I'm trying to break my 2 year old from her pacifer and suggestions on how to break her
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Valerie - posted on 01/23/2010
I didnt break my oldest until his baby brother was born but we gradually took it away at first it was gone at school since it is not allowed and then we took it away at night then we took it away in the car and then a week before brother came it was gone. My youngest I took it when I took the bottle. It was easy and not that big of a deal just needed to teach him to use something else for comfort besides a binky. But since yours is 2 I would just talk to them and then take it. Deal with the child being mad it is better for them in the long run.
Heather - posted on 01/23/2010
i had 2 methods for this...i would cut a small hole in it so it would lose its suck and they hated it!! then they'd throw it out. My daughter was wventually down to one, we went to bed one night and i had her put it on her dresser. the binky fairy was coming you see and taking away the binky for all the new babies born and she was going to get a special surprise for giving up her binky. she cried at first, but a little coaxing and she fell asleep, only to find a present waiting for her right where she left it. and to this day, 18mths later, we'll see a baby with her exact same binky, and she'll say momma, that was mine and now it's hers the fairy came and i got bigger!
Stephanie - posted on 01/23/2010
We just went through this. My son is 22 months and we are on week 2 with out paci. He was only getting it at nap time and bed time. I just decided I didn't want him going around when he was 2 with a paci. So it just disappeared. He woke up one morning with it and then he did not see it again after he got out of his bed.
Ronda - posted on 01/22/2010
I know this sounds harsh, but my middle daughter sucked her fingers...which I couldn't just take or throw away, so every time I caught her with her fingers in her mouth, i put a drop of hot sauce on my finger & put it on her tongue. If she didn't open her mouth, then it got on her lips & then tongue & she quickly learned to open her mouth. It only took me a few days of this and she stopped. I had to do it maybe once or twice a week for a couple of weeks. It was really the only thing that phased her.
Jamie - posted on 01/21/2010
I cut the nipple end off of my oldest son's and gave it back to him. He didn't want it after that. He still cried for a couple of days going to bed but it was short lived. His dad even gave him a big boy cup on his night stand with water in it and told him big boys don't need binkies they have a drink of water. But my oldest son was also an extremely easy baby and toddler to the point it was almost unusual.
Shannan - posted on 01/21/2010
With my daughter, who was very attached, we had the Binky Fairy come to visit her each night. To start the fairy sent her a letter saying that each night she went to bed and slept all night without a binky there would be a small gift for her in the morning. We did this for one week. Since this was hard to start she got to go to the store and pick out a new stuffed animal to sleep with. This worked! At the end of the week the fairy left her a bigger present and a card congratulating her on her great job!
Amanda - posted on 01/21/2010
On Supernanny they put the pacifier in a bag and tied it to a tree telling the child that the fairies needed it and that if she was a big girl and gave it to the fairies she'd get a gift. The next day there was a new bag tied to the tree with a gift for her.
My son never used one so I don't know if it'll actually work.
Nikki - posted on 01/21/2010
We weaned our eldest daughter (who is now 3 1/2) from her binky right around her 2nd bday. We packaged up all of her "binkies" into a nice manila envelope that she had decorated with stickers, coloring, etc and we mailed them all off to the "binky princess." We involved her in the entire transition from talking about our plan several days beforehand and every day up until that day. She also brought the package to the mailbox for pickup. The next day the "binky princess" brought her a special thank you gift of a goldfish. Til this day, she still talks about how the princess picked up her binkies so she could give them to other babies that need them. She missed having her pacifiers for the first couple days or so but it really was an easy transition.
Amber - posted on 01/21/2010
my sister borke my daughter of it. she asked for the nukers, then said if you give it to me i'll get you a toy. she cried through the night a bit but then fell alseep. the next day the 2 went to the store and she got to pick out her toy. everytime she would ask for the nukers back my sister would say "do you want me to take the toy back?" she stoped asking around the 3rd day or so. but she never cried after the first night without it. sometimes giving them things to keep the busy usually works. keep their minds off of things and if they ask for it just say i'm gonna take it back to the store.
