Cori - posted on 06/18/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
Does anyone else have a problem with strangers trying to give little toys or candy to your toddler? How do you handle it?
My son just turned 2 and ever since he was 1, we've had people that want to give him little things when we are out. Usually it is at a restaurant or store. The waitress or check-out person will try to give him some little toy that they found. I had the maintenance guy at our apartment give my son a old McDonald toy one day. The man was clearly out picking up trash and he gave my 2 year old a scratched up McD toy?! It really bothers me. I know he looks older than his age because of his height and how well he talks but, even if he seems to be 3 or 4, giving a young child a used toy that could have been anywhere with their mom's permission is just plain gross. I don't want to be rude, so usually I just smile, have my son say "thank you", trade him out for one of his own toys when they aren't looking, and throw the toy away. (Always cheap trinket toys. If I thought it was a nicer toy, I'd keep it and sanitize it later.) I know they mean well, but it is just gross and disrespectful. Pull me, THE MOM, aside and ask before handing my toddler anything.
Candy also bugs me. I hate suckers. I can handle them if we are going to be somewhere for a while but I don't want my son bringing one into the car. It is a choking hazard and he always ends up a nasty mess. But I've had a few waitresses hand one to him without asking first and I even had a hair dresser that gave him one after I asked her not to. She asked if he wanted a sucker and I said, "Oh, no thank you. I don't really want it in the car but thanks anyways." She said, "Just lighten up mom and let him hold it" and handed it to him with the wrapper on. Seriously?! What toddler is "just going to hold" a sucker and not want it opened that second. I will not being going back to her.
Thanks fellow toddler moms for letting this hormonal pregnant lady rant a bit. I'm curious to see if anyone else has a problem with this too.