, you show him the photo's and tell him, he's a big boy, that's baby stuff. You could even throw him a party when cutting it, buy him a cake with canddles to celebrate his independence day.

Michelle - posted on 10/02/2009

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A friend of mine got her kid off of it by slowly trimming the tip of it and telling your kid that they r just using it to much and its wearing out.

Kimberly - posted on 10/02/2009

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With my daughter I bought her a new toy, a tinkerbell doll, (she was 2 months shy of turning 3) and told her she had to choose between the pacifier and the toy and she picked the toy. It's in bed with her, and she tried to trade back but I said it was gone already.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/02/2009

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I saw this on the tv show with the lady that comes to your house and helps family with schedules, behavior problems and such. It worked wonderfully for us!! I bought a big envelope decorated it, to make it a "special" envelope, then one afternoon we, my daughter and I, gathered up all of the pacifiers around the house and SHE put them in the envelope to give to the pacifier fairy. I then walked her out to the mailbox and we put the envelope with the pacifiers in it into the mailbox. I explained how the pacifier fairy was going to come and take her pacifiers to give to a baby that needed them and then the pacifier fairy would leave her a "special" present for being such a BIG girl for giving her pacifers to the pacifier fairy. I will admit the first night was a little tough but we kept reminded her that she was going to get a special surprise from the pacifier fairy for giving them away to a baby that needed them and she seemed okay with this. The very next morning we walked her to the mailbox where and let her open it and she had a surprise! The night before, my husband removed the envelope and threw away all of the pacifers and left her oreo's in the special envelope and put it back in the mailbox. She was thrilled! and after that when she would ask for a pacifier, we would remind her of the pacifer fairy and her surprise she had received. This really worked well for us but the absolute key to getting rid of a pacifier is YOU have to throw them ALL away because if you know you have one even if its hidden from your child, more than likely you will cave and give into giving it back. Good Luck and I hope this was helpful!

Amanda - posted on 10/01/2009

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Easiest thing to do is just find them all and throw them away. do it on a night when u don't have to work the next day. it will be asked for but don't give in... Be strong. Its hard but u need to do it. Best thing i ever did.

Jodie - posted on 10/01/2009

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Quoting Bobbi Jo:

With my daughter I just threw them all away and told her someone stole them. Just the first 2 nights were rough but then it was over. just make sure you find them all and throw them out or he'll find one and start using it again.



YES!!! Im with you on that one Bobbi Jo.. Thats what i did with my little girl and my other 2 kids when they were little... with my other 2 kids it was 2 to 3 days before they were use to not having it but with my last it was 1 night.. she did ask for it and i just said your a big girl now and not need it...  good luck....

Winnie - posted on 10/01/2009

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You can try putting something he doesn't like on his pacifier. With my son i put lemon juice on all his pacifiers everytime he wanted it. The fisrt 2 days he asked for it but after that i threw all his pacifier's away because he stoped asking for it.

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my little girl wouldn't even want to give hers up during the day. The only thing that worked was cutting the tip of the paci off. she took it, put it in her mouth, spit it out & got mad at it & threw it down. she never wanted it after a few times of putting it in her mouth. my mother did the same for me. goodluck!

Jenn - posted on 10/01/2009

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my son had his binky until he was 2 1/2. i worked 2nd and my husband worked 1st shift, i couldn't figure out why i couldn't break him of his binky, until 6 months later my husband forgot to remove the binky from his bed! now looking back, no wonder it never got any easier! greg was giving aiden his binky while i was at work, and aiden was going through withdrawl while i had him! any ways how i broke aiden of the binky was, i cut a hole in the binky with scissors. its so funny, aiden kept saying "broken!' after 2 days with the broken binkys, i did it to all of them, he ended up throwing them away b/c they were broken. aiden was mad at the binky and not me! good luck!

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With my older two it was easy. We threw them away. With my little man though, we have decided to let him give them up on his own. Alot has changed in his short little life and it is a comfort to him. We have moved twice since he was born, he has had to switch daycare providers, and now Daddy is in Afghanistan. So I figure when he is comfortable with his world he will give them up.

Michelle - posted on 09/30/2009

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my first son had 1 and he gave it up by himself at 15mths he had ear problems had grommits put in at 15 mths,the end of his pacifier was bittin off so i kept givin it 2 him when he went off 4 his sleeps he said a new 1 its broken i said there was no mre so he was fine with that each day 4 a week i gave it 2 him and he had same reply so at end of the week he put it in the rubbish bin and said bye bye,i also watched the nanny show and she got the child 2 put it in an envlope and told the child that the pacifier fairy needed it 4 another baby and in return she left a toy 2 replace it that also worked 4 her

Shereen - posted on 09/30/2009

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just cut a small hole on the tip of the pacifier.. he will soon stop

Angie - posted on 09/30/2009

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One night when my son was with his granni I went through the house and found them all and hid them. The first couple of nights was really rough but we made it through fine. I would suggest trowing them away because my husband would sneak them to the baby to quiet him down. It is tough but stick through it and you will survive I promise.

