Omg, I really need help with my toddler?

Clyde - posted on 01/06/2013

Every now and then my two year old tries this. I'm firm about not giving into fits(it's about the only thing, but hey) this is what has worked for me.

I talk to her like she is a big girl and capable of understanding what I mean when I say "stop crying, that is not going to work" or "that is not nice, you know daddy is sleeping" or " there is no readon to cry, cut it out". It sounds like something you would say to an older kid, but when it just came out one day, it worked.
And if she continues, I keep looking her strait in the eye and repeat it as much as I need to, in a calm controlled voice. For her, she goes from a red, tear streamed face and screaming, to calm and opened eye and listening in a few minutes.
I take it as a mutal respect method. I treat and talk to her like how I want her to act. and that has worked for me.

Cecilia - posted on 01/06/2013

Maybe try teaching sign language. Even if they talk on a regular basis in the middle of a breakdown talking might just not be on the top of the list. Teach basic words like milk, sleep, eat.. ect. So when you ask what do you need, they can answer in multiple ways.

Shauna - posted on 12/12/2012

it really depends on how old she is. its really hard to say because there are a lot of things that can cause a child to cry. she could be in pain, hungry, tired, wanting attention, or a number of other things. like s.j. said try ignoring it and see how far it goes and if it doesn't stop after a few minutes then pick her up and see how long it takes to calm her down. try that for a week and if you are completely at your whit ends then I would call her pediatrician and see what he has to say.

Fabienne - posted on 12/05/2012

Sarah, I thank you so much, I know exactly what you mean when you say that sometimes you just want to walk away and yes although we feel that way at times we never act upon such. I too do the praying hoping its a phase and now I am trying the ignoring, will post on how its working out.

Sarah - posted on 12/05/2012

Sounds like my 2 year old son. He just plain don't listen. I can take everything away, ignore him, tell him he isn't getting something until he stops the screaming and asks nicely and give him praise when he deserves it, but nothing phases him. After trying and failing with all other techniques, I have even tried to pop his bottom and all that does is make him laugh at me. So for now ignoring is the best for me because otherwise I get so frustrated that I just want to walk away and never look back (which I would never do, but it is how I feel). So to keep my peace, I pray that this is just a phase, I make sure that he isn't doing anything that will hurt him or others in the house and when something really needs to be addressed with his behavior then I address it. I guess I am picking my battles. Good luck with your screaming little one.

S. - posted on 12/04/2012

Praise works well with mine so if she manages to not scream for something and dose ask for it then make sure you tell her how much of a big girls she is and your happy with her, it might take time to change her behaviour but if you don't give in it will be worth it in the end :)

Fabienne - posted on 12/04/2012

@ S.J, I thank you so much, I will try it.

S. - posted on 12/04/2012

If she's not in pain she's probably just doing it for you attention try ignoring her as best you can, if she's crying for a drink tell her "mummy isn't getting it unless your quiet and ask" and so on.

Becca - posted on 12/04/2012

it depends how old she is