potty training tricks?

Angie - posted on 08/13/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )

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Help, maybe I am overly paranoid, but I feel my daughter should be potty trained. She gets it, she knows what to do, she just chooses not to do it. She has been doing this for almost a year. She doesn't want to use her little potty, when she does decide to use the potty, she wants me to hold her on the big potty. She hides when she poops and then tells us after she does it. I have tried the potty fairy and she talks about using the potty. I think she is just too busy and consumed in everything else, that it is just too easy for her.....being in diapers is no work for her. I don't know, I don't get it. Anybody have any ideas on speeding up the process?!?!?!

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Alisha - posted on 08/16/2010

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My son was the exact same way. He started peeing in his potty and in the big potty around 2 years old but the for pooping he would hide and poop in a diaper. We struggled with trying all the tricks, rewards, star charts. Taking away diapers completely. Nothing worked so finally around 3 1/2 I took him to his doctor and she said that with children that are showing that they aren't ready to poop in the potty you really shouldn't push them, but explain to them they can't have diapers just for pooping though it's all or nothing. So she told us to talk to him about using the potty and leave it out but bring diapers back completely and don't say anything negative about him hiding to poop. They will be potty trained eventually. There has been proof that children that are pushed to use the potty before they are ready actually end up having more accidents longer and in some cases have problems with holding there poop in and constipation later into childhood years. I don't agree with the poster who said to make them wash there own poop off of there underwear. This seems a little cruel. It may have worked but I think it's the wrong way to go about it. It's the same as punishing a child for having an accident. The biggest tip I could give about potty training is not to push the issue. Set everything up (the potty, wipes, special hand soap) talk about it, get some cool underwear and let them know it's for when they are ready or if they want to wear them around. Then sit back and let it happen. Not all kids are potty trained by 2 or even 3 some kids just take longer but in the long run they will be just fine! By the way this worked after only 5 days after talking to my sons doctor and totally backing off from him about the issue. Good luck

Wendy - posted on 09/02/2010

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I was not at all punishing him,I was just showing him to take responsibility for his actions which is a life lesson.He very well knew what he was doing and he had pooped on the potty before.I knew he just did not want to take the time to sit down and do it.Every child is different and I know my child.He did not mind watching me wash his underwear out but when he had to do it he decided it was much easier to just sit on the potty and do it.I would never punish him for that.He wets the bed now and we do pull ups at night but I know he can not help that.It is an accident.Him pooping in his underwear was not an accident.He knew very well what he was doing and knew mommy would just clean it up after wards.So I guess you would have to know my son and what he is capable of before you can rightly judge me.Its no different than teaching a child to clean up a mess they made but I guess you do it all for yours and dont teach them to do anything for themselves.I know every kid would not respond well to this and thats why you have to know your own kid.I was only telling what worked for me and I have had no trouble with constipation or any of the other things you suggested I may be setting him up for.

Vicki - posted on 08/15/2010

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My boy was going so well until he saw his poo come out of his bum thinking it was a snake, he was petrified so back to square one so have to give him time again & restart. But I did use stars on a board in the toilet which worked so you should try something like that. Good luck

Nicole - posted on 08/14/2010

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I am curently potty traing my 2 year old daughter to. I bought her one of those pottys that play music when you go, she loves it. i make a big deal when she goes everytime an she seams to respond to it. I also put her in a dress with no diaper or anything on bottom. She seems to know when she has to go. I hope this helps you out!

Melaura - posted on 08/14/2010

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Potty training my daughter has been a sinch, quiet literally. For the first couple of days I pumped her FULL of water and juice, like I mean I went crazy with the water and juice. Then for the first day I sat her on the potty every hour. Everytime she would go pee or poop on the potty I would go crazy, dance, jump, scream, hoot, hollar, GO GO GO!!, youu name it, I did it. Then after I made a HUGE fuss she would get 2 smarties. She wanted the whole box the first 1 or 2 days but then she realized that if she peed on the potty lots she got lots of candy. I didn't use pull ups or anything, I used panties (the padded ones but they feel like panties). OH and the potty was in the livingroom for the first week. After the first week she then suddenly didn't have the candy anymore, AND the potty was in her room at nap time too. After 2 days of this, the potty then went to the bathroom. After about 3 or 4 days of her making it up the stairs to the bathroom the potty moved to being on top of the potty (a smaller seat kinda thing), with a stool, and it is amazing!! She has been potty trained for 3 or 4 weeks now and she has had 2 accidents since the first day (and the one time was because she was sick). Bedtime training should be more fun.

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My son is 3 1/2 and is really good about using the potty most of the time. He still has legitimate accidents where he tells me but we just can't make it in time but other times he just goes because he is too busy playing video games to go. So, we take the thing that was distracting him away and tell him he has to wait a few hours or till the next morning before he can hove those things back. Like just now he was playing on our ipod and told me he needed to go to the bathroom and I told him go ahead and go (since we were at home and he can do it himself) he refused to budge and just peed and pooed in his boxers and all over the floor! I told him no more games for the rest of the day, he cried, and I said when you can be a big boy and go when you need to you can get your fun privileges back. Heck we had an outting the other day gone all day drove 70 miles each way and no accidents, but at home in front of games he thinks anything goes.

