Michelle - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
After all these months of trials and failures, my husband and I still cannot get our nearly 2-year-old daughter to sleep without a fight! I do not understand how people do it. She screams and cries and gets out of her crib any time we try to place her in there (she's obviously tired, just fighting it).
Most nights we let her fall asleep in our bed and then place her in her crib when she's asleep. It's a bad situation, I know, but it's all we can do because she'll be up until 1 in the morning or later, otherwise, and my DH has to be up at 6.
What's worse is that I am going to have my DS via C-Section on the 10th and she still wants to cuddle in our bed to sleep. She will not self-soothe. She has a little blanket and a doll to sleep with, but she just lays there and screams or climbs out. We do not have any sort of bedtime routine set up for her, however. I am not good at that sort of thing. I am lousy with time management and discipline for myself. It's probably rubbed off on her.
It is really bad when she wakes in the middle of the night, as well. We cannot simply go into her room and give her a kiss or anything like that. She wakes up and screams. I usually try to wait five minutes to see if she'll go back to sleep and then I'll check on her if she doesn't stop. Occasionally she will not and we have to decide whether we should bring her into our bed or just let her cry.
Ex.: Wednesday she woke at 4:15 am and would not go back to sleep. I was up from 4:15 until 12:00 that night. She only took a 2 hour nap from 9:15-11:15 am.
I don't know what to do except for put her in her bed and let her climb out and scream and bang on the door (which luckily she cannot open). We have to nip this in the bud before we move our son into her room once he's out of the bassinet. I would really appreciate advice. Often it is let them cry-it-out, but we've been trying that since she was 8 months old. I would really like advice other than that. Oh, and baths don't work either. They wake her up, and we don't have a working bathtub.