My daughter Joelle

Faren - posted on 03/21/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

She has been doing this temper things. She screams NO ALL THE TIME and is FALLING OUT! I do the time out things but it doesnt seem to work! Can you help me to help her?

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Jennie - posted on 03/21/2009

MY 2 year old is very stubborn (just like his daddy). I've noticed that if he is tired or hungry, the temper tantrums are worse. Sometimes, it's not so much a temper tantrum, but his blood sugar is low and he's hungry. If I can distract him with a healthy snack (peanut butter and crackers, cheese, some juice), typically I can stall a temper tantrum and he's easier to deal with.

If he's too tired, I don't even try. I just deal w/ the screaming, get him ready for bed and do whatever I can to help him go to sleep.

Sometimes, I have to tell him that if he wants to cry, he'll have to go to his room and cry there because no one wants to hear it. It works. (sometimes I have to "help" him to his room, though.) I let him know that he can come out when he's ready to be nice and stop screaming at me. However, no matter how irritated and furious I am, I have to be calm. Children learn by example and when we lose control, they think it's OK for them to lose control. So, if I'm trying to teach him to control his temper, I have to show him how it's done. The more attention you give her when she's throwing her temper tantrum, the more she's going to do it. If you isolate her in her room or somewhere she can't be seen, she might quit sooner. And completely ignore her while she's screaming and she'll soon learn that her temper tantrums will get her no where. It may take a few times before she gets the message, but it might be something to try.

Michelle - posted on 03/21/2009

It has been my experience that the calmer the child's surroundings (and the people around her), the calmer the child will be. All kids have phases, of course. Let her know that you don't like the behavior and then try to ignore it, without letting her think that you approve or that she will get what she wants or get attention. They learn best by example.