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HUGE HUGE HUGE tantrums

Jennifer - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My two-and-a-half year old has started throwing monsterous tantrums the last few days. Over nothing! Taking his jacket off when we get home, which cup his juice is in, getting dressed, and many many many other things throughout the day. Nothing has changed in the way we do things, nap time and bedtime routines are all the same..... all other daily routines are the same as they've always been. I need some advice. I try to remain calm and not blow up at him (sometimes I fail). I try to just calmly put him in his room when he decides to start screaming, but he just runs right out and kicks and screams and bangs various body parts on the floor. This goes on for 30 minutes or more. One day he screamed for over an hour! I do not know what to do!!!

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Amy - posted on 04/20/2009

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Welcome to the terrible two's and keep your hands and feet in the ride at all times! My daughter is just over two years old and has been practicing for almost a year now. She is very good at it. For me it's all about choosing my battles. She is a very independent girl and likes to do things like mommy does. if i have the time to entertain her requests i will. I think that the experiences help her develope skills. Unfortunately i have to deal with picking up after her when she decides to only do half the job (she is big on the jacket thing too but usually throws it on the floor. when i ask her if that's where it goes she tells me uh huh with conviction) if i don't have time to let her do things herself, i praise her for wanting to do it and thank her for wanting to help me and tell her what a big girl she is and how much i love her but that we don't have time now. then i offer an alternative that is more fun for when i do have the time. (like if she wants to help get the baby ready to go out or get herself dressed i'll tell her that she can help me put groceries away or wash dishes--two things she loves doing) usually it works. when the meltdown is going to happen anyway, i just tell her that 's it's ok to get mad b/c she can't have her own way but it's not ok to throw herself down and carry one like that. I will usually let her choose where she's going to cool off b/c she leaves her room too unless we lock the door, which usually makes her scream louder. there are times when she chooses to sit in our bath tub to cool down. i let her. and when she's done i don't make a big deal out of it. i think a calm head and calm voice makes it go by faster. she is looking for a rise out of me and if she doesn't get it, the fun is gone. It seems to be a control thing with this age group. they have the ability to do more and communicate and they want to utilize it to the fullest. we generally don't have screaming for more than a few minutes but she can carry a pout for the whole day. you can also check to see if he's hungry or tired. my daughter gets cranky around those times too........ummm...and bordum or a bad dream that she won't talk about has brought about this behavior too. sometimes a change in routine and environment is good too. i'll go visiting to friends or family if we've had a lot of at home time. i hope that this might help. it can be so frustrating. keep me posted if you want/ good luck and just breathe!!! (lots of breathing........and counting to ten....)

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