My 18 month old keeps hitting and biting everyone.

Kristy - posted on 06/22/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I need ways to stop my 18 month old biting, hitting and pulling hair. It's driving me crazy plus it hurts too!

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Ashley - posted on 12/08/2011

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for my oldest it was immediatly stopping the behaviour and saying "ouch that made mommy hurt" or whoever it was he hurt. Some people swear by pretned crying as it gives them a visual cue of what you are feeling. My son never fell for fake crying but he did eventually get the ouch I would shout. However if he starts to laugh I would get up and walk away to show him I wasn't playing a game.
For my youngest nothing really worked at all. He drew blood on his big brothers finger which made my oldest cry but it didn't phase my baby boy at all. Then he started biting my leg and stomach out of the blue and it would leave bruises. After trying everything (except physically biting or htting him back) and nothing working I was at my wits end. Then my huband decided that the next time he bit me he was going to bop his bum. So he bit me and my husband did what he said he would with kind of a scary ":NO BITING" my son cried horribly after that but never bit me again. FYI the spank was barely a tap it was that combined with the scary voice/yell I think that made the most impact

Chris - posted on 12/08/2011

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When my oldest was a toddler, he was biting everyone! It didn't matter what we tried, we couldn't get him to stop. Finally, when he was 2, I gave him a drop of tobasco sauce when he bit is baby sister. It made him realize that it hurt his mouth when he bit.
Good luck to you!

Lori - posted on 06/22/2009

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I never had much of the issue with hitting, but I did have a big issue with him not only bitting others but himself. I remember we was sitting in a LaundryMat the last time he ever bit me or anyone else for that matter. when he still had his teeth in a death grip on my arm and I bit him back on his arm. as soon as he let go I did as well. I explained to him that it hurts me and everyone else just as bad as it hurts him. he was almost 2 when this happened. That is a last resort to try, but sometimes for the stubborn boys you have no other choice. Just to actually have them feel the pain they cause and tell them it hurts others as it hurts them when they do this I would try a sometimes a simple harsh no and a smack on the hand first. If your 18 month old is hitting and biting I'm not sure how well "time-out" would work. My little man is 4 and that seems like ages ago.

Christine - posted on 06/22/2009

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i've struggled with the same prob since my little boy was just 1 ( he's now nearly 2 1/2). I've tried so many things(time out, taking away toys etc). as well as being incredible consistant. I am now attending a behaviour group and they have recommended completly ignoring the behaviour (even if to you), If its to you get up and walk away not saying anything and carry on with another activity. If to another child give the hurt child attention only. This feels really wrong but its working with my little man. Hope this might help a little with your 18 month old's hitting and biting.

AmyBith - posted on 06/22/2009

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we had the same issue. he still has bad days. but is doing a lot better. we used a combination of time-out and pinching his arm. i really didn't want to use physical punishment, but time-out doesn't work when he's doing it when he's sleepy, etc.. that just gives him what he wants. so if i can do a timeout--even if it's just in my lap and not getting to play etc. i do that. but the pinching is also affective. now before he starts to bite sometimes he'll say--mommy pinch you, or mario time-out. he gets it. and stops himself. he's 22 months old now. it did take a couple of months. good luck.

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Jenni - posted on 12/08/2011

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Jessica - posted on 06/22/2009

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I would smack my sons mouth (not hard but hard enough to grab his attention) every time he tried or did bite me. I would also tell him when I did that biting is not nice. And a couple times of smacking his mouth he stopped.

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Unfortunately I had to start doing the same thing to my child, just not hitting. I pulled his hair and only had to bite once! He realized it really hurt and he stopped, we had tried time out and spanking then someone recommended this to me. With the hitting, i would tell him No place him away from me and leave the area he was in, every time. Some days I walked a mile just to the kitchen but after a few weeks the idea sunk in and he quit. I know pulling their hair and biting them back sounds cruel and if you are leery of trying it, putting him away from you and leaving him alone may work, just not as quickly. Good luck with your 18 month old's hitting and biting, though it is a hard age.

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Unfortunately I had to start doing the same thing to my child, just not hitting. I pulled his hair and only had to bite once! He realized it really hurt and he stopped, we had tried time out and spanking then someone recommended this to me. With the hitting, i would tell him No place him away from me and leave the area he was in, every time. Some days I walked a mile just to the kitchen but after a few weeks the idea sunk in and he quit. I know pulling their hair and biting them back sounds cruel and if you are leery of trying it, putting him away from you and leaving him alone may work, just not as quickly. Good luck with your 18 month old's hitting and biting, though it is a hard age.

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