Nicole - posted on 07/16/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I am the mother of 4 beautiful girls, my 3 older girls are from my marriage and my youngest daughter who is 3 1/2 is from a relationship I was in after my marriage dissolved. When my youngest was 10 months old, her father was in a car accident and resulted in death. Of course I was devastated and walked around in a fog for a very long time. Since life does go on a year a half ago I started to date someone, who I care deeply for, in fact I love him. He too has a daughter, a year younger than mine. Recently he has told me he doesn't know if he can be there for my daughter as a father figure, as he still is getting used to being a father to his own daughter. He is an excellent father to his own daughter. He said perhaps in the future, but now he can't. Now I'm faced with this, so do I stay in this relationship any longer with the hopes that one day he will "come around" or do I let the man of my dreams go, because my daughter deserves a loving father figure in her life. If I stay with him, how long do I wait 1 year? 2 years? perhaps never?? Thus I'm torn...