my son isn't talking

Urhuemu - posted on 03/13/2010 ( 36 moms have responded )

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my son is 2yrs and 5 mths old and only able to say mommy, daddy, take, give me and bye, he still does alot of babbling, i try to teach him new words but he is not interested in learning them, should i be worried?

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Lacey - posted on 03/19/2010

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I would talk to the pediatrician it may be that he just does not want to talk. Sometimes ear problems or physical development of the mouth can cause speech delay. My daughter has autism which can cause speech delay and she did not talk on time. Autism can cause several symptoms and very with each child. The sooner you talk to the pediatrician the sooner you will know that you do not have anything to worry about.

Sonia - posted on 03/18/2010

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All parents are worried when their child doesn't do something in the "normal time frame". I know I was. My pediatrician told me that anything they repeatedly call something is a word and that is considered talking. For example my son always called juice buc, but it was more of like a raspberry sound to it. The doctor said that is part of his vocabulary. I thought he was never going to start using words. My mom thought something was wrong with his hearing and wanted me to get him tested. I listened to my Dr who said all kids will do things in their own time. My problem was also that he would just point or grunt and bat his handsome eyes and I would give him everything.

So I just started to tell him I didn't know what he wanted and he needed to use his words. He started saying two word phrases when most children are saying 3. Now at 2 years and 8 months he just wont stop talking... Everything is Why mommy why?

I found reading to him, letting him watch shows that encourage him to try to say new words (Dora) and not giving him things until we used words helped..

Mary - posted on 03/16/2010

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my daughter wasnt talking much we noticed it around the time she was 18 mos. she is 4 now and does speech therapy and occupational therapy. she has speech delay and sensory processing disorder. she is doing very well now. I hope it all works out for you!

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Emily - posted on 03/25/2010

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Do not listen to any of these posts that say "do not worry"!! If you do live in the US like other posts have said have your child tested by the Early Intervention program through your school district and have your childs hearing tested. I have also learned recently that it can be the flap of skin under a childs tongue that may be the problem also so get that checked out too. If the flap is too long, their tongue cannot do its work for the child to speak. If the flap is too long, it is an outpatient procedure to cut a small portion of it to be correct. I really wish you the best of luck. Do not wait, the longer you wait the more your child can fall behind and this is a very serious matter.

Shauna - posted on 03/21/2010

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my kids have not had this problem but my brothers son was the same way he said a few words and then babble up until he was 3 it was just his way talking i guess at that age i wouldnt worry to much but i would get it checked out you can never be to sure.

Manuela - posted on 03/21/2010

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I would not worry, my son would not say a word until he was 3 he would point to things he needs, pull on my clothes when he needs me, he's teachers even told me to talk to his peds, I did, but never saw a specialist, now I can't get to keep quiet with the what's this and that.You can check a Dr but I would not worry cause he's talking just not a lot of vocabulary, he'll be fine.

PerryJoy - posted on 03/21/2010

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My son had the same thing! He didn't start talking until he was just over 3 yrs old. One thing to consider is whether he had many ear infections, sometimes that causes a delay. I dont worry anymore cause all children are different. Now my son is 3 and half and talks ALL the time and has gone over his stages of level he is suppose to be at. He all of a sudden began talking alot one day and never stopped. Another thing is that if the child is learning more than one language. Great Day!

Jackie - posted on 03/20/2010

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Hi..I have a son that is 11 years old now, but he started to say full sentences when he was 4 years old..Although we tried everything he just had no intrest in talking (except for the few words yours says and the babbling)..He since then is in speech therapy and has been since age 4..He'll come around, just hang in there..

Leslie - posted on 03/20/2010

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All kids are different but I'd get him checked out just to be sure . Good luck . Have u tried flash cards.

Jaime - posted on 03/20/2010

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Look up and contact your local Early Intervention office or your pediatrician and arrange to have him evaluated. My son has been receiving speech therapy for over a year because he has a speech delay. His is talking a lot better now (he is almost 3 1/2) and will hopefully catch up by the time he is 5. It takes a lot of work and dedication but it is worth it to make sure your child has the brightest future possible. Boys are also more prone to speech delays!

Damonie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Although he may not be saying too much, do you get the impression that at least he understands what you say to him? My 9 yr old son was the same way at that age, but he understood everything I said to him, and he's just fine now. However, my 5 yr old didn't say much, and he's been diagnosed as mildly autistic. So basically, just because he's not saying a lot doesn't really mean anything - it depends. I agree with what other moms have said about seeing a specialist just to be sure.