Donna - posted on 09/30/2009

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I had my son leave his for the Easter Bunny in return for a beautiful basket. He also gave his sippy cup to Santa Claus with cookies on Christmas Eve. A few days of some tears afterward but well worth it.

Udine - posted on 09/30/2009

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My Son was almost 3 before we got him to get rid of his dummies. He wanted a bulldozer toy very badly, so I told him that there's this little gnome that lives far away and he collects dummies in exchange for a gift. I asked him if he would like to swop his dummy for a bulldozer and he said yes. I told him that I will phone the gnome and tell him to come pick up his dummy in exchange for bulldozer. I repeatedly asked him whehter he is sure that this is what he wanted to do and reminded him that once he's given it away, he can never get it back. He still wanted to do the swop. So the next day, I got him a bulldozer from shop(without him knowing of course), told him that afternoon to put his dummy in a packet and leave it at the front door for the gnome who will come and pick it up. Little while later I relaced the dummy packet with the bulldozer and called him to show him what the gnome had left for him. He was ecstatic. That night for bedtime of course he wanted his dummy and we just told him that he gave it away himself and that was that. I think the fact that he made the decision and that he gave it away himself made a big difference -it didnt just go missing. But I do believe they need to be ready to let go and all children will be off of all these comfort things before they go to school. No use to put pressure on them, they are really still small.

Arwen - posted on 09/29/2009

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I agree with just getting rid of them. Wait till they aren't looking, and toss them. It'll be rough for a day or two, but he'll quickly get over it. ;)

Meridith - posted on 09/29/2009

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A suggestion that was given to me, but I never needed because my sons never used a pacifier, was to, when the child is in good spirits, have the child put the pacifier in the garbage. All of them! Then, take the garbage out. It will be difficult for up to a week but the child will "get it". An alterier plan is to do the previously stated then replace it with a sleeping special blanket. Something he can hold on to when he no longer was the pacifier. That new blanket stays in the bed and is only used then. Give it a try but remember, this might take up to a week for your son to adjust to.



Hope this helps you.

Deana - posted on 09/29/2009

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My daughter goes to daycare and she "gave them to the babies". It worked like a charmed. she asked for them 2 or so times but nothing too bad. I told her the babies needed them more than she did. if that isn't an option my next option was going to be give it to Santa for the babies. Hope this helps

Kendra - posted on 09/29/2009

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my son used them until he was 3, he just couldnt handle not having it. so i gave him a pair of kids scissors and let him cut the nipple end off the plastic, i let him keep the plastic part, but threw away the nipple just so that he could see that they really were broken and it was him who made the decision to do it.

he thought it was good fun and we didnt run into a problem until that night, and i told him that HE cut them up and he couldnt use them anymore because they were broken now. the second day/night he wanted it but after that day there were no problems at all

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I think it depends on how likely he is to suck his thumb. My son is 2.5 years old and he still uses his pacifier at naps/night. However, he will occasionally start sucking on this thumb or fingers, a habit that I REALLY don't want him to pick up, so I'm resigned to pacifier use for a long time. At least the pacifier is safer for his teeth, and he won't be embarrassed when he's school age (e.g. accidently sucking this thumb during class, which could happen, versus sucking the pacifier, which won't happen in public). For what it's worth, kids do give it up eventually; my nephew LOVED his pacifier, right up to kindergarten age, and he did get rid of it around that time. So, there's hope! :)

Crystal - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Bobbi Jo:

With my daughter I just threw them all away and told her someone stole them. Just the first 2 nights were rough but then it was over. just make sure you find them all and throw them out or he'll find one and start using it again.



 



I did this w/ my 2 year old & after the first couple of nights, she was fine. 





 

Candace - posted on 09/29/2009

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I need help on this one too. My sister told me to start cutting the tip off little by little till the binkies all gone. I haven't tried this yet. Somehow, I see my son hurling it at me.

Jodi - posted on 09/29/2009

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I highly recommend having a story or something to go with it. Gather all his pacifiers and tell him all the other babies need them, have a little ceremony for them (have him help put them in a baggy or something) when he goes to bed without it hide them forever! This worked fantastic for my daughter and when she asked I would say....the other babies needed them, and that was that. Just make sure you have them all - nothings worse then them finding one!! good luck!

Erika - posted on 09/29/2009

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Hi my name is Erika and I have a little girl who is 2 years and 2 months. She started to bite her pecifier and I had to buy every week one and then one day I told her the pacifier is broken and she had to through it away. I made her through the pacifier in the bin and since then she was ok with it. She has been off the pacifier for 1 week now and she still askes for the pacifier but then I tell her it was broken and she threw it away

Sherry - posted on 09/29/2009

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Caryn, I just went thru this a yr or so ago. What we did was: I bought 8 colorful balloons, tied the pacifiers to them (the extras I saved or trashed), then we told her we were sending them to the babies! We then got her a "big girl" bike & told her it was because she let her pacci's go & she is offcially a big girl. It worked!! She asked a few times later & we would just point to her bike & call her a big girl. Goodluck!

