I have a 2 yr old who is impossible in stores. He will not sit in a cart, we let him walk and all he does is run from us. If we hold his hand or puck him up he screams and throws himself to the ground! I need some advise and help!
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Sarah - posted on 06/28/2011
God Bless the internet. I get all my groceries delivered. I can shop at midnight if I want and it is there when I need it. I couldn't shop in the supermarket with two young kids and pack my shopping and get them safely to the car with out at least one meltdown, (usually me!) If I time it right and pick a slow time I can get the delivery charge free too. plus they aren't bugging me for treats all the time. Can't recommend it enough. It meant that when we were in a store and a meltdown happened I could just take them home as the shopping wasn't urgent. After a couple of times being taken home and denied treats they behave ok.
Nicole - posted on 06/30/2011
Give him something to do. My daughter-2 yrs- likes to be involved but we've always let her be involved with what we do. If we are shopping, she'll either sit in the cart or wants to help push it. She likes putting things in the cart. Sometimes stores have little carts especially for kids and she loves to have her own cart with items in it to push around. If no cart is needed, we always ask her to help carry somthing wether it be my purse or something else small that we are buying. Kids like to help and need something to do. I'm not saying it'll work for you but it's another idea to try.
Lee - posted on 06/29/2011
The best is if you can try to schedule time for errands and grocery store when you don't have the littles. But that may not be possible. I have a runner as well. When we go to the grocery store, aquarium, zoo, etc. We put a kids harness on him. Yes, I get looks from other people about having my kid on a "leash", but it is better than having him run off.
Kalley - posted on 06/28/2011
I am currently in this stage now. All my daughter would do is run from me or want to "help" by putting items I don't need in the carts. It's getting better now.
My daughter is into drawing, so I always bring a small pad and crayons or even a highlighter (keeps her attention), and give it to her while she's sitting in the cart. Other times it's food and drinks, or letting her hold something that can't be opened or hurt anyone if she drops it.
Carmina - posted on 07/01/2011
my son is the same! i bring some snacks for him to eat while sitting, and also let him draw on my list of groceries with a pen lol or give him my phone.. honestly i just keep trying to entertain him. it is annoying but getting easier slowly!
Kate - posted on 06/29/2011
Maybe a little pre-paving would help. In other words, talk to him about what to expect at the store and empower him to pick how he will travel in the store (i.e. hold hands or ride in cart). Remind him once in the store what he decided and if he does not do it, tell him that you will have to leave, and then follow through. Helping your child to learn self-control and self-regulation at a very young age is a great gift that you can offer. It is a learned behavior and requires some trial and error. With patience and consistency it will happen!
I have a boy with a mind of his own, and I am not trying to imply that this is easy. Parenting is hard!
Good luck with everything.
Audrey - posted on 06/28/2011
we dont have too many issues in the store anymore. i have a 21 month old that always sits in the cart and her brother is 3 and walks along side. if he does get naughty and start running or something then he gets a warning that if he runs again he will sit in the basket and wont get to get down again. usually it works but sometimes he still throws a royal fit after i put hi in the cart and it requires some very stern words or a swat on the bum. he is getting better the older he gets though. probably just as soon as he stopd acting up in the store, his little sis will start. lol
Amanda - posted on 06/28/2011
I don't like the "grab the arm hard" or the "spank his bottom" bit! - if i have ever lost my temper and all i do is sit my child firmly down on the couch etc... i feel awful for the longest time and that's not even spanking - i have never had much of a problem in the store - what you do is tell them lets get what we need first and then you can pick (as long as you have the money) a snack right before we leave. or if your getting chips, like another said engage them ask them what kind they think you should get plain, bbq, etc.... or what veggies etc
Katherine - posted on 06/28/2011
What I do with my 2yo is bring her snacks and a drink. I also let her put things in the cart so that she is engaging in the shopping. When she was younger I couldn't take her to the store because she did the same thing to me.
Now it's a breeze.
Amber - posted on 06/28/2011
You could use some pictures of groceries you need and make a game of it. Get him to help you find the items you need through the pictures he has. It may take you twice as long but might be more enjoyable.
Or if you have a spare few days take him to the shops and warn him if he plays up you will go straight home. And if he does throw a tantrum in the shop, let him know you are going home because he is playing up. Do this when you dont need anything at the shops so you can just head home if he starts playing up.
What I do with my own son, who is now 3yo, i tell him him that it is a very good chance for him to follow inside the stores when we shop, if he is not nice to me and run around, he has to go back and sit in the car to wait for us while we have fun. Works all the time for me. But it's important to hold him hard by the upper arm, mommy must go down so you are eye to eye with him, and say you mean business.
Jennifer - posted on 06/27/2011
There are a few ways to handle this. You can force him to sit in the buggy and if he starts to get up, continue to put him back down. I have noticed that as a parent half the battle is being MORE stubborn than our children. If he throws a fit, take him outside the store and smack his butt and tell him he needs to straighten up so that you can go back into the store and if he doesn't, you will smack his butt again.
There is also the option to put a German Shepard size collar around his waist so that the D ring is in the back along with the clasp to hook it on him and put a leash on the collar. My daughter used to run away from me and didn't want to stay in the cart so I put her on a leash. At Two years old you can tell him that he has a choice. He can sit in the cart or walk on the leash. Those are the two options. If he throws a fit and you do not want to spank his bottom, then the best you can do is pick him up and carry him and ignore what he is doing until he notices it isn't helping anything to continue throwing a fit. This IS going to annoy the customers around you but if you give in even once, the next time will be even harder. This is all about who is more stubborn and YOU MUST win or the next time it will be even harder to manage because he will learn that by throwing a fit, he gets what he wants.
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