Renee - posted on 12/22/2011 ( 68 moms have responded )
i am sick to death of hearing from my husband and his family to spank our daughter. since he and i got back together when she was a year old he has spanked her behind her hand and scolds her. after a month of it i put a stop to it. mainly because she is a baby, plus i dont agree with spanking a toddler. what do i do! she is 21 months now and even his mother says a spanking every now and again is necessary. i dont want him treating her like his sister treats her child who is younger, fussing at her all the time talking to her to come here sit down dont do that all the time she is around her. i talk sweet to my baby and kiss her and hug her and tell her i love her. when she acts up in the store in the shopping care hegets frustrated and says she needs her butt whiped. in public when she wants to get down and walk or she screams in the store just out of the blue he gets mad. then he tries to scold her and she gets mad, and flings her arms or kicks and she gets him in the face sometimes and he gets so mad. but because im right there he doesnt do anything. its my fault she acts like this he says. i dont trust his parenting as he is more about disipline than loving her. she cant talk to tell ppl what she wants but im tired of him saying his niece is well behaved and shes younger. btw this is notmy husbands first child. he has three from hhis first wife. if i bring up that he didnt spank them because they were sure house apes he says he did while they were married but not after the divorce becauise it was in the divorce decree no corporal punishment to the kids. i never spanked them, i kept them busy doing stuff, like arts and crafts and helping me. they were at the time all under the age of six. so summer times while he was at work i took care of them. but he wants to scold and spank my baby. i was spanked as a kid all the time! i couldnt be a kid, i would get in trouble for the look on my face or my tone or how i walked too loud or huffed under my breath. i was smacked in the face by my mom if i back talked slapped wherever my mom or dad could reach at the time. and as an adult, i dont want to ever make her feel the way i did. it made me want to fight my parents back, it made me mad and questioned if they loved me why they hit me soooo hard. then when my brother and sister were born ten years later, they never spanked them at all! help me deal with these inlaws.