My 3 year old still not talking...

Irina - posted on 12/14/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is 3 years and 3 months, and talks bad. My daughter who is 20 months talks more then him. Is that ok that he's behind or is something not right? If he wants something, he'll point instead of saying what he wants. what can i do to help him with talking more?

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Jennifer - posted on 12/18/2009

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I would take him to the doctor and have him assessed for autism. A 3 year old not talking is definitely cause for some concern. My 3 year old is talking in full sentences.

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Laura - posted on 12/21/2009

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I haven't read other peoples comments but my daughter is a talker and that is because I made her that way. When she was younger when she first started talking more I wouldn't let her point and give her what she wanted. I made her say what is was that she wanted even if it was just a single word "juice." Until she said the word she didn't get what she wanted. Now I make her say "mommy, may I have some juice please" If she just comes up to me and throws her cup at me and says "get me some juice" I just sit ignore her until she asks nicely and uses her manners. If he tries to say the word but doesn't say it right just repeat it back to him the correct way so he gets used to hearing to word said correctly. Like when my daughter wants a banana she'd say I want a nana and I'd tell her no its a BAnana and now she calls it by the right name.

Erin - posted on 12/20/2009

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see your doctor first about your 3 year old not talking, and see what programs are available to you in your state and county. Here is the web site to Michigan's program called Early On, (http://www.1800earlyon.org/) see if your state offers such a thing. It has been a wonderful help to me and my family. I have a 2 yr old who doesn't speak, or point, just kinda looks at you when he wants something. He is a middle child so his needs are met just because usually when I get it for one, I get if for all three. So when we went to the doctor he suggested I contact these people, so far, it has been a wonderful experience with a lot of positive information.

Jen - posted on 12/17/2009

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You should probably talk to you doctor about having him evaluated for a speech delay. There are probably some free evaluation programs in your area that you can get a hold of and they can refer you to a speech therapist.

In the mean time don't give in to him pointing. Make him try to say the word. If he attempts give him what he asks for. Each time challenge him to say the word as close to the correct word as possible. Some other things you can do is encourage him to name things he sees and plays with. Point to and name an object and have him repeat you. You may also have your daughter name things and take turns with the 2 of them rewarding each with lots of praise of course. Good luck.

Jaimee - posted on 12/17/2009

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go to your pediatrician and talk to him or her about your 3 year old not talking. My daughter just went for a general check up and her pediatrian said that at 2 and a half she should be able to say at least 50 words, and identify basic body parts such as the ears, eyes, nose, arms, legs and ears. I would recommend getting a educational cd for the car that goes over the abc's and 123's and reading and showing him figures and practicing speaking with him daily. good luck and God bless

Kathleen - posted on 12/15/2009

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First, go to your pediatrician, express your concerns about your 3 year old not talking and get his hearing tested to be sure there are no issues there.

Next, talk to your local elementary school, ours has a speech therapist who will evaluate children who are three and up for speech problems. He may need a bit of help. If so, most schools will provide that help. (I know a child who at the age of 6 could barely put coherent words together. He had a speech impediment that he has since overcome and is doing well.)

Then:

You need to encourage him to use words rather than pointing when he wants something.

At some point, you may have to refuse to get something until he learns to use words.

Be sure to say the name of everything you hand to him.

The moment he says anything inteligible, lots of praise and hugging should be given.

Boys do sometimes develop slower than girls so unless you feel there are other areas where he seems to be behind, there is probably nothing to worry about.

Erin - posted on 12/20/2009

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see your doctor first about your 3 year old not talking, and see what programs are available to you in your state and county. Here is the web site to Michigan's program called Early On, (http://www.1800earlyon.org/) see if your state offers such a thing. It has been a wonderful help to me and my family. I have a 2 yr old who doesn't speak, or point, just kinda looks at you when he wants something. He is a middle child so his needs are met just because usually when I get it for one, I get if for all three. So when we went to the doctor he suggested I contact these people, so far, it has been a wonderful experience with a lot of positive information.

Jaimee - posted on 12/17/2009

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go to your pediatrician and talk to him or her about your 3 year old not talking. My daughter just went for a general check up and her pediatrian said that at 2 and a half she should be able to say at least 50 words, and identify basic body parts such as the ears, eyes, nose, arms, legs and ears. I would recommend getting a educational cd for the car that goes over the abc's and 123's and reading and showing him figures and practicing speaking with him daily. good luck and God bless

Kathleen - posted on 12/15/2009

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First, go to your pediatrician, express your concerns about your 3 year old not talking and get his hearing tested to be sure there are no issues there.

Next, talk to your local elementary school, ours has a speech therapist who will evaluate children who are three and up for speech problems. He may need a bit of help. If so, most schools will provide that help. (I know a child who at the age of 6 could barely put coherent words together. He had a speech impediment that he has since overcome and is doing well.)

Then:

You need to encourage him to use words rather than pointing when he wants something.

At some point, you may have to refuse to get something until he learns to use words.

Be sure to say the name of everything you hand to him.

The moment he says anything inteligible, lots of praise and hugging should be given.

Boys do sometimes develop slower than girls so unless you feel there are other areas where he seems to be behind, there is probably nothing to worry about.

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