Wendy - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )
Ok heres the situation. I am a stay at home mom of 2 kids. Hunter is 3 1/2, Rylee is 2, along with my step-daughter Brooke who is 10. We have been having serious problems with Hunter since he was about 9 months old. He hits, bites, scratches, slaps, kicks, spits, and anything else that you can think of. Ive tried time outs, putting him in his room, taking away his toys and/or favorite things, spanking, and even therapy. Nothing seems to be working. I even tried rewarding him for good behavior, but then he starts expecting something even when hes bad. When he gets in trouble he laughs. And then acts worse. And now, Rylee is following in his footsteps. Im to the point that I dont know what to do. I could really use some advice. Im at a loss.
My husband works a lot, 6 days a week, so when he comes home he just sits down and plays his video games until he goes to sleep. He never does anything around the house, or with the kids and I. I feel like Im doing this all on my own, even when hes here. I try to tell him that the kids need their daddy, I need my husband, and that he needs to start helping me. He blows me off. And when he actually does get up to disipline them, his first responce is to spank them. Ive tried telling him that we need to find another way but nothing ever changes. How do I get him to understand that I cant do this by myself without actually doing it by myself? I love him very much but I just cant do this anymore. PLEASE HELP!!!