My 2 year old is holding in her bowel movements.

Jenn - posted on 01/03/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My beautiful little girl has been "withholding" for about 6 months now. We took her to the doctor every week, changed her diet, tried suppositories, latulose, fibre supplements, you name it. We saw a GI specialist about 3 months ago, who didn't even finish examining her before admitting her to the hospital for a bowel obstruction. She is on a daily does of Peg-lyte and I am worried of her becoming dependant on it, She has mostly good days now, but her bad days are aweful. She stands sideways, screaming and crying trying to hold it. She won't sleep, won't eat, and we can't even put her near the potty. She has fissures and hemmeroids, and hates having her diaper changed. If anyone else has experienced this or has any ideas of how we can help her, please.....

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Rasheedah - posted on 04/30/2012

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My 2 Year Old is with holding her bowel movements. We just took her to a GI Specialist and the Dr. prescribed Ex Lax :( She (the doctor) said we will give her 1 tablet daily for at least 2 months. the goal is to get my 2 year old daughter to move her bowels EVERYDAY for the next couple of weeks and and she will get use to it and will eventually go easier and she will not affiliate he bowel movement with pain. She will get use to going and know that it's okay to go and know that it's not painful and it's natural. etc. etc. i hope and pray this is true. b/c when it is time for her to go, she HOLDS it with all her might! :( it's such a struggle and so exhausting for my husband and I and more importantly so exhausting and stressful for my 2 year old daughter. I'm afraid to give her adult ex lax and will wait to discuss with the GI specialist the difference between Ex Lax Tablets and Pedia Lax Tablets. I know the active ingredients are totally different (ex lax is Sennosides and pedia lax is magnesium hydroxide), but i'm afraid the Ex Las (sennoside) will be harsh on my 2 year old's stomach. i am not giving my daughter anything, until i hear back from the GI specialist, b/c looking at all the over the counter ex lax products, i decided to call the GI specialist and discuss further :( By the Way, my 2 year old daughter does not have the greatest diet, especially not high fiber, however, she does drink lots of fluids and when she does move her bowels, it is not hard and dry. It is not super soft, peanut butter consistency, but it's more like soft clay. Never the less this With Holding Bowel Movement syndrome falls into the constipation category. i just wanted to share. if anyone is going through a similar situation, we can compare notes and progress. thanks
-Rasheedah

Emma - posted on 01/04/2009

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My little boy, went through a period of "withholding" from when he was 2 to when he was about 3. It was horribly stressful for all of us. He would stand up straight and cross his legs tight to stop himself for passing. Although he had a great diet and we tried all of the things that you have written about, (eg. changing diets, suppositories, increasing water in the diet, coloxyl etc) he had become frightened of having a bowel motion because it had hurt. So I would put a good amount of barrier cream (eg sudocrem) around his bottom so that when he did have a bowel movement it would pass more easily. It took a lot of encouragement and hard work but this phase did eventually pass.

Nicole - posted on 03/19/2011

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my two year old son is doing the same thing, he screams and cries and holds it in, we are very worried. we took him to the hospital (we live in mexico and the help here is poor) they prescribed suppositories and fiber in his drinks. he started pooping ok, then a couple days later he started holding it in. his bowel movements now are huge, i don't know how he passes them out, it is obviously painful for him. when he does pass a movement it is hard, extremely hard. we are still giving him the fiber in his drinks, but he still hold back. i don't know what to do, i read on another webpage that he should be punished (with thing like ignoring him when he holds it in, not ltting him play outside, not allowing him tv time, or putting him in his room until he does have a movement-this seems harsh to me.) what am i to do, the doctors just keep telling me to use suppositories, but they can cause extreme cramping, is that really something that we want to relate with a bowel movement?

Kelly - posted on 08/31/2012

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Hi There,

We had problem with severe constipation for almost a year. It got to the point where our 3 year old son was screaming and passing huge(up to 2" in diameter) clay consistence stools. It was hard to see him suffer and the hardest part was that we didn't know what was causing his constipation.

Fist of all he is a very picky eater. He does not eat fruits and does not drink juices, period. We tried it all,encouraging, talking to him, forcing.

He would eat meat, Cheerios(his favorite), drink milk like nobody's business, but would not eat fruit or drink juice.

Long story short after getting rid of milk (completely) and giving him about 4 gummy fiber bears a day (Yummy Bears by Hero Naturals) we saw improvements. It took 2 weeks for him to become regular.

During those two weeks I was ready to give up as he loves milk and always asks for his chocolate milk. I offered him Silk but he realized that it is not the same as cow milk and refused to drink it.

It has been few months now that he is been regular and just a week ago for few days we ran out of fiber bears and he drank some of his brother's chocolate milk. To our horror I found him against the wall holding in his poop. That was it. From now on we know the routine, fiber bears and absolutely no cow milk.

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Jenn - posted on 01/04/2009

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Thanks for all of your replies! It's good to know I'm not alone in this. My husband and I are very stressed and tired, having a 4 month old as well. How did you start to encourage potty training? She is very "anti" anything to do with her bum, understandably. She fights for diaper changes, hates being washed in the bath, and will only sit on the potty in a diaper. I think it would give her some relief to poop sitting down. As for her hemerroids, the doc gave us an ointment, but hers are internal.......I feel helpless. I hate to see my baby in pain, and she can't undertstand why. How long did this last for you? My doc said she could be on the meds a year or two.

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OMG...my daughter withheld when she was 2. She was a horribly constipated infant, we put her on miralax when she turned 12 months. We weaned off...but she started withholding around 24 months. The best thing for her was to put her back on...because withholding can do things to their colon..I guess stretch it out, etc. Best thing is to be on the laxative to help her learn to not be afraid of her poop...it will just come out. Also, she needs to be on it so her fissures and hemmerhoids and her colon heal ...I feel your pain with those fissures....mine had them too.....I don't think at this point you need to be worried about her getting dependent on the lax...it's more important she gets her body healed. then, you can worry about weaning. I found once my daughter started going on the potty, she started doing really well....I guess sitting is easier to poop than standing. Talk to your doc about your worries about dependency

Sarndra - posted on 01/03/2009

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Hi there I read on another page her somewhere that someone used mylanta on fissures or witch hazel from the pharmacy is another good one to soothe them. I know when my son gets constipated I pull both his knees up to his chest while he is lying down or even one leg straight and one bent seems to make it easier to pass. You could try grapes they are great for making a child go or even coloxyl drops from the chemist. There is a kiwifuit mixture called nekta kiwifruit and they come in ice block form in the freezers you add this to a glass of water (all natural) and it makes a refreshing slushy type drink. If she will drink it and is allowed it maybe give it every day to regulate her. Depending on her age about the kiwifruit as I think they shouldn't have it till they are 8 months? and maybe half the amount so it isn't so acidy on her poor bottom.

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