Potty training a 2year old
Catherine - posted on 01/28/2009
I read a book that said something about allowing them to just wear simple pants that come on and off and/or just their underwear while they are home so they can easily get them off.... my son has FINALLY gotten the peeing down..its the pooping I cant get down.... any tips on that? Ive tried EVERYTHING....reinforcement..going with him...rewards....putting him on there which causes a battle..Ive tried timing it and when I thought I figured that out I was wrong... I dont know what to do anymore....
Bec - posted on 01/28/2009
i am having the same problem. my day care provider has lots of kids to look after and no time to take my 22mth old to the potty every 20 min. he will use the potty 99% of the time with no accidents without being asked but has to have no pants on. nappies or pull ups - they all the same to him, he just wees in them. big boy pants are better but he cant get them off. he just wees in them and tells me afterwards. how do you get them to tell you when they need to go before? he must know when he needs to go because he takes himself to the potty.
Vanessa - posted on 01/28/2009
I have been potty training my 28 month old for almost 4 weeks. She will potty every time you take her, but she will also pee in her pull up. Very Frustrating!!! So, today I am home and I decided we will do panties all day. I tried to take her ever 15-20 minutes and she would potty and of couse I make a very big deal and praise her incessantly. She still wet in her panties 3 times now. I am so frustrated. I am trying really hard not to show the frustration to her and have changed her each time and encouraged her to potty only in the potty. Whatever I am doing is just not working. I don't want to give up -- we have come this far!!!! I heard if I would keep this up for 3 days she would be trained guaranteed. I go back to work the next 2 days and caregiver (my mom) will not take her every 15 minutes.
Amy - posted on 01/27/2009
Our daughter was potty trained when she was 2 1/2. I went through all kinds of "tales" about the potty training. The part of girls being easier than boys or vice versa ( I have heard it both ways) is really something I think that just depends on what gender your child is. I found that I would sometimes get frustrated because so many people told me girls were easy to potty train. I think overall, potty training can be frustrating because we see it as a simple concept. It is simple to us because we don't think twice about when we need to use the restroom. It is a whole new world for little ones. Going from the security of a diaper to panties is a HUGE transition. With our daughter, we realized Pull Ups were a horrible option. There wasn't anything different in Pull-Ups and diapers. We tried getting into the habit of "trying" to use the potty chair every 30-45 minutes. We would make a huge deal out of her being successful thinking she would see using the potty was a good thing. The first couple of times worked and then we regressed again. I then was told to use a reward system with something my daughter loved. At the time, she loved stickers. Therefore, I made sticker chart. Every time she went in the potty, she could pick out a new sticker to put on her chart. If she filled up the chart, she got a prize. I know we don't want to get in the habit of rewarding our kids for everything, but I was willing to try anthing that would make the process easier. The stickers worked wonders at first and then the excitement wore off. Some of my friends, this was all it took, but for me I needed another option.
I had to take a step back. I realized that just maybe our little wasn't ready and I was trying to force something on her she didn't really fully understand. However, I didn't want to just give up because I knew she could do it. I eventually took her to the store and had her pick out big girl panties. She was excited because she found DORA. I explained that she could wear her Dora panties when she used the potty. "Big girls who use the potty wear big girl panties." She thought this was pretty cool, but then we hit another dead end. She started having accidents in her panties and we were constantly cleaning up messes. I hope I haven't made you feel like you want to give up yet, because there is light at the end of the tunnel.
What finally worked was a combination of things. First of all, we figured out the potty chair wasn't the best purchase. Instead, we purchased a toilet seat adapter for toddlers. They are a smaller seat that fits on the larger toilet seats. Our daughter felt like she was a big girl because she was now able to use the true big girl potty. Second, we purchased the book "No More Diapers for Ducky". She loved this book and realized that she wanted to be just like Ducky. Simple I know, but in words she could get. And finally, this may sound cruel, but my husband and I got really tired of cleaning up our daughter's accidents on the floor. She wouldn't think twice about peeing in her pants at times, but would be grossed out by getting it on her socks or having to take off her wet panties. Therefore, every time she would have an accident, she would be in charge of holding her wet clothes and putting them in the laundry pile. Two times was all it took before she no longer wanted to have to carry soiled clothing. She thought it was gross, thus started using the potty like she was supposed to.
Sorry this was a little long, but wanted to hopefully offer something that was helpful.
What I did with my daughter when she started the potty training was every hour I took her into the bath room and put her on the toilet. I would run the water a little bit. But my daughter didnt really get the hang of it until she was about 2 and a half. I also but the pull ups that are feel alert or wet alert. The kids feel cold when they go in the pull up but there are also the ones with the designs on the front of the pull up that worked with my daughter.
Bec - posted on 01/27/2009
my 22mth old boy has stayed dry for 2 days now and takes himeslef to the potty 99% of the time without being reminded. it is just fantastic. i stopped using 'big boy pants' though because he cant get them off and kept wetting his pants. with no pants he seems to have almost toilet trained himself.
Any tips for getting the pants back on and still having success? How do u teach them to get them on and off or to come and ask when they need to go?
Rachel...my boy used to carry on a bit when i tried to get him to use the potty too. i found that when i forced him he refused. when i encouraged he went. made a big deal about whenever he sat on it lots of cheering clapping etc even if he didn't go. i am giving him one m&m now every time he goes in the potty. he not brings it to me full saying 'hooray hooray'
don't know if this is helpful at all or not.
