How to potty train an 18 month old boy?

Brittany - posted on 01/26/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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He knows what "the potty" is but just wont go potty... Any tips for potty training an 18 month old boy?

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Winter - posted on 05/27/2011

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My son is about to be 18 months in two weeks and I am starting potty training tomorrow! I don't feel like he is too young to start. I have a friend that successfully potty trained her daughter at 8 months! So I feel like I am starting very late. My son has always been ahead of the game. He can even use a real cup now to drink talks in senteces and asks questions and even say thank you! He is very smart. I will admit I have always pushed him to do things but that is my purpose of being a parent. I think it is bull crap to just say oh my child will do it when he or she is ready that is just be lazy as a parent. Your job is to teach your children and push for there success which in the end will make them feel so good about themselves and have high self-esteem.

Stephanie - posted on 01/27/2010

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My son is 14 months and almost fully potty trained, what i did was when he was in the bath and started to pee i would take him out and stand him in front of the toilet. He thinks flushing is the funniest thing. Another thing I did was sit in the bathroom with him and some toys and while we were playing if he started to pee or poop i would stand him in front of, or sit him on the toilet. I didnt buy any crap that says "potty training made easy" or anything like that and he's doing very well with it, he's starting to do the potty dance and we go straight to the bathroom. Good luck to ya in potty training your 18 month old boy!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/17/2011

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Then he doesnt understand the concept yet. I know what a nuclear reactor is but I don't know how it specifically makes electricity lol It might as well be just as complicated.

Watch for a few other signs that may show he is ready:
-he is dry for several hours at a time
-he shows interest in the potty and desire to use it
-knows when he is peeing or pooping and can tell you
-he can follow simple instructions

If he shows more then a couple he might be ready ..if not you can start preparing him by doing the following:

-talk about it..big girls and boys use the potty just like mom and dad
-let him see that you and dad use the potty and have one available for him to use while you use yours
-talk about how exciting it is to have new big boy undies

Your pediatrician will tell you that the average age of a potty trained child is 4 1/2. Which I feel is a very long time but don't stress it will happen when he is ready. The more you push ..the more he will resist.

Monica - posted on 01/26/2010

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at 18 months you should introduce potty training. Don't have to push, just make it fun! that IS being an 18 month old, lol. At 2 1/2 to start?? they're not babies anymore, that's for sure!

Cynthia - posted on 09/09/2011

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When you are looking at toilet training boys, you need to look at a couple of things, is the child emotionaly ready, and is the child physically read and is the child intellectually ready.
first physically if your child is at the top of the growth chart ie because one or both parents are tall expect your child to be delayed in physical readiness they may be working towards complete toilet training around 3 but still be very sloppy in number one and two, its important to get dad involved.
If you as parents are on the shorter side 5'5 and under you can probably expect toilet training to occur a little earlier that three but not in general before the age of two and if they do manage to be bladder trained by two you can expect slide backs every time your child has a growth spurt, either during the day or at night, as new nerve growth, and tissue growth catch up to training.
To help with bed wetters over the age of 3 you can at home have your sons and or daughters learn to hold their bladder a little bit longer up to 15 minutes ones or twice a day to help stretch the bladders capacity, becareful though don't ask the impossible, If your child has a twitchy bladder and drinks apple juice or anything to do with apples try taking them out of their diet for a few days and see if this helps with bladder control, for some reason in some families apples have this effect (ALL of my five children were affected by apple juice )eliminating it enabled them to be dry at night and they were less likely to wet there pants during the day. I substituted water, milk, and other juices, so they weren't getting dehydrated.
As others have said, been pragmatic when your child has an accident, teach them how to clean up after themselves, be calm, theirs no need to punish them, they are as embarassed and as frustrated as you are, working together, agreeing on private signals to each other when to go if they are deeply involved in something and you are seeing the twitching the leg crossing, so they can take themselves off to the toilet.

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Tina - posted on 01/17/2012

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Naked time would be just about the only thing that may encourage him to go. Be prepared to have your carpet pood and peed on! I had delusional grandeurs that I'd get my now 3.5 yr old trained by age 2 and she didn't have it. She magically trained herself last summer (the day after she turned 3) when I asked her to please not pee on the neighbors lawn but to interrupt her pool playtime and come put on a diaper or use the potty...by nightfall she had gone #2 and stayed dry...we had 2 accidents since - both near misses...

Tracyld - posted on 09/17/2011

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He's still young. I told mine he couldn't go to preschool until he learned to use the potty, and one day he just marched up to the toilet, did his business and said "can I go to preschool now"?

