15 month old having temper tantrums

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My 15 month old has started throwing horrible temper tantrums. Any suggestions on how to try to discourage her from doing that?

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Rachel - posted on 11/08/2011

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my fourth child is now 16months old and seems to have erupted with rage too. Ignoring him just makes it worse. A timeout for anyone under two strikes me as unrealistic. I think I'll see the most improvement when the older kids stop funnelling Halloween candy to him... I'm glad I'm not the only one. I was starting to worry about him...

Summer - posted on 11/09/2011

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when she does it, ignore her !!!! Do not give her the attention she is seeking. put her in her room and close the door. or sit her down on the floor and walk away. ( had to dothat with mine, and once she realized I wasnt watching... she stopped) other thing that can work really well is find a distraction for her....ie a favorite tv show that you have no the DVR.... my daughter likes Yo Gabba Gabba on Nick Jr, and she can be in the beginning staged of a tantrum and i pop it on and poof she is defused. but my best advice is IGNORE IT.... or try to deter it..... change her train of thought for the moment.

Stacy - posted on 01/03/2009

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I have to agree with other moms that the two best ways I know to stop tantrums is to ignore them or to mimic their behavior. I have triplets and ignoring the tantrums only works for two of them. The third one if I start throwing a tantrum next to them they usually start laughing. I was a preschool teacher for about ten years and I found that ignoring works with most kids, when they see they are not going to get the kind of reaction they wanted they usually lose interest fast.

Sarndra - posted on 01/03/2009

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Ignore your 15 month olds temper tantrums! They soon learn that it doesn't get your attention and eventually they will stop as horrible as it is.

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Summer - posted on 11/09/2011

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mimicing works GREAT too !!!! i do that to my daughter and she starts craking up instantly !!!! then forgets she was about to tantrum on me

User - posted on 09/04/2011

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First...ask yourself WHY is she throwing temper tantrums! Hardest part is to get really honest here. Did these just start out of nowhere? Has there been a big or small change in her world lately? Same day care or new children added to group? Cutting teeth? Is she experiencing over sensory stimualtion during the part of the day when she is throwing these tantrums or doesn't have a nap schedule or feeding schedule? Though there is an ongoing disagreement about schedules and children I found them to be absolutely necessary for their (and your) feelings of safety and comfort. There can be a thousand reasons a baby will throw a tantrum. Is the baby getting a reward from it? Does she still have to take her nap or do you allow her to stay up? Does she have to eat her lunch /breakfast etc or do you give up and put her on the floor to play anyway? Does she have an upset stomach or need her diaper changed or just need to have mom hold her and comfort her? As I said there are a thousand reasons but you will have to be very observant of your behavior with the child and others behaviors around the child to get a good answer for YOUR child. Good luck and respect.

Jolene - posted on 01/07/2009

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Our 18 month old started tempertantrums at 12 months. My husband and I just ignore him. It seems to work the best. Sometimes if we try to go near him he just gets worse. Eventually he will stop and all is well with the world again.

Tiffany - posted on 01/07/2009

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Mimicing the behavior may get them to stop, but in my experience my son thought it was a game. i would do it and he would laugh. So we started timeouts. i would sit him in the same spot. i usually had to sit with him because at 18 months he doesn't really know. Every time he did something wrong we put him there. One min for every year of age and the time doesn't start till they are calm and quiet. But do remember to explain to her the reason for the timeout. She probably won't understand till when she is older but she will start to understand if she acts acertain way then she will go into timeout.

Michelle - posted on 01/06/2009

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Mimicing has never helped with my kid.  At 15 months my son was not doing buch talking at all and he was easily frustrated because he didn't know how to communicate his needs, which would spark the tantrums.  Now it's usually because I'm not paying attention to him when he it trying to talk to me.  So, when he starts throwing a fit I put him in his room and close the door and let him kick and scream as much as he wants.  When he is done I go in and tell him he can either use his words to tell me what he needs, (or show me) or he can continue to throw a fit in his room.   His tantrums have gotten MUCH better now that he knows tantrums don't get him what he wants.  They haven't gone away completelyr, but it has helped.   

Amy - posted on 01/03/2009

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My daughter did the same thing. She is four now and occassionaly will try and throw a tantrum to get her way. I know a lot of people will say to just ignore the behavior, but I found when the tantrum was being thrown it was in a place I didn't feel I could just ignore it and walk away. Ignoring the behavior can work at home, but not very well in public. I found that when I talked with my daughter about what was expected when we went somewhere, she did much better. She is now 4 years old and we still do the same thing. I know communication isn't the same for a 15 month old vs. a 4 year old, but the principle is still the same. I know it may be hard, but I would explain to my daughter if she acted out in an inappropriate manner we would leave and have a time out in the car. It may seem like a hassle, but it did work. I also started doing more time outs at home for inappropriate behavior. My daughter would sit in timeout a minute for each year of age. HOWEVER, the timer would NOT start until she calmed down. If she continued to scream and yell, I would add another minute. Many of these ideas came from my Parents As Teachers sponsor. It really has made a difference. We see the definate and immediate change in behavior now that she is four.

You must remain constant in whatever you decide to do. Don't give in even though sometimes it is very difficult.

Karen - posted on 01/03/2009

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usually better to completely ignore them, leave the room and if they follow you then go to a room that they can't enter (room w/a lock on it). Let them cry it out and they will figure out that if they are throwing the tantrum then I don't get the attention that I was looking for.

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I don't know if this will stop your 15 month old's temper tantrums, but if you mimic what she does, I have noticed it makes them stop faster. Just from what I have seen.

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I don't know if this will stop your 15 month old's temper tantrums, but if you mimic what she does, I have noticed it makes them stop faster. Just from what I have seen.

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