potty training stuborn 3 yr old girl

Amy - posted on 06/10/2011 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My daughter is turning 3 in a month and willing to sit on the potty, but wouldnt do anything in the potty. She waits until shes off and her diaper is on then goes. Ive tried using training undies but she just pees and doesnt care if she is wet and now she doesnt even want to wear them or wear pull ups. I really want her potty trained b4 Sept to start prek, can anyone give me advise with her. My son was so much easier and they say boys are hard, hehe. Thank you for any advise. :0)

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Amy - posted on 06/22/2011

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Aptil ~ dont push it, you have plenty of time. My son was really motivated when he got a new hot wheel each time he went potty in the potty, maybe there is a toy he really likes that he can pick out. Mine really liked going through the cars and pick the one he wanted. But then my daughter didnt want anything to do w/any toys we got for rewards, just stickers. Sometimes its hard to figure out what will work, but just keep trying. If anything take a break and try again a little later and see if maybe he will come up with the idea himself. I know its hard but try not to focus on the time you have left to get him potty trained, thats what I did and drove myself nuts. and then it just clicked. thats how it was with both kids. My son would do really good one week then didnt want to go on potty, we took a break for about a month and tried again, when he was ready he was ready. :0) Definaterly keep us posted and hang in there your doing great! :0)

Karen - posted on 06/30/2011

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My daughter was 3 1/2 before she really started going regularly on the potty chair. We used a sticker chart and if she got 7 (or whatever number you choose) then we would go to the park. She loved that idea but still it had to be her idea to actually go on the potty chair and not in her pullup. I finally said no more pullups and made her wear panties. When I did that - and she wet about 8 times a day for 3 days - then she basically was fully trained. It was a struggle because I had extra laundry but for only 3 days I was able to see that it worked. She is now 4 and hardly ever has accidents. Good luck and hope this helps.

Jennifer - posted on 06/12/2011

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Who knows, maybe the wetness is just not uncomfortable enough. I know you said you tried to use training undies, although I usually just went with the regular ones, but have you put shorts or something over the undies or even a long pants to make her REALLY feel wet? And if she's 3 years old she's probably old enough to stay in it for a little while to get the feeling of discomfort. Also if she does wear a diaper wait much longer to change it so that she doesn't get too comfortable in them rather than always changing her whenever she's wet. Just some suggestions.

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Dot - posted on 07/10/2011

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I am having a problem w/my 3yr old girl as well! I tried stickers and rewards and asking her every hour - she just doesn't want to stop playing long enough to potty! She has even said "guess I don't deserve a sticker"! When I ask why she pees her pants between trips, she tells me that she was busy!

Hannah - posted on 06/22/2011

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My son was terrified to go number 2 up until he was 4 - It was a nightmare - Potty training for #1 was tough up until his 3rd birthday - We battled a bit and then I got stickers of lightning McQueen that he got everytime he pee'd - He looked so forward to putting his sticker on his chart - that it made him the decision maker of when he wanted to get another sticker. It was WAY better then me trying to hound him to go pee in the potty. (Number 2) well like I said earlier - that was a whole other issues. We used to have to force him to do it with medicine --- it was TOUGH... He was just grossed out by it and didnt want to do it. Again - we wont this with bribery... (YES BRIBERY)
I was told by a great WISE woman once - Every kid has a currency - Just need to figure out WHAT it is.. My kids currency was stickers and hot wheels...

Hannah - posted on 06/22/2011

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My son was terrified to go number 2 up until he was 4 - It was a nightmare - Potty training for #1 was tough up until his 3rd birthday - We battled a bit and then I got stickers of lightning McQueen that he got everytime he pee'd - He looked so forward to putting his sticker on his chart - that it made him the decision maker of when he wanted to get another sticker. It was WAY better then me trying to hound him to go pee in the potty. (Number 2) well like I said earlier - that was a whole other issues. We used to have to force him to do it with medicine --- it was TOUGH... He was just grossed out by it and didnt want to do it. Again - we wont this with bribery... (YES BRIBERY)
I was told by a great WISE woman once - Every kid has a currency - Just need to figure out WHAT it is.. My kids currency was stickers and hot wheels...

Amanda - posted on 06/22/2011

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You could also really talk up pre-school about how fun it is and how she will make tons of friends and get to play and run around. Then mention that she won't be able to go if she doesn't use the potty and stay dry because they don't let little kids go, only big girls. Maybe with a little incentive it will help. If she has accidents then focus on how she is doing better and trying instead of the accident itself.

Emily - posted on 06/19/2011

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Oh my daughter did that. What worked for me was punishing for peeing in her pants (even the pullups) and telling her that that was very nasty and that it's for babies not big girls ect.... And I bought some stickers (her fav chatacter) and told her she could have one every time she went potty in her potty seat to put on there to make it prettier. Then I used a thumb tack to stick them on the wall above it to remind her. At first I thought it might torture her because she wanted them so bad. But it helped. She was determined to get them. Also, I would make her sit on the potty for 20 min when I knew she should have to go. Then if she didn't I would make her stay in the living room with no pull up, panties, or anything (her potty seat was in there for this.) and I would let her play for 10-15 min and sit her down again. and if she started to show signs of about to just pee where she was, I would sit her on the potty then and then when she did finally pee in it, from not being able to hold it, I would praise her extremely and she loved the attention. Hope I helped :)

April - posted on 06/14/2011

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i like the idea of decorating the potty seat! unfortunately nothing seems to make Zach excited. he goes on the potty whenever he feels like it and if you ask him he gives you a firm no. it is so frustrating because he is physically capable and will even announce loudly that he is going to pee or poo on the potty. i feel even more pressured because we found this great preschool for him for next year, but he MUST be fully trained by January.

Amy - posted on 06/13/2011

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thanks for the advise :0) This is what happened so far, Sat we started morning, went 3 times on potty & no accidents, although she did spend most of the day on the potty. We got through the screaming & crying about the potty early in the day. Sunday no more crying or screaming when I mention sitting on the potty so thats a great plus, although we had 4 accidents & only went in potty once. We will see how today goes. At least the hard part of screaming and crying is over which was giving me a hard time. She has decided to put her stickers on her potty lid instead of the sticker chart, ok with me as long as she gets excited!! :0) Ill keep everyone posted if you like.

April - posted on 06/11/2011

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i am really starting to think the stubborn potty trainee is actually just a child who likes the negative attention it brings when mom or dad is clearly frustrated by the process. there was another thread on this in another community and my son is also similar to both that child and your daughter. there must be something there, something we're doing that is encouraging the so called or even actual stubbornness.

Jackie - posted on 06/10/2011

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ok will try this again, i somehow deleted my post. Amy i know how u feel i had a very strong willed 3 yr old long long ago she is now a strong willed almost 16 yr old (yay me :) lol, anyway i tried to potty train her and 2 1/2 with accident after accident actually no it was pretty intentional on her part she didnt care. Until the day of her 3rd birthday she decided she was gonna do it she was now a big girl and after that it was smooth sailing, a couple night time incidents but not many. and i put real big girl undies on her let her pick them out and everything. but it had to be her choice and she is still that way . if ur worried about bed time they have those plastic things for the bed to protect the mattress or around her undies, good luck.

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