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He will do it when he is ready, Don't put any pressure on him. I think its too early to be potty training an 18 month old boy.Just keep the potty out, but don't push him into it. Kids progress differently, all kids do things in their own time I think, sometime we are too impatient.

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2011

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my son is 17 months and i dont feel in any way that he is ready for potty training. I am going to introduce it soon, but i dont expect him to use it till atleast 2. I know how you feel being pregnant and wanting to get him out of diapers because my daughter was 2 when i got pregnant with my son. But i have seen it be alot easier to train girls then boys. You might have the same luck i did, but like everyone else said, dont push him. With my daughter she loved starburst. so everytime she went on the potty she got a piece. Only untill i knew she knew what the concept was then i started the whole dont pee in girl underwear. If you buy undies with their favorite characters on them, i find it a big help. My daughters favorite was dora.. so i would say dont pee on dora she dont like getting wet! That helped alot!!! GOOD LUCK potty training your 18 month old boy!!!

JOY - posted on 01/28/2010

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It's way easier to just wait until he's ready. Once the child decides that they want to potty train it only takes a few days. I potty trained my oldest daughter too early and had to bribe her and argue with her for months. My younger daughter pretty much potty trained herself because she decided it's what she wanted to do. I think that most kids go through a stage before they are 2 where the recognize that they need to go potty, but they are too young to really be ready to commit to potty training. Good luck to you!

Akia - posted on 01/27/2010

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when you get a good answer to that one send it to me ...........LOL i'm trying to figure that one out with my 23 month old

Erin - posted on 01/26/2010

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Be careful with that too. Children often regress when a new baby arrives in the house. They see you spending time with them and that includes changing diapers so they stop using the potty because of that. I understand about double diaper duty as my boys are 20 months apart. Also, my eldest son's first doctor told us that boys have 3 muscles they need to be able to control in order to potty train whereas girls have only 2. That is why boys take longer on average. My husband and I tried to train our eldest at 2 years of age, but he didn't have the control yet. Elias will be 2.5 at the end of February. He's almost potty-trained now and we started right after the new year. His grandma told me that my husband wasn't trained until 2.5 years and I have to assume that muscle control is part of that. My best suggestion for potty training your 18 month old boy is to limit fluid intake to meals and snacks and place your son on the potty every hour for a while. Even if you are taking him there and he's not doing it independently, you will have fewer changes. Good luck.

Brittany - posted on 01/26/2010

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I just want him to be outta the diapers by the time he's 2 cuz I'm due with our second child the week of his second birthday...it would just be amazing not doing double diaper duty...

Sabrina - posted on 01/26/2010

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oh my dear, my son was also potty trained at 2 & that IS early, his pediatrician was very surprised! Your child is the acception not the rule! Pull up sizes start at 2-3yr, don't you think there might be a reason thats the smallest size. Good for you that you where able to do that with your son but most children are not ready that young & that's why HER son (the woman having the troubles not you, the woman that already had her success) should not be pushed! They will do train on their watch, not yours!



And I'm not saying it shouldnt be introduced at 18 months, my son got his first potty at 12 months, but just because you have a potty for him doesn't mean he's just going to start doing it

Sabrina - posted on 01/26/2010

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The biggest thing, DON"T STRESS out about potty training your 18 month old boy, because if you're stressed out he will pick up on that & then he will be stressed out & then you're just going to have all sorts of problems!!!!

Sabrina - posted on 01/26/2010

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He is only 18 months old. That is pretty early for any child but especially a boy!!! I'm not saying if your child IS ready for the potty to ignore that & make them stay in diapers anyway but Daycares don't even start to work on potty training until 2 1/2. I know it would be nice to have him potty trained, and out of diapers, but maybe you should just slow down and let him be an 18 month old!!! Trust me he wont stay in diapers for ever, but if you push too hard, too soon he's just going to shut down & push right back and want nothing to do with it!!!

Monica - posted on 01/26/2010

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you don't have to push them, ever. But my son is 3 and a half now and he was fully trained by 2 and he doesn't even nor did he ever wet the bed at night!! My daughter's 15 months and i've already brought the potty out, just for her to get familiar with the concept. Its just so much easier without diapers, definitely worth aiming towards in a fun positive way!! :D

Kristen - posted on 01/26/2010

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Hmm, maybe I am just behind the times. But most boys I know aren't fully potty trained until they are three. My son turned two in November and we got the potty, made a potty chart with stickers and he even had him sit on it a number of times. He really is just not interested in it, so I figure why push it. It will just make things stressful for both of us. I will probably get more serious about it in the next 6 months or so. I think it is very important that they are ready and interested too!