Janine - posted on 03/19/2010

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I would definately have him checked out. Our son didn't talk at 2 yr 10 months and had him evaluated (which was a bad diagnosis). When he still wasn't talking at over 4 years we had him re-evaluated and was dianosed ASD, Autism Spectum Disorder. If we had known earler I would have been much easier on him and all of us!!

Lacey - posted on 03/19/2010

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The younger the child gets help in almost any situation the better their chances are at fullfilling their potential. My daughter has been in school since she was three and she got speech therapy at two she is now in kindergarden and is very high functioning!

Melissa - posted on 03/19/2010

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I'm going through this now with my youngest who is 27 months old. The pediatrician sent her to the ENT and everything checked out there. We went to a child development center sponsored by the state and they diagnosed her with a speech delay. She has just started in the program and there is already a difference. It helped me feel better that it wasn't just me and just making minor modifications to the way we do things has had an impact in just the past month.

Kristin - posted on 03/19/2010

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My daughter is 20 months and she says a few words quite clearly and some she tends to chop up a bit like truck is tuk, sock is suk, ball, is buh. I would suggest that if you are concerned to speak with your doctor about it. I'm sure everything is fine, I know they say every child develops differently and its possible that he is just taking his time. If it helps, my mother told me that I was alomst 3 before I started to talk. She said that all I did was mumble, no real words at all other than mommy, daddy. She even had me tested to see if I was deaf or had any other developmental problems, and the doctor told her I was perfectly fine and that I would talk when I was ready. And as she loves to tell the story, "Once she started talking, she never stopped!"



Best wishes!

Kristin

Amy - posted on 03/19/2010

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While every child is different, my son did the same pointing and grunting with no talking. Later it turned out his speech may or may not have been delayed by the Cystyomalanoma (spelling may be off), but its where the ear wax is wet and sticks to the ear drum and if untreated by a ENT may cause ear damage and hearing loss.

So it doesn't hurt to get it checked out.

Suzy - posted on 03/19/2010

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try not to worry all children learn at differenrt ages you could talk to your health visitor about it to rule out any hearing or speach problems. You might find he knows more than you think but chooses not to say them some children find if things happen without them needing to speak like making funny noises and you get them there juice so theres no reason for them to use words kids are very clever. Try encouraging him to ask for things use lots of reward s try to chat to him about what he is doing and what you are doing try songs nurery rhymes and games.

Amy - posted on 03/18/2010

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I wish you the best of the luck first off, it can be difficult. If you live in the USA contact the school! My son has been getting so much help from the Early Childhood Special Education program since he was 18 months and wasn't talking at all. Turns out he is developmentally delayed, but at the age of 4 - almost 5 he will be able to start kindergarten this year BUT I have decided to hold him back for his own good and mine for the other 12 years of school. Otherwise seek a Behaviorialist Pediatrician who can get you speech and other therapies he may need.

God Bless!

Maria - posted on 03/17/2010

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I think if you haven't already you should get his hearing tested. Our 8 week old has just been diagnosed with a hearing problem which should be sorted with hearing aids once we get them, but loss of hearing can really affect the child's ability to learn, including learning to talk properly. Sorry I hope this doesn't bum you out but it's better to catch it now if hearing is the issue. Otherwise he might just be taking his own good time in which case I would recommend encouraging singing and just spending a lot of time talking to him. My Mum talks non stop and she looked after my first child until she was 14 months old so her speech is excellent!!!

Mary - posted on 03/17/2010

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glad I could help! its easy to say 'oh he'll be fine...' but if you have worries always talk to your docotor there are plenty of resources to help kids catch up.

Amanda - posted on 03/17/2010

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Do worry, by your sons age they should have 100s of words. Please look into getting his speech checked out. My son also only said those words, everyone said the same very excuses that were posted here, so I didnt worry. By age 5 he needed intense speech therapy, so intense his first year of school was just that, everything they did all day was really speech therapy.





By 24 Months

follows two-step directions – “Go find your teddy bear and show it to Grandma”

uses 100 to 150 words

uses at least two pronouns – “you”, “me”, “mine”

consistently combines two to four words in short phrases – “Daddy hat”, “truck go down”

enjoys being with other children

begins to offer toys to peers and imitates other children’s actions and words

people can understand his/her words 50 to 60 per cent of the time

forms words and sounds easily and effortlessly

holds books the right way up and turns pages

“reads” to stuffed animals or toys

scribbles with crayons



By 30 Months

understands the concepts of size (big/little) and quantity (a little, a lot, more)

uses some adult grammar – “two cookies”, “bird flying”, “I jumped”

uses more than 350 words

uses action words – run, spill, fall

begins taking short turns with other children, using both toys and words

shows concern when another child is hurt or sad

combines several actions in play – feeds doll then puts her to sleep; puts blocks in train then drives train and drops blocks off

puts sounds at the start of most words

produces words with two or more syllables or beats – “ba-na-na”, “com-pu-ter”, “a-pple”

recognizes familiar logos and signs – McDonalds golden arches, stop sign

remembers and understands familiar stories

Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

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dont worry so much my yougest ıs nearly 2 and she can only say mummy and daddy but ıs learning more and more from other children her age it wıll take some tıme my oldest started talkıng really early and my youngest ıs not every chıld has there own time