Rebecca - posted on 03/25/2011

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Talk to her ...Is she afraid she is going to miss something? That is what happened with my daughter. Make sure that everytime she goes successfully you make sure you pick up playing with her where she left off. This way she knows she is not going to miss out. My daughter didn't want the fun to stop. Absolutely no pull ups or diapers.

Biljana - posted on 08/21/2010

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It comes with emotional growing and motoric regulation to sphincter anni,muscul on the place where everyone make puuu .My little is 2 years and is with diper.

Adrienne - posted on 08/20/2010

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I was having a similar problem with my son. He could do it, but he he just didn't want to. I went to the dollar store and bought a progress chart (the kind in the classrooms where the kids get stars for good behavior). Every time he went on the potty, he got a sticker and when he filled up a row, he got a toy. That worked like a charm for him because he got the immediate gratification of picking a sticker, and he could see he was working towards something bigger.

Hillary - posted on 08/19/2010

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My middle son will be three years old next month. For the longest time he would pee and poop in his diaper or pull-up, and then tell me that he needed to be changed. Sometimes he would change his own diaper! But he wouldn't go on the potty or toilet. Anytime I suggested using the toilet he would say he didn't need to because his older brother could do it. I was upset but then I decided to just let it go, he just wasn't ready. A couple of weeks ago, he just started peeing and pooping in the toilet of his own accord and has been staying dry at night. We praise him all the time so he keeps up doing such a good job. It was also incentive for him that I went out and bought Thomas the Tank Engine underwear, which he loves! My oldest son will be 6 next month. He was trained at 2 1/2. It happened when we went on vacation that summer to the beach. He became totally fascinated with hotel and restaurant bathrooms and wanted to try them out at every opportunity!

Patricia - posted on 08/18/2010

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Don't know how old your little one is. I just think that unless you absolutely have to have the kid potty trained, I would not even stress about it. Most of the time they potty train themselves. So what if you have a 4 year old not yet potty trained, don't stress about friends having kids potty trained at 2!. 99.9% of kids will eventually get it. Don't force I have heard terrible stories or problems arising from this. If you are very desperate to get it done for whatever reason, well the crayola sounds good to me!!

Heidi - posted on 08/17/2010

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Well with my son i would put her on the potty while getting his bath ready and putting him on it when he first gets up in the morning. When he does have an accident, other than a smelly one, I made him take his wet clothes off. As far as hiding to poop just have to watch the signs that are given and put her on on the potty. If she is wanting to use the big potty then it is a good idea to buy a soft potty seat to fit on top of it and put it where she can reach it. We aren't done with the potty training and he will be 3 in a couple of months but we are real close. Good luck with the process..

Wendy - posted on 08/16/2010

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I know this sounds mean to some but I did something that worked in one day as far as them taking the time to poop.Its hard but it only takes a time or two for it to work.My son was wearing underwear at the time cause he had the peeing down but would hide to poop so out of desperation when he pooped in his underwear we made him dump and wash them with very little assistance from us.He cried and we wanted to cry but he hated it so bad that the next morning he went right to the potty by himself and took care of business.Never had that issue again.Oh and I know they are not gonna clean them perfect but just to show them what a pain the mess is and of course I washed his hands afterwards

LaQuan - posted on 08/16/2010

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i don't have that problem but i use stickers to reward her when she goes and she know that when ever she goes she will get a sticker

Nailah - posted on 08/15/2010

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Huggues has a potty training DVD titled "Potty Training Success" which is free. You can go on their website and request it. There's even a dance that Huggies has made up that goes along with the video. I received a box of videos (50) and gave some to the daycare center that my granddaughter attends. I gave extra so that they could pass out to other parents. I also keep some in my car to share with parents that I may run into that have toddlers that are not potty trained. Plus it can make a nice baby shower gift.

Jessica - posted on 08/15/2010

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My son was almost 4 when we got him potty trained. Nothing worked except taking something away from him he loved. I ended up taking cartoons away from him every time he peed his pants for 15 minutes each time. And once he got it that mom wasn't giving in to his tantrums he started going pee and poop.

Carisa - posted on 08/14/2010

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I don't know how old your daughter is, but she was almost 3 before she would use the potty and 3 1/2 before she would poop on the potty (that is very common) I didn't use a little potty, I got a seat that sat on top of the big potty...she might respond better to that. At this point, it may be good to take the plunge and just put her in underwear. We did that to stop our daughter from using a diaper to poop. She held it in for about 4 days before she finally went in her underwear at nap time...she was horrified and has used the potty ever since. I think most girls don't like to have accidents in their underwear. I never used pull-ups because I thought they were just expensive diapers. Good luck!

Angie - posted on 08/13/2010

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I love the crayola idea! That sounds great and she would LOVE that!!! Thanks, I will give it a try!!!

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2010

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What I did with my daughter was when I was at home I would put her on the potty every 30mins. I felt if she knows what she is doing she needs to go. I put her on the potty whether she was kicking and screaming or not. You just have to be firm. I would take her to the potty an hour after she ate or drank and just let her sit on it. Then maybe your child just wants to be a big big girl and do it how mommy does. I have noticed my daughter copies everything I do from cleaning to getting dressed. Just keep trying and be very firm.

Nicole - posted on 08/13/2010

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i was haveing the same problem so i turned it into a game i went out and got some bath tub colors by crayola and let her color on the side of the tub and the tile wall while she goes and now almost every time she needs to go she runs right in there and askes for them

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