Qihm - posted on 01/26/2010

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William knows what the potty is too, and he'll sit on it when I ask if he wants to go potty, and he'll make faces like hes trying to potty but he usually doesn't GO in the potty just yet. I just try to catch him during times that I know he'll need to potty, and make a party of it when he sits on it for a while and give him a treat when we do get stuff IN the potty.

Monica - posted on 01/26/2010

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i would say when potty training your 18 month old boy to keep the potty out and make reference to it once in awhile. try to get him to sit on it for little spurts and if he happens to pee in it, reward him with a sticker or a fun song so that he knows he did good!! no matter what, he'll do it when he's ready but it's always good to keep him aware that the option of the potty is there!

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I have also been starting potty training my son, who will be 18 months next week. At first he was scared of the potty, so I would set him on it and if he stayed I would give him 1 M&M. We don't give him candy so that was a really big deal for him and soon he starting sitting on the potty whenever he went in there. After that we would sit him on his potty and tell him to "go pee pee" and if he did, he got a few M&M's as a reward. This seemed to work pretty well with him, and after a while we would just get really excited and make a big deal out of it instead of giving him sweets. I think that his favorite part now is getting to flush the toilet.

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just because he knows doesnt mean he's ready, wait until he's ready or a mth b4 he turns two cuz i feel ur just gonna run urself crazy trying to do him early..............i did. i tried potty training my daughter @ 18mths n that did not work for neither of us, but i started back up again this mth, n she has it down to the ' T ' n she dont turn two until feb. 9

Sandy - posted on 01/26/2010

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i have a 16 almost 17 month old going through the same thing...but with my other son he wanted to do everything my brother did so he went potty cause my brother went potty. That may be something you want to try, if he has someone he looks up to like his dad or uncle or grandpa...maybe you could try getting them to take him with them. I have tried this with my 16 month old but he is just not interested in peeing in the potty-just playing with it and dragging it through the house lol. hope this helps

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He will do it when he is ready, Don't put any pressure on him. I think its too early to be potty training an 18 month old boy.Just keep the potty out, but don't push him into it. Kids progress differently, all kids do things in their own time I think, sometime we are too impatient.

Samantha - posted on 03/18/2011

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my son is 17 months and i dont feel in any way that he is ready for potty training. I am going to introduce it soon, but i dont expect him to use it till atleast 2. I know how you feel being pregnant and wanting to get him out of diapers because my daughter was 2 when i got pregnant with my son. But i have seen it be alot easier to train girls then boys. You might have the same luck i did, but like everyone else said, dont push him. With my daughter she loved starburst. so everytime she went on the potty she got a piece. Only untill i knew she knew what the concept was then i started the whole dont pee in girl underwear. If you buy undies with their favorite characters on them, i find it a big help. My daughters favorite was dora.. so i would say dont pee on dora she dont like getting wet! That helped alot!!! GOOD LUCK potty training your 18 month old boy!!!

Erin - posted on 01/26/2010

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Be careful with that too. Children often regress when a new baby arrives in the house. They see you spending time with them and that includes changing diapers so they stop using the potty because of that. I understand about double diaper duty as my boys are 20 months apart. Also, my eldest son's first doctor told us that boys have 3 muscles they need to be able to control in order to potty train whereas girls have only 2. That is why boys take longer on average. My husband and I tried to train our eldest at 2 years of age, but he didn't have the control yet. Elias will be 2.5 at the end of February. He's almost potty-trained now and we started right after the new year. His grandma told me that my husband wasn't trained until 2.5 years and I have to assume that muscle control is part of that. My best suggestion for potty training your 18 month old boy is to limit fluid intake to meals and snacks and place your son on the potty every hour for a while. Even if you are taking him there and he's not doing it independently, you will have fewer changes. Good luck.

Sabrina - posted on 01/26/2010

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The biggest thing, DON"T STRESS out about potty training your 18 month old boy, because if you're stressed out he will pick up on that & then he will be stressed out & then you're just going to have all sorts of problems!!!!

Monica - posted on 01/26/2010

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i would say when potty training your 18 month old boy to keep the potty out and make reference to it once in awhile. try to get him to sit on it for little spurts and if he happens to pee in it, reward him with a sticker or a fun song so that he knows he did good!! no matter what, he'll do it when he's ready but it's always good to keep him aware that the option of the potty is there!

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