The birds and the bees?

Rachael - posted on 05/11/2011

they def learn between 3rd and 7th grade now. That's depends on when you agree to the S.HA.R.E. program. I dunno exactly when the right time is because it all depends on (this sounds discusting )whether or not they appear flirtacious already, especially with girls-as young as 9. My stepdaughter is turning 11, but I noticed for a year now she has shown interest in boys, makeup, and tight clothing. I would just try to scare the hell out of ur kid about the S-word and hope that u made an impact.

Ali - posted on 05/11/2011

When they ask. My 5-year-old pretty much knows "the scoop" now. It is what it is. We live in a world where kids grow up WAY fast and understand WAY more than we ever give them credit for. My opinion, tell it like it is. They're gonna know soon enough... better from you than somebody else. My answer... Whenever he or she asks.

DeDra - posted on 05/01/2011

I don't think that there is an appropriate age. It should never be hidden or not talked about, just discussed reasonably where they can understand it. My son knows the proper names for genitals & he's 2 yrs old. Just tell your child what you think they can comprehend.

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2011

As for me, I think when my daughter starts to ask questions is when I'll give the answers, at an age appropriate level. I want her to know that any 'uncomfortable' topic can be discussed with me without embarassment. And it doesn't have to be all at once either, but gradually over time. I don't know how old she will be when I feel its time to talk about this stuff or when she asks questions.... but God Willing when the time is right, I will be there for her!

Also I'm no stranger to these conversations, lol... when my younger sisters were ages 9 and 11, they started asking me questions that they were too embarassed to talk about with my mom, and I explained most of 'the birds and the bees' to them, lol, and they still come to me for advice... I hope my daughter is the same way!!!

Angela - posted on 04/25/2011

Well, my daughter's 3 next week and we already talk about how Mummy wears "lady's nappies" when she bleeds every month, and have also talked about how flowers are pollinated and eggs grow into seeds. I expect that as she gets older such talk will just gradually progress to being more explicit, as I don't want her to feel that sex is anything other than natural (in the right context).

Chanelle - posted on 04/25/2011

I say a 3 year old because they come in the world smart and intelligent.

Alisha - posted on 04/23/2011

I would say around 9 or 10 years old. The schools are starting earlier nowadays, and personally, I'd rather my child hear it from me first than anyone else. Also I believe in letting it be "normal" and telling the truth in the home. Your child needs to be able to trust the MOM and DAD on these topics. Kids are having sex earlier and earlier and it's our job as a parent to inform our children correctly.

Karen - posted on 04/12/2011

personally i don't think it should be designated to one parent or the other. it should be something that he knows he can talk to either parent about (he may feel more comfortable talking to one of you for some things and the other one of you for others).

Robin - posted on 04/11/2011

I like the idea of gradual and ongoing and not a sit down here's how it goes. My son is 9. Do you think the Dad should be the major talker about this stuff or do you think I can help too? He is in 3rd grade but they do not do the birds and bees talk until 4th grade @ our elementary. Anyway, thank you for your help.

Karen - posted on 04/11/2011

since they are being taught it in elementary school (grade 3 where i live) i think it needs to be something that is openly discussed at age approriate levels from day one. let it be known that questions will be answered honestly and that anything can be asked. it needs to be something that is "normal" in your house so that you child learns information from you before the school and they are not embarassed by talking to you about it. i think the whole sit down once and have a huge information session isn't the way to go (just my opinion) it needs to be gradual and ongoing