Monica - posted on 09/28/2009

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First you have to encourage him that he is a big boy through out the day. Be happy and tell him when he does stuff, that is a big boy yeah. Not to sound stupid but to let him see that being a big boy is cool stuff then after doing that for a few days maybe even a week or when he is picking up on him saying he is a big boy. I did this with my sister's kids and it work and I was shocked. I just told them that the binky fairy was comming by while all the kids were asleep and getting binkies for babies who needed a binky. I got a little clothe bag and asked them to put their binkies in it so the binky fairy could pick them up. And then told them they had to go to sleep before the binky fairy could come by to get them. And if they did this then they would have a surprise from the binky fairy in the morning for giving up their binkies. Hey I figured it works for Santa why not the Binky Fairy. And just explain to them that if they gave up the binky they would not have the binky for naps or bedtimes but they didn't need them anyways cause they were big boys and girls they don't need binky and sure enough they gave up the binky. And I went to the Dollar Tree and bought each of them a coloring book and crayons. That was what they were into to. And they were happy to see that the binky fairy came and really left them something for their binkies. It worked, And no trama either. See if that works Kids love to help and to get gifts at the same time wow I am a big kid. They just love it. After that I told myself that I wasn't putting my kids on the binky. I tried but they wouldn't take it. I hope that was helpful and I will pray that it works for you.

Jiliene - posted on 09/28/2009

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We left ours on the fence for the baby birds to come and get, not a peep from my older. Now to do it with the younger...thought about the Santa idea, but was worried it would tarnish poor Santa.

Kristine - posted on 09/28/2009

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Does your little one understand what "broken" is? This idea was used early on at our house when a toy wouldn't work or even if a store wasn't open. A simple term for we can't do that or have that or use that.
With both my kids their pacifiers just happened to be "broken" one morning.
What I did was cut just the end off of the rubber tip. So there was a hole at the end. Prevents them from being able to suck and makes it uncomfortable in their mouth.
Each (1 boy, 1 girl) of them carried it around for about 2 or 3 days, told everyone they saw (even the grocery clerk) that it was broken, got a lot of sympathy and a lot of people saying " wow you must be big now" and eventually just left it and didn't bother with it again.
Good luck to you,
~K

Mia - posted on 09/27/2009

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When he gets into trouble cut off the nipple of the paci and eventually he will run out and just explain to him you will not be buying anymore.

Rachelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Caryn:

How to break the pacifier habit

My 27 month old son still uses a pacifier when he goes to bed...night or nap. He flips out if he can't have it. He's fine to give it up when he gets out of bed, but how to get him out of the habit over all? I'm starting to noice the "binky bite" w/ his teeth. Need to get him to give it up on his own. Soon. :) Suggestions???


My son is 2 and he still has the dummy also we have been telling him he has to give it to santa at christmas.It worked with my daughter so will try this again.good luck..

Laura - posted on 09/27/2009

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My DD is 2 and she LOVES her pacy-- we finally took it away a few months ago she flipped out the first 2 days it was bad like she was making herself sick cause she cried non stop then she was fine would go asleep and all... then she found one under the couch one day OH it was bad so here we are today wondering when we are going to give it another try to take it away from her lol. So I say just take it away and prepare for a few days of sheer you know what

Amber - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Amy:

My daughter is 3 and we too are having a difficult time with this. Since she turned 2 we began using the "You can only have it for nap/bedtimes" she seems to do really well with this. Try that. You can always try the "nanny 911" "PACI FAIRY" send them all off in an envelope to the "paci fairy" and the next day have glitter etc all around the mailbox etc and a letter to your child thanking them for sending all the paci's to the babies. An idea my friend used was to gradually snip off the end of the pacifier until there was none left and she said that worked great for her boys. unfortunately, in our situation she is really not ready to ween from hers during nap/bedtime, so the next step will be approaching us soon. Good luck! Amy



I have seen the Paci Fairy trick used on tv it appears to be a pretty successful method

Amy - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter is 3 and we too are having a difficult time with this. Since she turned 2 we began using the "You can only have it for nap/bedtimes" she seems to do really well with this. Try that. You can always try the "nanny 911" "PACI FAIRY" send them all off in an envelope to the "paci fairy" and the next day have glitter etc all around the mailbox etc and a letter to your child thanking them for sending all the paci's to the babies. An idea my friend used was to gradually snip off the end of the pacifier until there was none left and she said that worked great for her boys. unfortunately, in our situation she is really not ready to ween from hers during nap/bedtime, so the next step will be approaching us soon. Good luck! Amy

Stephanie - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Bobbi Jo:

With my daughter I just threw them all away and told her someone stole them. Just the first 2 nights were rough but then it was over. just make sure you find them all and throw them out or he'll find one and start using it again.


I agree it does work.





 

Bobbi Jo - posted on 09/27/2009

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With my daughter I just threw them all away and told her someone stole them. Just the first 2 nights were rough but then it was over. just make sure you find them all and throw them out or he'll find one and start using it again.

Laura - posted on 09/27/2009

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i wouid take it off him at xmas tell time sanda whats it so he can give him some new like toys or something lol hope this helps as thats what im doing this years as my little boys just turnd 2

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