Belinda - posted on 12/11/2010 ( 33 moms have responded )
i'm at a loss, my son has just turned 2 and has barely seen his father since 3 months of age, his father is known for his temper and the reason i left him was because he lost his temper with my little boy and came close to punching him, so naturally i left.
his father has always been more interested in trying to win me back then seeing his son, but recently i got a new partner and now my ex has asked to have our son every other weekend. he lives with his mum. Tyler (my son) is there as i write this, it's the third time hes been and both previous times he has returned with temper problems, punching, kicking and being incrediably defiant. i'm a first time mum, but i know 2 year olds are defiant, it's just so much worse when hes come back from his fathers.
i dropped im off the other day and he clung to me until they bought the dog out for him to play with. when ever i ask his father says there has been no problems at all, but i know him well enough to know he rarely tells the truth so really i have no idea.
i hope tyler can have a good relationship with his father but i don't want him badly influenced, and he's saftey is a major concern... should i restrict contact or trust his father to keep him safe??