Shanequa - posted on 01/21/2010
Funny you say that, my daughter was in luv wit her passie. I was tired of buy'n them and she had began biting them so I decided that we where going to mail it to Granni. She agreed to it and we colored the envelope and put it in there. Of course the nites where hard and she cried but we rocked her and she made it through...Now it is time to get rid of the cup...lol
Ginger - posted on 01/21/2010
The paci fairy came and took all the pacifiers away to give to the babies in the world who needed them. My son packed up all the pacis and put them in a box for the fairy and the next morning the fairy left him a special surprise for giving up the pacis. A box of plastic dinosaurs were waiting for him sprinkled in fairy dust. He was so pround and never asked for the paci again. :)
Robyn - posted on 01/21/2010
My friend had an awesome suggestion that worked for her daughter. She knew of a lady that had just had a baby, and that her daughter had seen and loved, and told her that the new baby needed the dummy because they didnt have one. The girl said the baby could have hers. This way the dummy was given away by the child and not taken and the girl wasnt affected by the loss. If you tell your child someone else really needs it this may work. :) Robyn
Kay - posted on 01/21/2010
i done what Jo Frost did on one of her programes and put it in a bag and went into the garden or somewhere where you can leave it and tell your 2 year old that the pacifer fairy needs them for other babies then when your 2 year old goes to sleep, get the pacifer and bin it and then leave something for the child like a toy, it will be hard at nights for a few days but all you need to do is say something like think about all the other babies and that you are a big person now
Anna - posted on 01/20/2010
well i broke my kids from their paccies early i didnt intentionally mean to but I always gave them something else to get their minds focused on like a toy or an activity and not let their pacifier be in sight but my daughter broke from hers at about 5 months and my son about 4 months or maybe a little older im not sure if its because they dont like to use it or what...
Jodie - posted on 01/20/2010
Post a reply! i darl im a mum of two when my son tyron was about 4 to 5 months i accidently lost it and he now doesnt want anthing to do with but i your case bein a little older and had for so long really not sure try wat i did
Colleen - posted on 01/20/2010
You have to go "cold turkey". We took it away around 15 months - but my son was sick alot, so I did not want to take it away during a time when he needed it for comfort, and I would allow him to have it. However, I still felt bad so I would just take it away during the day, and just give it when he would go to sleep. If you continue to do that, you will never take it away, believe me-it happened. You are just feeding a bad habit. Just take all of them, hide them somewhere out of sight..and don't give in. It literally took 2 days total for my son to completely forget all about it. But you have to stick to it, and not give in. Things have been much better without having to carry those nasty pacifiers around!
April - posted on 01/20/2010
Once my son was a year old, I only gave him is paci when he was sleeping, not during the day. When he was a little over 2, I started talking to him about babies getting binkies, not big boys. I encouraged him to throw all of binkies away, and he did! All by himself. (The longest crying fit I had ever seen ensued, but he never had a binky again!) The next two weeks were difficult.. he had a rough time sleeping, and had to relearn how to calm himself down, but it does work, there is light at the end of the binky tunnel, and you can do it! Go girl!
Kimberly - posted on 01/20/2010
My son was about two and a half when we got rid of his pacifier. He was only using it a nap and bedtimes but he'd spit it out halfway through the night and not need it anymore. One day I put them up high where he couldn't see or find them and when he asked for it I told them they all disappeared and he's been fine without it since then. When my younger brother got rid of his my mom had just turned to him and said "Steve you don't really need the fier anymore? How about we get rid of it?" My brother, around two or three at the time, walked over to the trash bin and threw out the pacifier. I think one of my aunts took her son's pacifier and started cutting the nipple part down until there was nothing left for him to suck on and at that point she told him that she couldn't fix it and he had to go without it. Another way would be to stop giving it to her a nap time, eventually she won't need it for bed either.
Kirsten - posted on 01/20/2010
I told my son (he was almost 3 at the time) if he went without his "binkie" for 1 week we would buy him a wii game he had seen on tv one night. He went the week, we bought the game, now he tells everyone that "binkies are for babies". Yes I did bribe him and I am not ashamed.
