my 2 year old wont listen no matter how many times i ask him or tell him.

Michelle - posted on 09/20/2009

I have been having the same problem with my 2 1/2 year old. He is picky about everything from what cup to use to what shirt to wear. He also will have days that he does everything the very opposite of what I ask. I started giving him choices and he seems to be happier about that although sometimes he changes his mind but I insist that he gets what he chose to begin with. As far as the diliberate disobience, I do have a spanking stick at my house and occasionally have to swat him on his rear. He knows what the stick is and usually I only have to warn him once and he decides to obey. I have tried time out, but it does not work for my boys at all. I am praying this"terrible two" stage will pass quickly.

Lorelei - posted on 09/20/2009

I agree with Candis, in addition to putting him in the naughty chair you have to tell him why he is in the naughty chair and when his time out is up explain to him the behavior is unaaceptable and make him say sorry and hugs, but remember be consistent

Leah - posted on 09/17/2009

I'm in the same boat, except my two year old will make himself physically sick. I don't know how to control it.

Jessica - posted on 09/17/2009

This is my suggestion.You may not like it but it is what i believe in. I spank my son. He is not two yet but he is smart and he understands. i have a ruler that i take everywhere with me. I dont beat him but i will tap his leg just enough to get his attention. After a couple of spankings he will learn what the ruler is. And whenever my son doesnt do what he is supposed to, I tell him "I am gonna get my stick" and he straightens up. Sometimes i have to just show him the stick and he will get moving. Alot of parents dont believe in spanking their children but it is a form of discipline that works in my household.

Michelle - posted on 09/16/2009

Quoting Candis:

2 year olds are tricky! You need to be patient but you also need to be firm. both of my boys were about 2 when we started time out....not long of course. It helped them to understand that they need to listen and if they didn't that there would be consequences. From what I understand the "experts" say time out should be one minuter for each year. I use the same thing and it works every time! Also as my kids have gotten older not only does it work better and better but I have to use time out less and less. So I recommend getting a "naughty chair" and putting it in a corner for those really tough moments! Hope this helps!

  I totally agree with her. my 3 and a half year old son did the same thing i just got a naughty chair and kept it in the same spot when he was bad i put him in it until he stopped screaming. but the key thing with that is dont pay any attention to him when he is in there. and when he is finally calm talkto him in a regular voice and tell him that you dont like it when he does that and tell him how much you would like it if he listens to you. another way is if you put him in his room make sure he has nothing to play with or a tv to watch. then it will take all the fun out of him being in his room. if there is things for him to play with in his room hes not going to think of it as time out. also what worked the best is taking his favorite toy away until he could prove to me that he was good. that works the best cuz my son loves cars so i took them all away and he finally realized that hes not gona get his way..be patient but consistant dont give in and he will get the hint that you are boss not him.

Candis - posted on 09/16/2009

2 year olds are tricky! You need to be patient but you also need to be firm. both of my boys were about 2 when we started time out....not long of course. It helped them to understand that they need to listen and if they didn't that there would be consequences. From what I understand the "experts" say time out should be one minuter for each year. I use the same thing and it works every time! Also as my kids have gotten older not only does it work better and better but I have to use time out less and less. So I recommend getting a "naughty chair" and putting it in a corner for those really tough moments! Hope this helps!