Rachel - posted on 01/22/2009
i have a 2 yr old as well she says potty an poop after she has gone but win i try to put her on the potty she screams. Now she loves to play with her potty but does not want to sit an use it. I have try to let her use it when she watches t.v that didn't work we sing songs every thing i have no idea what to do next
Let your daughter see others - adults and kids using the loo / potty (whichever is appropriate) and get her to help you making her potty "pretty"...ie with stickers etc. When she is ready, she'll let you know. For what its worth... the late starters often change over quicker. good luck
Bec - posted on 01/21/2009
I been takinglittle Jesse to the potty every 15-20 minutes and today (after cleaning upotsof messes over the past few days) he has only had oneaccident and madeit to the potty successfully 4 times so far! i am stoked! thank you so much for all your helpful advice.it has come in very handy!
Jennifer - posted on 01/21/2009
My first daughter started to show that she wanted to go potty around 18 months... we tried but it was up to her. She was almost completely out of pull ups when we had our second daughter. around 2 and 1/2 and then my husband left for Iraq and she wanted nothing to do with the potty at all. Our oldest was completely potty trained around 3 years old and has little to no problems... Now our 19 month old is starting to show signs... but not in any rushed cause daddy might be leaving again.
Your not crazy to do potty training with one on the way... just give it a little more time and let them tell you when they are ready. I did and it worked out great.
Bec, Congrats on having another baby! That will be such a fun time with 2. We just had our second boy and my oldest son was potty trained about 26 months, which was great. He just had to be the one to tell ME when he wanted to go, so it was just a power struggle for him to be "in charge". I just let him run around the house a few days with no pants on and the potty seat came with us whatever room we were in.
However, when my baby was born, potty training took a back seat. He acted out to get attention and had lots of accidents, which hadn't happened in months. It wasn't until he got used to things after a few months that he went back to using the toilet every time. So, even if you get him potty trained in time for the new baby, don't be too mad if it backslides quite a bit. :)
Krisztina - posted on 01/19/2009
You are not crazy, I have photos of me at 7 months sitting on the potty and I was potty traine according to my Mom by 1. That is exactly what she did put me on there before I was crawlin, hence I sat there I guess for an hour sometime and I eventually learnt to potty train. I have almost exactly 3 years between my 2 kids and that I guess was a real blessing when it came to this thing. By age of 3 my daughter was well on her way to wear bug girl undies. Any cousins or friends who have kids just a year older than him? The whole example and wanting to be a big kid thing really got my daughter to train easy and my son is now just as easy if you ask me. I never hurried him or her just sort of tried to have them tell me when they are ready (for anything as a matter of fact) but I can see your concern. I can tell you one thing if you push him and he deceides he does not want to do it at entering terrible twos you may end up with steps backwards for a lot longer from my experience then if you would have left him do it in his own time. There are fun products on the marker that help them aim I guess you may look at those, try different potties, ask him to see about going right after he ate or drunk milk, water, juice...Have you tried the training pants (that turn kool, or change color)? I always try to remember one thing that my ped told me: Have you ever seen an adult that is not potty trained? And he is right. This is one skill that we all learn LOL
Bec - posted on 01/19/2009
i have another baby due in 3 months also. guess thats why i am in a hurry to get jesse (22mthboy) toilet trained now. don't recon ill have time to chase him around with the potty, a toewl and clean 'big boy pants' with a new born. Am i crazy for starting this now? i've read that i just take him to the potty every half hour and eventually he will catch on. we have had 3 successes in 3 days and the rest messes. he doesnt seem too fussed where he goes, in his pants arount the house or on the potty. We sing a potty song i made up and he gets a prize when he is successful. We rang daddy at work to tell him and made a huge deal about it. He seemed to think this was great. Is this what i'm meant to do? with a belly thesize of a barge it is difficult sometimes but i figured it would cut down on the nappy bill when the new one comes. How dlong does this take?
Krisztina - posted on 01/19/2009
My daughter started to become interested at around 1 and a half than when she turned 2 she just told us no potty and we sort of left it at that. We read books to her and watched some videos, we let her follow us when her cousins needed some assistance to go and eventually she said she wanted to try. Unless it is holding you back from enrolling her into an activity to not be fully potty trained, no reason to pressure in my opinion. My daughter also loved the little training potty vs. the seat cusion for the toilet...While my son who is just now training at 2 and a half only sits on the "big potty". He had cancer at 10 months old so we had obsticles far greater than most people but he just picked it up at little passed 2 and ever since he is slowly progressing. He is still in need of diapers but he can go without one for half a day and now tells us most times when he needs to go. We do a little potty dance while we get to the potty and after each success my daughter and I give him high fives and celebrate with him LOL Charmin ultra has a little package "helper" they send you if you contact them that has a few things: storybook, a little reminder circle you can display at the bathroom, a paper measure to put on the toilet paper so they know how much paper to tear off LOL and stuff to help you out...my kids like that.
Misty - posted on 01/19/2009
I have a 2 year old little boy. I started to try to potty train him, but then decided to wait until he is 2 and a half. Boys are slower at catching on than girls and I have a new baby coming in 2 months and don't want to "waste" time when he will likely regress anyway. As far as training little girls, I've heard to buy them prissy big girl underwear, underwear that she will want to wear and tell her they are for big girls who use the potty. I've heard this works everytime. They want to be big girls in thier fancy underwear and they don't want to mess them up by using the bathroom in them. Hope that helps! My little girl isn't even here yet so I can't speak from experience....only from what others have told me. Good luck!
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