Cheree - posted on 01/11/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
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I have a 20 month old little boy who has only know his father for a period of 5 months and seen a total of 30 times he is about to start over night visit which he is so not ready for and in 8 weeks time his fathers girlfriend will give birth to there baby how do i prepare my little boy for this arrival considering we don't know how long dad will stay in picture?
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Cassandra - posted on 01/12/2010
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Just explain to him that there is going to be a new little baby at daddy's house, and keep reminding him. Also, let him know that when he comes back from dad's house; you'll be right there waiting for him. Let him know how much you love him, and keep telling him even when you think you've told him too much. Let him know that his daddy loves him too, even if it kills you to say it. It's about HIM, and making HIM comfortable. You'll have to put your hate aside. :)~
I went through the "dad not in the picture" thing with my oldest. I can only suggest that you play nice. Don't let him hear you talking poorly about his father. It brings you to "his" level. Eventually your son will see his "true colors", and call him on that. He will know that you are there for him, and always have been.
My son told his dad that he did not want to see him again; when he was 6!! They know who is there for them, and who cares for them the most. Just stay positive, and consistant. Good luck!
Amanda - posted on 01/11/2010
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I feel for u my sons dad in around but thats about it he does not do much with him but when my sons dad had a new one it was hard my was older then yours is now but it sucks mine ask me will dad love that baby more that was hard just be sure to tell them that he loves them and let your littke one know how much u love him and if hes not ready for overnight visit I would not let him go if u can do that but I know how hard that is I have been there my sons dad has two kids and a step son now along with mine whos 8 just get ready for the hard times when your boy does not want to go. Just do what you think is best for your boy your his mom you know whats best for him. I hope it all works out
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