Trish - posted on 10/30/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
PLease tell me my almost 4 yr old is going through a phase???? It is causing such a rift between my husband and I, not to mention I'm so stressed out and upset about this. Here's the deal - he really is a sweet boy overall. I am a working mom and he goes to preschool (of course he's a gem there all day). When we get home at night he'll play for a bit and we try to all eat at the table together (so important). Then we do baths and play some more. OOPS forgot to mention I have a 2 yr old daughter as well. When I ask Jackson to do something ie. pick up your toys, he gets really nasty. He'll yell then I try to stay calm. I try to make a race out of it, or we;ll do it together. He may throw the toy, he'll yell at me, I put him in time-out and he will laugh right at me. Just yesterday we reintroduced the time-out spot and behavior charts. We all sat as a family and talked about the spot and what behaviors will cause you to sit, and how to stay out. About 10 min. after he would not get changed and I was talking so nicely to him, he finally got changed then got very nasty, I told him if he continued to talk nasty he would have to sit in time-out. He talked nasty so I wanted to follow throug, i put him in time-out. He said I don't care I'll keep getting out. I told him I would keep bringing him back. It started off badly - then got worse. As I was putting him back for the 4th time - he hit me in the face. I was extremely upset. Then my husband FLIPPED OUT - he got so angry and mad. It just made matters escalate. My son get very nervous...I think the laughing is a defense mechanism. My husband was beside himeself that my little son hit me. His freaking out made everyone even more upset, then we started arguing. It was a MESS to say the least. My husband is not proud of himself for the screaming and freaking out, I'm upset that I let me kids be part of that behavior. Please Please Please any advice would be welcomed.
My husband is only child - he did not have any experience with children. I am a teacher - so he thinks and will call me a know-it-all when I try to explain why I think Jackson is acting the way he does. We have had a long talk about this. I told him I'm learning right along with him.
I appreciate the help ladies!!!!!