Elisa - posted on 03/16/2010

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Is he an only child? Sometimes children need interaction with other children to get them going. When I was young my speech didn't take off until my mother started watching other children in our home, after that my speech took off like a rocket. Other than that it just may be he is a late bloomer which I wouldn't worry too much about.

Van - posted on 03/16/2010

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Don't take it in a hurry, different child have different milestones. time will come that you'll be surprised of what he can do. Teaching then with things that they don't feel like doing will not help. they learn by themselves with our support and the rest of the family.

Sasha - posted on 03/16/2010

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id say what most people on here have said and its nothing to worry about unless you have any other concerns.. my son was 2 and a half and would only say a few words..i was worried at first because he was refuse to take part in anything i was trying to teach him not hes interested and learning :) so just give him time ..

Ashley - posted on 03/16/2010

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my son just turned three and he still does alot of babbling we've taken him to doctors and they've all said he's fine he's just learning at his own pace but him being an only child doesn't help, but we have him repeat words we say all the time. Don't worry they'll get it soon

Karla - posted on 03/15/2010

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hi my son is 3 and still not talking alot to i took him to the doctor doctor said dont worry most babys are diferent from others my saids alot of words but not complete sentences keep on practice with your baby and just have patient prety soon you will see a great improvement

Christine - posted on 03/14/2010

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If his comprehension of what you are saying and asking him to do is good, he may just not be physically there yet. Our son was three when he really began talking, up until then he only said about 10 words, but he understood everything we said, responded to requests and commands, and let us know with gestures and sign language what he wanted if he couldn't say it. He is now 7, and while he has trouble with the "th" in some words (a very common speech issue), he talks a mean streak. In fact, there are many days when I would love some quiet. But he's #2 of 5, so he isn't the only culprit. By the way, or 21 month old is still very adept at gibberish, and says few words, but also has a great comprehension. There is such a wide range of what is really okay. Check it out if you can't stand the thought of him "being behind" , but be confident that you do know best in the long run--you are with him everyday.

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At that age my son could say mama, dada, dog, bye bye, hi, and nigh nigh. Of course he babbled all the time. But, I worried that he didn't say more words that I could understand. Then after age 2 1/2 he really started talking. He'd surprise me with new words every day.

Amber - posted on 03/14/2010

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i would be. i noticed that at the age of one my son could only say mama and dada and they didnt have meaning (they were related to the person) so i took him to an ENT (ear nose and throat specialist) and we found out that he had negitive pressure in the tube between his nose and his ear and it was sucking his ear drum in so when he heard us it sounded like he was underwater. the ent said that it is hard for alot of dr.s to diaganose it bc. they are usualy only looking for infections. since then we got him a teacher and she has been working w/ his speech but that was 8 months ago and now he can talk so much better and he understands commands and associates words w/ objects now. so it wouldnt hurt to get his ears check, at least if they dont find anytihng then you know that he can hear.

Keyonna - posted on 03/14/2010

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I had the same concern for my 18 month old. When i mentioned it too his pediatrician he told me as long and he/she can understand when u ask them to do something and is following commands...not to worry all children are different and they will talk when they are ready

Sarah - posted on 03/14/2010

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If you live in the US call your local school. They can connect you up with the local AEA (area education agency)/early intervetion and have him evaluated for his speech and hearing. If they find a delay they will start speech therapy. All this is free. The earlier the better though because as they get closer to school age the early intervention program phases out and then it is more with the school system. If there is a delay the longer you wait the longer the delay gets.

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hi, try not to worry all children are different, but i would go to your doctor/health visitor and have a talk they maybe able to give you some advice, have you had his ears checked ??

when my daughter was about 18months she could say a few words, turned out she could talk more but didnt have to because she would just point and moan for things and i would just give them to her!! so i stopped just giving her things.
and when she pointed for a biscuit i said "do you want a biscuit" and she would say "yes" i would then ask her to say "biscuit" and after a while she knew she wasnt goin 2 get anything unless she tried to say what she wanted. she is now 23months and doesnt stop talking lol.

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I would be if a child of mine at that age wasnt tlking more then that yet. Is he an only child? Even if he is i would go to your Dr and get him checked out because maybe some sort of speach therapist would be able to work with you and ur son to get him to tlk more!

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