temper tantrums...

Heather - posted on 10/07/2010

ya'll will be glad to know that my son no longer throws temper tantrums like that. he is disiplined by going to his room until he quits crying and screaming. if we are in a store. i leave my buggy and we go to the bathroom where i spank him on his butt. (i hate when people look at you bad when u are disiplining your own child.)

Nina - posted on 04/06/2010

Hi.. well i must say my oppinion on babies being spoilt is that they are not..... !!! They are just trying so hard to get to know their own little bodies and trying to communicate with what the know and yes sometimes its throwing themselves down on the ground and screaming blue murder but its ok, it happens. What I have done with Juan since they started was... allowed him to just have his 2 minute tantrums only ensuring he wouldnt bump his head in the process or get hurt. Then walk away, saying nothing. Within 2 minutes he'd be ammused with something else and then id calmly explain why he couldnt get whichever item using... "mommy prefers juan only having.... " rather than "juan may not ...." or "juan is naughty if...." He still has his tantrums every now and then but not as many as before. Its a difficult time toddlers but the brighter side is how cute they are with all the other great things they are experiencing.

Kathy - posted on 04/05/2010

my son who has a disiility is five but he has a mind of a four or three year old and yes he throws tantrums like you wouldnt belive exspecialy when were in public . He still embarasses me but then i tryed the one thing my mother used to do with us and that was leave the store leave your basket full of stuff and go home well i did that and let me tell you he dont do bad out in pulic any more but at home he dose and sometimes i just ignore him or i let him choose to either keep it up or do something eles that is fun or go to time out his cousler suggested that and it dose work.

Jessica - posted on 04/05/2010

I found reading a couple books on positive discipline helped me avoid many discipline frustrations and also deal with the issues that do happen (while not being permissive, but still teaching him boundaries)
I love Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, and also Positive Discipline for Preschoolers. Both are by Jane Nelsen (with other authors)

These books helped me understand where my son is at developmentally, what is reasonable to expect, and how to avoid, divert, and deal with conflict and discipline issues! It's great! Check them out and let us know if they help!

Also, is it an option to talk with the grandmas about making some more uniform boundaries? If your son is spending enough time with them that it's affecting his boundaries and discipline at home, it might be worth a sit down to try to create a more consistent environment of boundaries and discipline for him.

Haley - posted on 04/04/2010

YES YES YES YES! my daughter threw an epic one for the record books this weekend! we sent swimming (we live in Texas) and she didn't want to get out. After an hour in there we made her. OMG she threw herself on the side walk, kicked, screamed, rolled around, etc. I dealt with it by one swatting her to get her attention. two giving her a time out, and once the timeout in the corner didnt work, she went to her room to calm down. I tell her that she can not come out until she feels calm and better. (she understands feeling so its appropriate). For your, i might try to explain that material items or whatever he wants is a gift for something good and he has to earn it. give him chances to earn it (cleaning his room or using potty etc.) also maybe if it is a super tantrum and you cannot talk to him, tell him to "go to his room until he has a happy face" got that from a mag. :) good luck hope it works out!