Lost interest or just nerves?

Nicole - posted on 06/03/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So, my daughter just turned 2 middle of May. I went on the depo shot as soon as I could after she was born and had my last shot Aug of 2010. I just recently got my period back which means, my body is getting back to basics and I am ovulating again. My goal was to be pregnant by her 2nd birthday because I wanted my kids around 2 years apart. My husband wanted them 3 years or longer apart. Well he's getting his wish. The thing is, when I was on or just off b.c. he was all for the "practicing" part of trying to have a baby. Now that I told him I got my first period and I may be ovulating again, he has totally backed off. I've said things to him to try to turn him on-doesn't glance my direction, walked into the room naked after a hot steamy shower-doesn't flinch. Seriously? Am I not trying hard enough? I've also got settle things out there but I know guys don't pick up on settle things. I know he wants another child, but I'm at the point thinking he really wants them like 5 years apart and I'm not ok with that. I'd like to ask him what he's really thinking now that the possibility is out there that I could become pregnant but not really want to hear what his answer is. Going back to the practicing thing, it always seemed like I was never in the mood and he did ask me at one point in time if I was still attracted to him. Ok, anyone who's been on depo knows that crap messes you up and I didn't recongnize that until after I was on it for a while...then we decided to get off to start trying again. I feel much more myself and wouldn't trade him for the world. With our 6 year anniversary coming up and a babysitter ready, I'm hoping for some us time...we'll see how that goes.
I dont where I'm going with this but maybe just a place to write it down. Thoughts of encouragement would be great or just thoughts on the situation are welcome. Thanks for anything.

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Kimberly - posted on 06/05/2011

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I agree with Rebekah, make it a fun night abut the two of you. Hell role play if you want to just dont make the night about 'making a baby'. putting pressure on him can kill the mood and make him feel used.( so I've been told!!) Just have fun as a couple for a night and leave it at that!!!!

Rebekah - posted on 06/03/2011

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Personally, I think I would "woo" him... make a night for just you two, but don't plan on having sex... make it a night for you two, be you "two" again... talk about it, make it comfortable, don't get upset if he's not "really" ready yet... you two need to talk about it and come together on common ground. Good luck!