Melissa - posted on 01/20/2010
With my son, I just cut the tip of the binki off. Not the whole thing, but just like 1/4 of an inch off the top. He'd ask about it and I just told him that it was broken and it needs to be throne away. I did it to all of his binkis and eventualy he ended up throughing all of them away and never asked for them again. :)
Elis - posted on 01/20/2010
Because all kids are different, its hard to just have 1 right answer for all kids, but I will tell you what I did with my oldest who is now 9 1/2 years old.. I didn't take hers away till she was 3 1/2 but how i did it was I just took it away completely except for at night to go to bed & when she was really sick for comfort. At night I would let her have it to go to sleep but once she fell asleep I would remove it from her mouth & put it away. When she ask me for it during the day I would tell her I didn't know where it was b/c the bingkee fairy had it or took it till bedtime. Then after about a couple of weeks or so I just stop giving it to her completely. She eventually stop asking for it! :)
Hope this helps some..
April - posted on 01/20/2010
My son went in for his two year well baby appointment and the doctor told me to get rid of it, so I did, I just took them all away and if he found one, I would have him throw it away and after two crabby days, he hasn't cared about having one back!
Tracie - posted on 01/20/2010
my son is 21months and addicted to his paci!! he does not talk as much as he should, so the dr suggested we take the paci away during the day and he can only have it during nap and bedtime. dr said that some kids need oral stimulation to soothe themselves, so not to try and take it away totally until age 3. we had no problems with getting him to only take it during those times, as we wouldn't let him play when he got up until he gave it up, which he did as soon as i told him no toys until u put ur paci up. so i would try that first. then i would suggest cutting the nipples off of them, kids don't want them then. :)
Irene - posted on 01/20/2010
We took Olivia's tee-tee away from her and never gave it back. That was in October I think. She cried for it for about a week, then asked for it a few weeks after that. Since November, she hasn't asked for it. Sometimes you just have to go cold turkey.
Stacie - posted on 01/20/2010
My oldest son was also severely addicted to his pacifier. I tried the cutting thing and while it seems to have worked for others who tried that, it did NOT work for me. My son was really traumatized by it and kept telling my husband what I did. However, because he was VERY particular about which pacifiers he would use, as they wore out I simply never replaced them, he sucked on them for so long that eventually they all had holes in them. My husband was very worried about him choking on the plastic so he threw one away, leaving only one. He was... over two but not 2 1/2 when I finally just couldn't keep giving him the last broken one. I told him "it" was tired and just had to go bye bye. He accepted this, but was sad. He probably talked about it for several months afterward asking about it and I just repeated the same thing every time. Then he was telling his grandparents about his pacis having to go bye bye because it was tired. But, every child is different, so good luck!
Suzi - posted on 01/19/2010
I simply cut a notch out of it, right on the end. I made a v-shape cut, and when they suck on it, it feels weird and eventually makes their tongue soar.......also, paci is then 'BROKEN', and needs to be thrown away!! Good luck......
Amber - posted on 01/19/2010
My son just gave it up... I'm sooo lucky. You might try asking your doctors office if you can "trade" the pacifiers for a stuffed animal or special toy. Just bring one with you and have the doctor trade it. Or you could try to "mail it" to santa or another baby that needs it. Umm... I don't think I'd advise doing it the way my sister did. She put Tabasco sauce on it and then gave it back. It only took once but it was sooo mean. Hes now afraid of ketchup... I think that's all I've got. Sorry I can't be of more help. :D
Devan - posted on 01/19/2010
A friend of mine made a pacifier bear. Basically it is a Build-a-Bear doll that they put all of the childs pacifiers in and sewed it up. Now the child sleeps with the bear and the sense of comfort from the pacifiers has been traded to the bear.
Or you can have the pacifier fairy and put one under their pillow every night until they are gone and have the fairy leave a special treat for them.
Toni - posted on 01/19/2010
with my little girl who just turned 2, she would only have the one pacifer when we tried to put a new teat on the pacifer we broke it, so we showed her us putting it in the bin and told her it was broken, she was 1 1/2 at time, she had about 6 more around house but she wouldn't have them so she went without no problem.
Diana - posted on 01/19/2010
My son will be three on Jan.30 and one day when he went to daycare (he doesn"t use it there) I scooped it up and put it away (that was Dec.30th) he's only asked for it three times and I just said oh it's gone now and he's been fine. For the longest while we just used it at sleep time but cold turkey worked for us.
