im having a hard time with a baby daddy issue.....please help.

Ashley - posted on 03/11/2010

Take him back and make him take his medication and tell him if he loves you he wont hit you again and if he does you will wait til hes sleeping and split his head open by a two by four and then i bet he doesnt touch you again just keep being strong you did a good decision but seriously stand up for yourself and for your daughters sake hope this helps hope everything works out.

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2010

thank you all. your help has been greatly appreciated. to sandra... most of the time no he does not remember doing it. which is a whole other thing in it self. but he is currently on meds. we have been seperated...goin on 8 months now. hes been on the meds...(theres quite a few..for different reasons) for about 2 or 3 months now. so so far things are looking up and hes putting in the effort to make this big change in his life...not only for himself but for his daughter and i. more will come and ill make the update as it comes. thanks again all :)

Sandra - posted on 03/05/2010

Safety first. He needs time to work through his emotions, and you need to protect yourself as well as your daughter. I agree, that gradual is the way to go. Seek counseling (family counseling). Does he remember doing it? I have a son in a similar situation, and it is a very tough situation to be in, but at the same time you can not sacrifice yourself. Just make sure you are safe. Keep us posted, and I wish you the best of luck.

Lauren - posted on 03/04/2010

oh my... i suggest the same. You have to think about the safety of your daughter. You may not always be his target. Even if meds can help whos to say he wont forget or just get tired of taking them one day like my ex. I know its hard when they havent cheated or wronged you but physical things are on another level. Theyre things they cant HELP... and that's the problem. Im sorry youre in that situation especially since hes your childs father. I hope we're all helpful. Be very safe! good luck! i hope all goes well. :)

Corynn - posted on 03/03/2010

I agree with both of these moms... Give it some time. Start out slowly and make him prove to you he's changed. Have him see a counselor or go to anger management... I really think it would help. I really hope that he changes and stays on his meds for you and your daughter. Hope everything goes well. You are all in my thoughts

Carla - posted on 03/03/2010

My advice would be the same.. get him to prove how serious he is bout getting on track and keeping on his meds... have the visits and family time but take it slowly... remember too your child has had you all to themselves for a while so interducing someone else onto the mix even if it is her dad needs to be done gently so she can get use to him again and change in their enviroment... Good Luck but follow your instincts

Melissa - posted on 03/03/2010

thanks a bunch. ill keep you posted :)

Jamiee - posted on 03/02/2010

U just always have remember its not about ur love for him anymore its about ur daughter now and whats best for her.I've been where ur at before the father of my kids also had a temper. U should give it time let him get his life back together first, start off with small family visits, let him show u hes ready and has changed first. I know that feeling of just wanting to be family. Hope all goes well. Keep me posted!