my son who is almost 4 DOES NOT listen to me, and screams he hates me, what do i do?
Cynthia - posted on 02/10/2010
The most important thing you can do to help this is to make sure you are 100% consistent in every thing you do with him. have him help you make a list of house rules and try not to use the word no in them: example:
we use walking feet in the house
we use quiet voices in the house
we use kind words with our friends and family
we clean up our messes
you get the idea.. also don't forget to add fun rules like "we have TONS of fun all day"
directly across from these rules put in consequences for not obeying the rules. make sure you follow this 100% of the time and every day when he wakes up read the rules together.
i suggest you watch some episodes of "super nanny" go to www.hulu.com and search for it in their "TV" section its a fantastic show about a professional who goes from home to home helping families re-gain control in their homes. this woman really knows what she is doing. the website is free you may have to sign up but you don't need a credit card or anything.
wishing you the best of luck.
ps. im a stay at home mom as well and also a child care provider so if you ever need to vent or need someone to talk to feel free to message me!
Laura - posted on 02/08/2010
maybe he only listens to your husband because you are the main disiplinarian in your family (obviously because you are home with him all the time) so when daddy talks it is different so he listens. My son is 3 1/2 and he is starting to not listen so we grab his hands make him look us in the face and ask him if his listening ears are on then we say what we have to say. It doesn't always work but its a starting point and I will be reading the other replies posted for more tips.
Karen - posted on 02/08/2010
acknowlegde that you hear him by saying that nice or thats ok and then tell him that it doesn't matter because you love him. they soon get over this faze then they start listening again its just a test of how much they can push your butons and get their own way
Bonnie - posted on 02/08/2010
i think you should contact some kind of support group or group that wil help you with these issuse they need to be resolvesd soon u cant keep calling your hubby and ur lil man nust know you are also BOSS goodluck chik i hear what ur saying i hope you get some help soon
Magan - posted on 02/08/2010
My son who will be 4 in april will NOT listen to me, but he will listen to anything his daddy has to say.... If i ask him to pick his toys up, he screams NO at me and then will not do it.. normally after him telling me no he screams that he hates me and that he doesnt like me.... It really upsets me that he says that to me since i have taken care of him the last 4 years with feedings, baths, diapers, everything and both of us almost passing away while birthing him... I have tried the time outs and they dont work.. the spanking doesnt work for him and i normally count to three and if he doesnt do what i tell him then i call his daddy since my son will listen to him, but i can keep calling my husband to disipline him while he is at work or at school... im a stay at home mother and its really hard to have to put up with this kind of behavior all the time, seems like i never get a break from my son yelling at me....
Bonnie - posted on 02/08/2010
here in the aus we have some groups or people that will come to your house and help you with things routines any behavourill needs lol but maybe there is an underlying problem i have a 4 year i know what they are like full on hey
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