My 3 year old is mean to Daddy, Bubba and sometimes even Grandma. No hugs! NO kisses! Very vocal.

Jen - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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He hates getting any kisses from them. No good night, no bye-bye love. He will play in short spirts with them. It's more than a little jealous and possessive of me. He shares his feelings, but doesn't seem to care that he has an effect on others. Should I be worried? Should I talk to a doctor about it? Anybody have this happen and did the child grow out of it?

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Jessica - posted on 04/11/2010

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My son goes through that periodically when we leave my in laws. You may want to have people make a game out of it to get him to give hugs and kisses. My mom will chase him and catch him and scoop him up and snatch her kiss that way.

Jen - posted on 04/09/2010

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I'm thinking it is a phase. Exercising his athorita! last night he tells me he will kiss me, but nobody else. He also has just developed an ear infection. Daddy sleeps all day and works all night. I try to keep him busy outside during the day ...but I figure having to be quiet in a house with hardwood floors so difficult. I'm sure he gets tired of me reminding him to be quiet because daddy needs to sleep. I worried about his relationship with is dad more than anything. And his dad is very loving. It breaks my heart to see him yell and cry that he doesn't like kissing or hugging him...or anybody else.

Dara - posted on 04/08/2010

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Oh and also something I have found works is giving the affection yourself and letting them see you do it, he may be more inclined to do it on his own.

Dara - posted on 04/08/2010

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Honestly Jen, firstly I think it would definitely not hurt to put in a call to the pediatrician. But my nephew who is now 9 was like that for quite a while with a cousin of my sister and I's. And she got the same reaction, our cousin would get all bent out of shape about it and take it personally. I really think the more you push him to be nice and give affection the more he's going to dig his heals in and not do it. Obviously depending on what if anything the dr says, I would just not make it such a big deal. My daughter loves her Dad to death but has been all about holding out on kisses for a couple of weeks. I think part of it might just be them exercising their right to refuse to do something. Which is totally normal. Do not think you should be spanking him for it, and don't let them make you feel bad about it. There is no reason to over react about it, it isn't going to fix the problem. And just keep in mind, when our mothers and grandmothers were little things were a lot different. Children weren't to speak without spoken to, I mean can you imagine your kid or kids not opening their mouth unless addressed, hahahah. Not mine that's for sure. All kids go through phases and just ignoring him may make it pass more quicly than making a big deal about it. If you want to chat more or whatever I'm on and off here many times most days and am more than happy to discuss this or whatever else more with you. I love to help! :o)

Jen - posted on 04/08/2010

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His grandmother seems to think I'm under reacting to this as if I should be spanking him more. That I'm just letting him be mean. I ask for kisses, he gives me plenty. I ask if he hurt Daddy's feelings and he acts like I'm not even in the same room. He's always been "moody". That's got me worried. Turns 3 in May and already have to cope with his dislike of other family members. I love these people. And they are all starting to look to me as if I'm not handling it.

Renea - posted on 04/08/2010

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I have never had this problem unless my son was mad, but honestly I would talk to a doctor because he may have an emotional disorder. My son does....

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