Is this normal? Active 18 month old.

Angie - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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My daughter never stops. She plays with a toy for a few minutes then goes on to the next thing. She'll look at a book for a few mins but wants to do it herself. When we try to help she leave and gets a little upset. She wants to do everything herself. She doesn't stop moving unless she's in the car or highchair. Is it normal to be this active? Some days it drives me crazy. A friend joked that she has Baby ADD.

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Gaye - posted on 05/06/2010

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Gosh. Don't worry about this. She is just ahead of herself ahead of her age. She is Inquisitive, wanting to explore & learn. I have 3 children ( 2 of which are girls) & they have all been the same, full on, never stop, always getting into everything, & yes sometimes driving me crazy & my little 19 month old daughter (who we call the tornado) has been the worst & she even takes her clothes off at least 10 times a day (only at home thank god) So often I will see this little naked body speed past me at a million miles an hour LOL. She climbs on everything, seems to get into anything that she is not allowed to. Constantly on our kitchen table, knocking over drinks while she is climbing on the table. BUT she is always happy & giggling & chatting to me & grabbing my hand to show me insect that she’s found, or baby animals on TV, or pictures in a book or asking me to ride their pony. She is always looking for adventure, she love her swimming lesson & is fearless in the water, fearless in anything she does really. But when I have had a full on day & feel at my most exhausted she will give me a look that just melts my heart & gives me the strength to go another round. But my daughter does love to play, she is often dressed up in fairy or princess stuff pushing around a dolly in a pram. Or playing with balls or on their swings & trampoline.

We do discipline her just like we did the others & She does get punished & has to have time out on the time out mat, but I also know you can’t eliminate the over active mind of these children or totally restricked these type of kids, they are explorers so you have to try & redirect their interests to other more positive constructive activities. Sit down with them, watch a kiddie DVD & show expressive reactions to the movie to keep them captivated. Do drawing with them & tell them you are drawing mummy or daddy or their pet or them playing with the cat ect, make it interesting so they want to stay & play. Go for walks outside in the yard & pick flowers then bring them inside & put them in a vase, or play in the sand pit making castle with them. They seem to calm down so much if you stop & show them something interesting to do. (& this also give you a break)This is what I do & it seem to calm her down immensely. My 4 year old daughter was not as bad as the 19month old at her age but pretty close & now she is a sweet little angel who is very caring to her little sister, she loves to draw (she has just turned 4 and can write her name (Bethany) & at least 6 other names in our family, she is forever wanting to learn & is forever asking question she love to do crafty things or play with her pets or be a hair dresser doing my hair or makeup. (sometimes I look a site LOL)

My son was the same as my 19 month old. He is now 18 years old.... At 2 years old he use to climb over fences & get into a paddock that had the town water supply in it. . I had to lock him in the bathroom with me if I was having a shower or he would drag chairs to the door, unlock them & nick off outside. We ended up having to put chains at the top of every door that lead outside. ... At 3 years old he would climb on our shed. I could not take my eyes off him for a second, he was so draining I was beat by the end of every day. He was so full on that his kinder teacher wanted him to get checked for ADD but my husband wouldn’t stand for it & said "our son is not getting labelled with anything" so we started consistently pulling him into line so he learnt to compose himself a little better when we were out or he was at kinder & before long he knew when & where he could explore his Inquisitive over active mind. By the time he started school he could compose himself fabulously in class but when it was lunch time he would be full on to anything active (sport mostly) . & I am proud to say that all through his teenage years he hasn’t given me one bit of trouble, he is a very responsible, friendly, happy young man who is very comfortable in his own skin, he has never been swayed by pier group pressure or done anything to disappointment me & he is very loving & caring. Well he is 18 years old now & is still full into sport, footy, cricket Jui jitsu. But as active as he was he also had a heart of gold. We taught him right from wrong, compassion & respect & he has grown up such a responsible sweet hilariously funny young man that make us proud every day. He finished & passed year 12 last year & now works as an AFL Trainee at a primary school working with kids just like he was. So don't stress to much but always teach her what is expected. As long as you make sure she is respectable & compassionate to you, your family & all people & teach her to know right from wrong all the rest is just mostly exhausting on us as parents.

Lyndsay - posted on 05/04/2010

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My son is the exact same way! Sometimes I think to myself theres no way this is normal, because I see other peoples' kids sitting nice and content and not always on the go. That being said, I took him to the doctor's office not too long ago and he was wandering around the office poking his head into everything. The doc told me that its a good sign if kids are like this, because they're supposed to be curious and thats how they learn. A little independence never hurt anybody.

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Kelly - posted on 05/16/2011

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My son is 15 months, and is just as busy. He is not even walking and manages to get into everything, moves from toy to toy, climbs on furniture, pushes chairs around the house, goes underneath coffee/end tables, gets into drawers...he keeps me busy thats for sure...I think its a normal curious toddler thing...

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i dunno. my son is the same, and even in a carseat or highchair he still insists on wiggling around.

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my daughter just turned 2 on may 9th she has been the same way since she was 8 1/2 months old and started walking they just want there independance and there attention span isnt very long dont worry about baby adhd its normal !!

Stacey - posted on 05/16/2011

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I just googled this topic because I was started to get worried (and overly exhausted) dealing with my (almost) 19 month old. She is SOOOOO active. We were at a party last night and everyone kept asking me when she winds down! I guess it's okay for her to be this way and I don't need to worry. I just hope she slows down sometime soon!!

