How to stop a 2 year old from Cussing?

Amanda - posted on 06/01/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 2 in April well he started saying 2 bad words...I don't cuss that much around my son but my Boyfriend cusses constantly....How do I stop my son from saying these words...I tell him they are bad words but it doesn't do no good

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Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2011

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Yeah, when my older one was about 1 1/2 she started saying, "Oh, S#!+" the weirdest thing is that she used it correctly. And the weirder thing is that I don't really use profanity much at all, even back then, the only times it sometimes comes out is if I'm really really mad, but I mean beyond mad and it takes quite a bit for me to get that upset. Well, after her uncle (also her babysitter) and my bf at the time (the one she calls "daddy" to date) heard that, her uncle looked at him and told him that he guesses they have to stop swearing in front of her. She had started repeating what she was hearing from them. Thing is, I am not the one she was repeating and they both knew that she didn't pick it up from me. After that they started doing their best to watch themselves around her and eventually became pretty good at not swearing around her.

When she said it again, I told her, "NO, do NOT say that, that is NOT a nice word." I don't think I ever told her that it was a bad word, just that it was not a nice word. Because she didn't know it wasn't a nice word the first time she said it she got away with it being left at that. How can they know it's not a nice word if they're hearing adults use it (especially ones that hear adults use profanity like crazy, like your bf does) like it's nothing? But, I had told her, and after that, the next time she said it, I did flick her in the mouth and told her not to use that word, it's not nice. She never said it again. I don't remember hearing her say any profanity since then.

A toddler using any swear word is shocking to yourself and those around you. It also will reflect badly upon you (and your bf) when you're out and about and your child swears, no matter what the word is. It's not always your fault when the child swears, like when my oldest daughter was younger. If your bf doesn't stop swearing, though, I somehow see the situation getting worse, not better, if you don't do something about it. Even if you do, I'm not sure that he'll stop until his dad does....good luck.

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Amanda - posted on 06/03/2011

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Automn I just taught my son how to say Awe Man...I could handle my son saying Freaking instead of f*ck or Shoot for s*it instead of the actual word...My Boyfriend was in prison he just got out in February My son never cussed until my boyfriend got back into the home...I keep telling him that he needs to watch his mouth cause of our son started to say damn but than he quit that word...Now everytime he falls or drops something it's oh S*it like the other night first time he said f*ckin cat when I heard him say that I couldn't believe it & I want it to stop...I will tap his mouth not that hard & tell him it's a bad word you don't say that....I talk to him like I did when my nephew was that age after I said that to my nephew everytime we cussed my nephew would go don't say that bad word it was cute....I think my son is gonna be stubborn...I was thinking if people doesn't pay attention to it he might quit he did with damn I quit paying attention to it & He quit

Rebekah - posted on 06/02/2011

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Your son understands it's a bad word - now you need to help him understand that when he says a bad word a consequence happens.

Every time he says a cuss word, immediate action, put him in time out, tell him that is a bad word and he is going to time out. If he gets up, put him back down in time out and start the time over.

Another thing you will want to do, when he says something that you like, PRAISE him for it! The more reaction he gets from words he says, the more he'll want to say them. So, if he's getting a lot of reaction off of a curse word - he'll continue it.

Autumn - posted on 06/02/2011

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I would honestly tell your boyfriend that it needs to stop, and in order for it to stop he needs to stop and help with your son to understand that its not ok. I would also try to stop cussing at all if I were you.2 is a delicate age and he will pick it up no matter how often or not that it might be said. As for your son, I would get on to his level, look him in his face and if need be hold his face in your hand look into his eyes and tell him "we don't use those bad words, or that you dont appreciate those words and being very firm toned not really yelling but being firm and tell him it is a warning and if he says it again he will get time out and have to sit down. Give your son alternatives to saying different words, like awh man, or uh oh, or shoot. I hope this helps and hope you find a solution soon!

Amanda - posted on 06/02/2011

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I cuss but I don't cuss a whole lot around my son cause now if he falls or does something he will go around saying oh Shit & than yesterday he started saying f*ck or f*ckin cat...I don't use the f word that much I say freakin more than anything but my Boyfriend on the other hand he says the f word like every other word is the f word that comes out of his mouth...I can handle my son saying stop or shut up but not cussing cause it is embarrassing...I keep trying to tell him that it's a bad word but at his age i don't think he would quite understand what I'm saying....To me F*ck is the worse word a child could say....Everytime my boyfriend is mad & he starts cussing up a storm I tell him quit cussing so much I don't even do that...My Niece is 1 Month older than my son to the day & She was cussing way before my son did My brother smacked his daughters mouth & I said why did u smack her mouth she is getting in trouble for what your doing she is coping you I go don't be smacking her mouth for something your doing

Cassie - posted on 06/02/2011

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If your boyfriend has any respect for you and your child he will stop cussing ! My daughter will be 2 in aug and when she started talking we stopped the cussing. Because there is nothing more Embarrassing then being in public and having your child cuss. I remember when my niece was about 2 in a half and she picked up cussing from her mother. well we was in walmart one day and someone walked passed us and she screamed F*ck you ! I was like omg i smacked her mouth and told her that she cant say that its a bad word It was really Embarrassing there was all kinds of people giving me dirty looks..I NEVER again took my little niece anywhere with me !! Like is said if he has any respect for you and your child he will stop cussing!

Vicki - posted on 06/02/2011

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If your boyfriend says it, your son will copy until he understands what is appropriate. My boy said 'shit' today, probably not my proudest moment haha.

Georgina - posted on 06/02/2011

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This is a very difficult one because when my daughter was the same age as your son she picked up this habit and no matter how hard we tried to let her know that she was using bad words, it continued up to a year. Eventually she stopped without us even noticing. I suggest keep on encouraging him to say nice words and let your boyfriend know how this is affecting you. He should not curse when your son is around.

Amanda - posted on 06/01/2011

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I've told him to quit cussing so much but he never listens especially when he's mad

Jennifer - posted on 06/01/2011

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Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? I don't know if much of anything will help if your boyfriend doesn't start filtering what he's saying around him.

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