How to deal with Stress and what to do?

Natasha - posted on 07/23/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son has to have a second surgery on Aug 14. I am soo stressed right now from a huge family problem that won't get solved or taken care of. I can barely take care of myself because I am an emotional wreck...I'm trying my best but I can't think of ways to deal with my stress and the added stress of a hazardous surgery for my son... Please help...

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Jennifer - posted on 07/25/2009

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Okay so I just week to the Dr. this week because I was shaking alot and he told me it was from stress so I know what you are feeling. It's so hard to be positvie and think about all the stuff you could do to relieve your stress but, if your anything like me there is no time for a spa day or message. The dr. told me to do breathing exercises and take a brisk walk to relax. I take the time when my daughter is asleep to relax and watch tv or whatever. Forget about all the stuff that has to be done..who cares about the house for an hour or so it will still be there when you feel better. I also have my 5 year old go play in her room or watch cartoons at this time so it will be quite, It helps!!

Tiffany - posted on 07/24/2009

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is there life with out stress? Girl when you figure it out, you let me know!!! There is no quick fix, the surgery on the 14th what is it for? Life or death??, a correction??? as for the family problem, there is always gonna be family problems... let it go, or just tell everyone get off you until the surgery is over. ONE THING AT A TIME!! I only make it day to day by the creedo: That which does not kill me, will only make me stronger"

I should be competing for Mrs. Universe right about now, but hey! Life goes on, the sun will set, and you will always have taxes to pay...

Dalia - posted on 07/23/2009

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Stress is a feeling most clearly being felt in the body. So start with that: breath deeply and slowly, get a hot shower or bath, get a massage or Yoga class. Once you are there, pay attention to your feelings and thoughts: what are the thoughts that keep bringing those feelings? What do you name the feelings you have? And: how can you change them? You worry about your son's upcoming surgery, how can you shift it to hope and expecting the best? Your family problem lay heavy on your shoulder - but if there is nothing you can do about it - just let it be. If you believe in God - believe that God will take care of the problem. If you do not - try to focus how to accept the problem, since it would not go away.
Just an outline of strategies. Most importantly: find someone you trust to talk to. Here is a good place to start, but I believe a real friend is better!

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Brittany has some real great pointers for you! Journaling definitely helps sort my thoughts! As does talking with family, don't hold it all in!!! Exercise is also real helpful to destress, go jog some laps around the HS track, neighborhood, or just walk and think... It gives you alone time, time to clear the cob webs & adrenaline! Since details were left out on the fam. prob. If you can avoid hurtful people I would! If you know it won't get resolved then let it go. If nothing can be done learn to live with it and move on. I will pray for you, your family & your son with his surgery!!! Good luck!

Miangelbug - posted on 07/23/2009

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First, you need to step back from the situation and take a breather. Second, take a break from family for an hour or so to sort through your feelings. Get rid of pride and ask family and friends for help ("I'm really stressing lately, could you just come over and let me vent to you about stuff? Maybe help me around the house a little so I don't have to worry about that so much.") I some times take a reall HOT bath, as hot as I can handle, and just cry or steam out the stress (literally). Third, vent your feelings on paper listing the problems or stuggles with the possible solutions or goals. If you are a Christian, give it to the Lord and leave it with Him. He will lighten your load of stress! Final tip, do an activity to get your mind off your stress - examples: have a friend help with a project you've been meaning to do (it will make you feel better once completed) or watch a comedy show/movie (I love most the blue collar comedy stuff). Hope this helps.

Diana - posted on 07/23/2009

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The best thing to do is to get yourself a break. Pick a set time that is best for you. Once a week, once every two weeks, once a month, whatever works. Go to the spa, get a massage, get your nails done, or if money is a problem sit at home in a bubble bath with a book. No baby, no phone, no spouse, no one. You need some you time to de-stress and calm yourself. If you don't have a family member or friend who can take the baby, hire someone. Your worth it!

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