Christine - posted on 06/09/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am at the point of pulling my hair out. My husband and I have been dealing with my child's dislike of car seats since he was born. No matter how long he was in the seat he would cry. After around a year he developed an earsplitting screech that echos off of every surface and makes every nerve in your body ache. It's not just in the car. He hasn't learned to talk at all yet, and I have been monologue-ing my butt off. He says bye-bye, and sometimes da-da. Very rarely ma-ma and baby. (which is strange because I have been a stay at home mother since six months). I know that most of the screaming and horrible fits he throws every five minutes throughout the day are probably frustration from not being able to communicate, and I have been trying different things... time out, quiet time, and teaching... to calm him. The car, however is a completely different story. For starters, the sound is so loud and in such close quarters that it is actually extremely painful. I have gotten earaches and migraines from it. We have tried CIO, ignoring him, giving him different snacks, juices, milk, water, a variety of toys, all different music at all different volumes, books, windows down, singing to him, rubbing his legs, holding his hands, being stern, screaming right back (not at him of course, and never as loud), changing his diaper, changing his outfit, pulling over and letting him run around (which is a whole-nother mess because he refuses to follow us or listen to us). NOTHING has worked. Somethings are a mere distraction but after just minutes he is back to his scream fit. It has gotten to the point where we rush through trips, and even stay home just to avoid it. But we have to drive sometimes. And long trips, 1+ hours which is usual for us because everything seems to be so far away, it is just torture. He never even naps in the car. And when we get out to use the restroom or stretch our legs, getting back in is even worse. I can't take it anymore and don't know what to do. His next doctors appt. is next month where we will hopefully discuss speech therapy, but I know that will still take a while to work enough to help him communicate.