needing some help and advice. . .almost 3 year old that has tantrums about everthing. . panics when water gets in his face and will not wash let you wash his hair without a battle. . . the pickest eater I have ever seen. . .no meat & no veggies. . . allergic to cows milk. . . loves fruit, chicken nuggets, fish sticks and Ramon soup. I have been reading some of the posting about the same stuff with other parents and the kids and people are talking about diet has a lot to do with it and you should give them this or that but what do you do when your options for foods he will eat are so slim? Should I even worry about it?

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Carla - posted on 02/05/2009

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Thanks for all of your help and reccomendations. It is nice to know that I am not alone.

Terri - posted on 02/04/2009

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OT is Occupational Therapist. You can find them at a rehab center or from your pediatrician. My son was diagnosed when he was two going on three; however, they are saying that diagnosis can be younger--should be younger. It is always good to look into. Usually, children go undiagnosed for years. When he was entering Pre-school this year the Child Study Team working with me said that the limit for a public school intervention was age 5, but it should be at 3 or 4. They said that new studies are coming out to diagnose it younger with earlier intervention to prevent and cure before the school years start. If you ask any rehab for an Occupational Therapist...they will know exactly what you are talking about. For my son, he is hyposensitive (the opposite of hyper) and is sensory seeker. He needs to be wrapped tightly in blankets, have hard hugs and deep massage. It makes an incredible difference in his reaction to circumstances and relating to people when we consistently work with him. For food, he used to (Thankfully he is over it now!) stuff his mouth, because it affected his tounge and mouth and he would not swallow--he didn't feel his mouth very well and it didn't feel like it had food in it. It did affect his speech as well. The opposite is a hypersensitive child they will spit out food and not like certain textures, and are extremely sensitive to anything in the face or change in water temperatures, like you described. It is an incredibly interesting! And very correctable when they are young. Again, ask your pediatrician for a good OT, some pediatricians have not heard of Sensory Integration Dysfunction, but any OT has. It has been around for years, but not recognized until the late 90s as an actual condition. Occupational Therapy has made monumental strides in helping kids with it! The children are all bright, but react to their environment with one area over stimulated.

Hang in there! This is just food for thought, and something to help you deal with behavior that you know is not what it should be. I felt insane for a while, until we got help for our little one! He is doing so much better now heading into Kindergarten next year much more normal and doing well in preschool. He is in regular preschool, I might add because his condition didn't qualify him for any help since he wasn't 5 yet! The laws will be changed, according to our public school Child Study Team...the treatment is occupational therapy where they give practical solutions!

Carla - posted on 02/04/2009

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What do you mean by OT below?



Thanks for the great information and resource. . . I have been to the website and think that I should at least have it checked out. I just wonder if he is too young? Most of the things I am seeing people post are kids that are 4 and over.



 



Quoting Terri:

Don't worry about it! My daughter was the same way, she has leveled out. She is allergic to milk as well! The doctors I know say that a toddler needs to eat about the size of their fist every meal, and they eat what they need instinctively, they are better at it than we are...no bad habits formed. Not much food is good with all the obesity that goes around. She still eats about the same diet!

My youngest was diagnosed the Sensory Integration Dysfunction. Which describes some of the symptoms your child is having. It is not a big deal to have like ADHD or any like that. It is treatable and if you catch it early, your child will have a successful entry into school. An Occupational Therapist will diagnose it. Read the "Out of Sync Child." Your child may not have it, but his behavior sounds just like it. My youngest was diagnosed with it, and has taken a 90 degree turn around with some treatment in just a couple of months. (He is 4.) My friend's son had it and was treated ages 4 & 5. He is now 14 and an honor student. If she didn't encourage me to seek treatment...he would have major behavior behavioral problems. This is not to worry you, just an idea about his behavior. Diet should not affect a child that much, unless you are feeding him pure sugar and carbs.

With Sensory Integration Dysfunction the child can be hypersensitive, not like texture of certain foods, the sensation of water on his face or the feel of soap. His nervous system is over sensitive and feels every little thing much more than the average child. He may even panic in a room of people or lots of noise too. The OT will work with him, and give you ways to cope with the the reactions. They work beautifully. There may be family members that are super sensitive as well, it is hereditary. Also, if untreated he can have behavioral and academic issues as he enters school. This is food for thought, I am an advocate of this...watching a few children get treatment and see almost immediate results is incredible! You will be in my prayers!





 

Terri - posted on 02/04/2009

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Don't worry about it! My daughter was the same way, she has leveled out. She is allergic to milk as well! The doctors I know say that a toddler needs to eat about the size of their fist every meal, and they eat what they need instinctively, they are better at it than we are...no bad habits formed. Not much food is good with all the obesity that goes around. She still eats about the same diet!

My youngest was diagnosed the Sensory Integration Dysfunction. Which describes some of the symptoms your child is having. It is not a big deal to have like ADHD or any like that. It is treatable and if you catch it early, your child will have a successful entry into school. An Occupational Therapist will diagnose it. Read the "Out of Sync Child." Your child may not have it, but his behavior sounds just like it. My youngest was diagnosed with it, and has taken a 90 degree turn around with some treatment in just a couple of months. (He is 4.) My friend's son had it and was treated ages 4 & 5. He is now 14 and an honor student. If she didn't encourage me to seek treatment...he would have major behavior behavioral problems. This is not to worry you, just an idea about his behavior. Diet should not affect a child that much, unless you are feeding him pure sugar and carbs.

With Sensory Integration Dysfunction the child can be hypersensitive, not like texture of certain foods, the sensation of water on his face or the feel of soap. His nervous system is over sensitive and feels every little thing much more than the average child. He may even panic in a room of people or lots of noise too. The OT will work with him, and give you ways to cope with the the reactions. They work beautifully. There may be family members that are super sensitive as well, it is hereditary. Also, if untreated he can have behavioral and academic issues as he enters school. This is food for thought, I am an advocate of this...watching a few children get treatment and see almost immediate results is incredible! You will be in my prayers!

Debra - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi! I have 3 & 5 year old boys. My oldest has 17 food allergies. We have had to refigure many things to make sure he has a balanced diet. Our doctor told us as long as he was healthy and not losing weight that we should not be too concerned. Sometimes when a child has food allergies 1 or more - their bodies know that they should not have certain things. Some things I have done to make sure Malachi is getting what he needs: fruit smoothies - I just take frozen fruit of choice (he loves mixed berries) and microwave them for 30 seconds then I put them in a blender and add a small amount of soymilk, and 1/2 a banana...You can add carrot juice or whatever to get more nutrients. You can also add a bit less milk - pop it back in the freezer and have sorbet for a yummy frozen treat. Also - something we do - that they both love is make no bake cookies, except instead of using chocolate and peanut butter I use carob powder and soy nut butter and soy butter. Just some thoughts...If you are looking for more recipes or have any questions - I will do my very best to help. I went to culinary school because of this very problem!

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