my 4 year old refuses to poo on toilet at home bt does it at creche.does it when a nappy is put on him and in the backyard or hides under the table.he says he wants to poo sits on the toilet and does nothing then runs and hides under table and does the deed.so concerned please help

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Mary - posted on 06/29/2012

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Just keep on putting him on there after he goes, even if he screems that he doesn't have to go any more. He will get the idea thats where he needs to do it. If you have to swat his but tell him that he doesn't do that there and put him on the toilet. my girls 2 and 3 are both potty trained already and thats how we got it through their heads.

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Julie - posted on 07/03/2012

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i found bringing my 2 kids up that they will act more like babies for me than for anyone else becasue when i left them they wanted lots of attention when they returned home. 4 years old should not still be in nappies at any time so i would stop that. when the deed as you put it is done under the table or where ever else then you need to tell the child it is wrong and dirty and that it should only be done in the toilet. do you have a smaller toilet training seat on the toilets in the creche are smaller and more child friendly so it would be nicer for the child to go rather than looking at this great big thing with a gaping hole that they would fall into and land in all that horrible water and how would i get out. think like the kid and on the kids height and see how it looks then try to find a way to make it more friendly and not so scarey. there are seats steps and an array of things out there. even a little child size potty that is actualy shaped like a toilet and systern

Ivy - posted on 06/29/2012

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I would recommend spanking your son when he poos on the floor. I would tell him that isn't how it is done and that everyone does it on the toilet. It might be that your a girl and he doesn't want you to watch him. If you can step outside the room or turn your back. We forget we don't like doing poos with others in the room and neither do children.

I reward my daughter with praise after she uses the big girl toilet. I say what a big girl she getting to be. She is very proud of herself.

Remember to relax. If your husband and yourself is going to be frustrated then he is going as well. You could offer him a reward every time he goes on the toilet and tell him he will get a reward. You could have a chart or stickers or whatever you think he will like.

Potty training is a process that we all had to learn. Some children are quicker than others. Give him some time as it is a complete new change for what he knows and what he is use to.

Vanessa - posted on 06/28/2012

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Thanx Mary for the advice ive even tried putting him on the toilet bt then he screams and says he doesnt have a poo my husband is getting so frustrated with our son that he wants to take him to see a psychologist.very concerned mum needing more ideas on toilet training for number two's.

Mary - posted on 06/28/2012

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just be consistant, when he goes on the floor you tell him that he was naughty and that he does that on the tolilet, put him on the toilet and leave him there for a few mins. even if he doesn't go.

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