MARLIES - posted on 01/19/2010
i did the "pacifier fairy" thing..hahaha, i know, but we gathered all the pacifiers together, put them in a tiny sack and told my 2 yr old that the pacifier fairy was coming that nite and would leave a gift in exchange for the pacifiers, thankfully, he was already aware of the tooth fairy from his older siblings so it was easy to make this up, the next morning when he woke up he discovered the pacifiers gone, a big letter of congratulations from the fairy and a gift (building blocks and brand new sippy cups)!! there were the occassional tears etc when he missed his pacifiers, but he then turned to the new sippy cup for pacifing himself !!
Shaundra - posted on 01/19/2010
Make a celebration of it. I don't know where you are, but if you have a Build a Bear or something like that. She can take her pacifier, have it sewn into the bear there and still hold her pacifier (in her new lovey) anytime she feels anxious about needing it.
Steph - posted on 01/19/2010
just let nature take its course,thats what i did with my son and at 2 yrs old he put it down one day, i took it and put it away just in case .and he never looked for it again. i personally dont believe in taking something away that comforts a child.good luck anyway
Michele - posted on 01/19/2010
i think that was harder for me then it was him. he was very dependent of it and one day i just took all of the pacifiers and threw them away. he was very cranky for a while without it...but then he just got use to not having it. that was about 4 months ago and he has been good without it ever since. good luck. it is harder on the parents then the child i think.
Michelle - posted on 01/19/2010
We got rid of binky when my daughter was 2 1/2years" ....first we talked about "giving it to the binky faries" for a few weeks. Then one day we made a trip to the Dollar store and I let her pick out a bunch of balloons. We tied the binkies to the balloons and sent them up to the binky fariess so they could give them to all the babies in the world. She cried for about 10mins until I offered her a popsicle, then that was it! When she woke up from her nap there was a gift left for her outside from the binky faries! The main thing is to make sure YOUR ready, then JUST DO IT! Your child probably wont miss them as much as you think! good luck!
Arleigh - posted on 01/18/2010
My little girl gave up the paci at 1 yr old. I would only give it to her at nap & bedtime for a week...then only at bedtime...and then just threw it away! She never noticed! May be hard, but when baby cries for it try soothing him/her with somethingelse...toy, stuffed animal, favorite blanket...etc.
Carolyn - posted on 01/18/2010
My son was about 18mths and I was determined to take it before he was two so I just kept losing them and telling him that the puppy must have took it, before long he was giving them to the puppy. He is 2 now and we recently found one in the toy box, he just picked it up and threw it in the trash!
My sister in law has a 4 yr old who at 3 still took one during naps/bedtime and if she got upset so she told her that before she could have a birthday and turn 4 she had to find all her pacifiers and put them under her pillow for the paci fairy... they gathered them up at all houses, daddy's, grandmas.. etc and gave her a dollar for every one she gave to the fairy!
Alycee - posted on 01/18/2010
i gave nuks to my son till 1 then i took away but gave for bed times...just 4 weeks ago we took the bedtime nuks away by using the "NUK FAIRY"..... buy couple balloons n tight nuks too n send it off n next day a gift is left for your child....ive heard it was suppose to b a big girl/ boy gift but i asked him wat he would want from nuk fairy n he said the dvd wizard of oz sooo thats wat nuk fairy gave him....he has taken it pretty well...i just remind him if upset that he is a big boy and not a baby now n doesnt need it n that he loves his gift from nuk fairy...but i def will take it away wit next child at 1...its soooo much easier the sooner u do it!!
Ramona - posted on 01/18/2010
Throw it away, you will have to listen to her crying for it but it shouldnt last long she only go but so long wanting something that is no longer in her face, I had to do that in order to get my son off the bottle and onto the sippy cup at 1. He never took pacifiers even though people tried to give them to him so I didn't have to deal with that too. I have seen other people do it and the best advice any of them could give me was throw it away.
Yesmine - posted on 01/18/2010
take it throw it out.... it woulda been way easier if u did it a long time ago i didnt want my son to use one at all but at the hospital they gave it to him and when he was 4 mnts i realized he didnt need it a few times for bed so i just threw it out so he wouldnt get attached