Amy - posted on 05/07/2010

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ur lucky she'll play w/ something for a few minutes. my daughter is only 16 months old and she is doing the same thing but her attention span is shorter for most things. i think it's normal. children at this age r curious and since they can get around really good and communicate better, i think they take the opportunity to explore. my older daughter (who is 3 now) did the same thing too. it wasn't until she was almost 2 that she started to settle down and pay more attention to things. she loves to be read to at bedtime and will look at books for a little while here and there on her own. she is still curious but i make it a learning experience. i do this for my younger daughter also. using simple words like what color the thing is she's looking at, the sound it makes, shapes, numbers, etc. if i'm interested in it, she seems to hang around longer. when i can't give her that attention and she's wondering from thing to thing, i just make sure she's not going to get hurt and that i know where she is. we're still working on cleaning up though. lol

Beth - posted on 05/07/2010

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This is absolutely normal behavior for that age. In fact if she were stopping and getting too into one activity or another for extended periods of time, that is when you would need to worry. Sounds like she is right on track developmentally, so I would not worry at all, and just stay strong and keep encouraging her!

Whitney - posted on 05/07/2010

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My little boy, who is 2 now did the same thing. My little girl just turned 1 and she is starting to be that way. I guess they are just considered in the INDEPENDANT stage. I mean she is so active she dont even want to stop and let me hold her, she wants down so she can do her own thing.

Shannon - posted on 05/07/2010

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My daughter is the same way as well. She wants to be a big girl and do everything on her own. She'll be stuck on a toy for a little bit then switch constantly. She drinks from a straw and doesn't want me to hold the cup.. I think it's completely normal.

Amanda - posted on 05/07/2010

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all my kids were like that. my 21 month old still is and will only come for a snuggle when she's getting tired.

Angie - posted on 05/07/2010

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My little guy is like this. I think it is normal busy bodies! he has started just hanging out with me on the couch while I feed his little brother a bottle (5 weeks). Sometimes it helps too if they have less toys to play with

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It's too early for diagnosing things like ADHD.

She is developing normally. Be thankful she will sit down and play with something even for a few minutes, some children when they hit the independent phase flit from one thing to another within 30 seconds.
You can try and encourage her to play with an item longer by joining in beside her with more of the same toy. Let her engage you in playing with her. For the most part at her age they enjoy playing near or beside others not with.

Other ways to encourage sit down and focus time is add into your daily routine a quiet time period where you either sit and read a book together or do a simple puzzle or colour with crayons. Expectations should be 2ish minutes to start and gradually increase as you go along.

Gotta love our busy kids!

Trishta - posted on 05/06/2010

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my son is the same way i was told that their children and they are going to be hipper.

Angie - posted on 05/05/2010

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Thanks for your comments. She just learnd how to remove the covers to the electrial outlets. We have to watch her almost every minute. Makes life interesting.

Laurie - posted on 05/05/2010

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I would tend to be worried about a non-active toddler. You don't realize just how much energy a toddler has until you try to keep up with him or her. My son was probably almost two before he started to do something for more than a few minutes at a time. He still is that way but he will for instance be playing computer games for a half hour but jump from one game to the next every few minutes. He's 2.5 years old now.

Heather - posted on 05/05/2010

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its their age! She is about to enter into the terrible twos. I have a 17 month old that acts the same way! Just because a child is active does NOT mean they are hyperactive!

Babalwa - posted on 05/05/2010

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Yho,thats for all your replies coz my son is also the same.He would play with a toy or look at a book for a sec then goes on to doing something else.Its comforting to know that others mothers kids also went through this phase...

Julie - posted on 05/04/2010

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My husband has ADD, and there's a strong possability that my boys do too. ADD is Attention Deficet Disorder. Maybe your thinking ADHD. ADD, some of the red flags are being VERY particular about certain foods, colors, toys, and schedules. Also, they have a hard time remembering certain things. That's because they can't focus enough at times to remember what happened. If these are the cases, as it is with my 2.5yr old, I recomend staying away from Meds. Instead have a modyfied diet, only watch full length movies, not TV shows that have constant inturruptions, calm and understanding, and OMEGA-3 Fish oil gummies, and the eggs that have it too. These things help me with my little boy.

Katy - posted on 05/04/2010

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Does she take naps durring the day? If not, that might be a flag, but still don't worry... Every kid is different, and I know they do often go from one thing to another quickly. (At this age, they have a short attention span.) Completely normal, but if you're concerned about it, you should definetly ask your doctor at her next check up.

Kathy - posted on 05/04/2010

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no this is normal behavior. as your DD ages, she'll have more focused play but right now she's taking in everything she can as fast as she can

Lindsay - posted on 05/04/2010

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My daughter is the same way, it started around 16 - 17 months, she is 19 months now and showing no sogns of slowing down! I have learned to just pick a central location and sit and watch her most of the time. I have given up on trying to read books with her. It is wonderful though because I am able to get a lot done well she is so busy! A single toy keeps her busy for no more than 2 minutes.

They need to find a way to bottle this toddler energy so the parents have some and can keep up :)

Kytama - posted on 05/04/2010

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My daughter is the same. We thought about ADD fir a while too, but they say ADD kids can't concentrate. Alltough she needs a lot of attention and can only play with a toy for a sec, she is able to concentrate good enough. She is now almost 3yr and she is less of a tornado. She's still very active and NOISY, but she can play on her own for a while, learns very quick and is very creative. I think it's just how she is.
I wouldn't worrie to much about ADD this soon, some babies are more active then others.
Good luck!

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