Need help with toilet training.

Karon - posted on 06/02/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My almost 4 year old has been dry with wee for a long time now but he still won't pooh in the toilet. It's an ongoing battle. He's the youngest of 6, no medical problems stopping him and the only one we've had this problem with. He isn't scared of the toilet because he will occasionally pooh there (usually when we bribe him with a treat) but he won't willingly go to the toilet. He has amazing bowel control because he waits until night time when he has his nightime pull ups on - then lo and behold - he poohs. He even comes down and tells you he's done it. HELP. It's driving me nuts!

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Lisa - posted on 06/05/2010

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If he has a BM about the same time every night you might try taking him to the potty at that time and wait until he goes. My Daughter was afraid the first time she had a BM in the potty but I just reassured her that it was fine and it was nothing to worry about. That that was were her BM's were suppose to go. I hope this was helpful.

Carthelle - posted on 06/05/2010

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I think the underwear idea at night might help, at that age they don't like the feeling and the underwear will make it a worse feeling for him, as for bribing? That just makes the child in control and not the parent on my opinion

Stephanie - posted on 06/05/2010

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I feel your pain. When we were potty training our son we went straight from the diaper to big boy underpants. No inbetweenies. We did have a few pee accidents then he started going on the potty. When it came to poo that is a whole nother story. We could not get him to go on the potty to save his life. He would hide in the corner when he was going. Everyone I talked to about this issue said the same thing, cuz like you I was at my wits end. They all said it is a security issue with them. they feel like they are loosing a part of themselves when they let it go in the potty. Eventually what worked with us was making him feel bad about getting Thomas the Train dirty. (That was the underwear he picked out). I don't know if this really helps at all since your little guy won't go at all and mine just wouldn't go in the potty, but my suggestion is to get rid of the pull-ups. If you know he won't have a pee accident at night he can only hold the poo for so long. If it persists to the point that he makes himself sick I would talk to his doc. But usually they will go before they make themselves sick. Let him know that he's not going to get the pull-up at night anymore so it either go on the potty or get his underwear dirty. I hope this helps or at least lets you know that there are more of us out there that struggle with the poo too. Wish me lick cuz son #2 get potty trained this summer. Hopefully we can get him going with no problems. Sorry about the length I tend to ramble.

Karon - posted on 06/02/2010

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Thanks guys. Yup, tried the bribe. That got him telling us that: ...:"if I do a pooh on the toilet you will buy me Chuggington". Little scam artist that he is - did do a pooh. As for the pullups, well no he doesn't wet the bed but if he hasn't done a pooh during the day and we don't put pull ups on him that night - he holds on to the pooh and ends up sick. Like I said - incredible bowel control. Nevertheless, we shall perservere with the bribery. Thanks again.

Zita - posted on 06/02/2010

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Just a thought but maybe if he hadn't the security of pullups at night he wouldn't do it then??

Monica - posted on 06/02/2010

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wow... have u tried bribing him?? :P seriously though, my son's almost 4 as well, and he wipes himself!! (i just do a double check)
i would try and bribe him, seriously, if you know that he CAN do it... and once he's been bribed a few times, (maybe a toy that he wants or whatever) then he has no excuses!!! Does he still wet the bed?? If not, he doens't need pullups!! No excuses for him!! :P :P Good luck!!!

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