Things hubbys/significant others do that annoy you....

Nichole - posted on 12/17/2009

Men are fixers, they have to take charge and fix it. If it's broke, get a tool and fix it. That's why they're no good at emotions. If I want to discuss the way it makes me feel when I (fill in the blank) he has a blank stare. If I tell him I have antifreeze spraying out from under my car, his eyes light up like it's Christmas. :)



This literally happened to me today. I'm at a (sick) relative's house with my hubby. I mention I smell a sweet smell and wonder if it's an antifreeze leak. He SMILES, runs for the door (if he hadnt been wearing his coat I swear he wouldn't have even noticed until he froze to the underside of my car), and proceeds to spend an hour with the other boys diagnosing my problem. I am scrubbing the floors at my sick relative's. He and his boys clomp through the house, covered in antifreeze and mud, and walk all over the wet floors. They are happy as pigs in crap to have seven different diagnoses for my station wagon, and none noticed the mess they made.

Yes, Men are fixers, but only of the issues they care the most about. Cars, football, hockey, politics, football, beer, golf, football, and baseball. Did I mention football??

Natalie - posted on 12/16/2009

UGH so my husband and I are young and just startin our life together which i used to think is what led to some of our problems but reading these post i see that men have problems relaying their feelings and listening!!!Lol so i guess we arent so unusual but what annoys me then most is when i am trying to get my husband to listen to what is upsetting me and he keeps telling me "I completley understand" and I'm like what do you understand " I dont know" he says UGH how annoying then why would you say you completly understand I LOVE him so but i mean really my biggest thing is ok you are listining to me but are you HEARING me???

Kristen - posted on 12/16/2009

I understand being better at showing than explaining...but I'm talking about just saying "Oh, all you have to do is open this program" instead of taking it from me and doing the same. Thats just rude and I at least ASK him if he would like me to just show him how.

Oh yeah..I know how it is when they have no opinion. Except mine won't give me a straight answer to save his life, so when I just make a decision, he's upset with me because it wasn't what he wanted! He wouldn't give me a date for DS's bday party, so I set one and made all the plans and he was upset because he wanted it on a different date!

Angela - posted on 12/16/2009

Quoting Geneva:

When I try to explain an important situation and he ends up, going along with what I have decided. Darn it, I need imput!!!!

Mine does the same.. I will "start" a conversation because I want to talk about something..(it can be almost anything minor or major).. and instead of having an "opinion" of his own.. he will say "whatevers fine with you honey".... That drives my crazy.. im trying to feel him out and it doesnt help that he has NO opinion on it.

Emilie - posted on 12/16/2009

My ex husband used to get really into the TV, he would block out everything around him whenever he was watching TV, He couldn't even hear me or the kids, even if it was something important. He would fall asleep on the couch every night watching TV. I would have to wake up at 2 am to go cut off the TV. It seemed like he loved the TV more than me and the kids. He is married again and he still does that.

Julie - posted on 12/15/2009

Sometime when someone is trying to help they are not able to come up with a helpful suggestion unless they have a look. Maybe he is a hands on (visual) person, but he is not expressing to you in a way for you to understand. Maybe try handing something to him while asking and he can walk you though what he sees?? This is the way I am. If I see a problem all i want to do is get my hands on it, even if I have done it before, sometimes its easier to vocalize the process.

Geneva - posted on 12/14/2009

When I try to explain an important situation and he ends up, going along with what I have decided. Darn it, I need imput!!!!

Kendra - posted on 12/14/2009

Kristen my DH is the same way - anytime something needs to be looked at he basically pushes me out of the way and takes over...even if I asked him to help me - not do it for me. Drives me nuts because when it keeps happening he gets frustrated with me when I can't fix it on my own.

Kathryn - posted on 12/14/2009

My husband always gives me a small lecture anytime my son gets hurt. It isn't anything that he is mean about but he always tells me I should have been watching out for him more or I should have known it was going to happen. HELLO. I am a mom and a wife I take care of, not just our son, but the house, meals, and errands. My eye is not going to be glued to my child 24/7. Things happen, which he undertands but he still does that to me all the time.

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2009

Just really sad that i cant communicate with my husband without a lot of stress and i am so over all of that in my life. though yes i do hope we can work through it. Will let you know how it all goes.

Kristen - posted on 12/13/2009

Hope it helps Michelle :) you can read the "Can this Marriage be saved" at Ladies Home Journal online. I just google "can this marriage be saved" and it brings up their page with all of the marriages they've addressed. I know it kind of sounds corny, but it really did help to see that even though I may be justified in my feelings that there are more effective ways of handling marital conflict

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2009

Thanks Kristen. Dont know whether this one can be saved but will get that book and have a read before making any final decisions. Might give me a hint to help..... (fingers crossed) as i really dont want to make this decision he's just making it for me.

Ashley - posted on 12/13/2009

My boyfriend is like that too... just b/c he is a handy guy he assumes that I may not be able to fix it with a suggestion! My other pet peeve is getting phone calls. If I am going to be late or change of plans I call and let the other people involved know. My guy will let it go until he is way past late and then wonders why I am so frustrated calls me cranky (which also pisses me off I am not cranky!) I get he sometimes has to finish the job he is doing to get home but the call is a courtesy and not hard to accomplish!

Kristen - posted on 12/13/2009

aw, I'm sorry. My hubby's not so good with feelings either but we've gone through a lot and are finally making changes on both sides that have been helping significantly. Best wishes and hope things get better. I started reading "Can this marriage be saved" and my husband actually read some of it also and that was pretty helpful

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2009

well my reply is just a further whinge about my husband. If i try and tell him how i'm feeling over something he has said or done he throws it back at me or starts yelling. I have actually had enough and considering a life with just my kids and i might be easier.