Toddler wont sleep in bed

Kristina - posted on 05/10/2012 ( 13 moms have responded )

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We are having a hard time getting or 3 almost 4 yr old to sleep in his bed. We have tried just about everything except lock him in his room. Please any advice would greatly be appreciated. Just a word...He has NEVER slept in his crib or toddler bed. Only a packnplay...I don't understand!!

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Terina - posted on 05/11/2012

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just thought is he affraid of falliing out, have tried a bed guard i used them with my son to stop him falling out and currenty using them with my daughter as she fidgets too much. the bed guards act as a barrier but it also may give a sense of security if its because a bed has no sides , the ones i have have mesh so can see through them still so dont feel secluded. and they are low enough but high enough to stop roll outs .

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Kym - posted on 05/15/2012

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what about getting an air mattress or cot type bed and setting it up for him with a cute sleeping bag or something?

Bethany - posted on 05/12/2012

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it took me 17mths to have a full night sleep and they are few n far between even at 27mths, we had to change his cot to a "toddler cot" (drop one side off) but as my son loves to sleep with his legs up on the wall a bed rail was essential, but on the down side hes in and out, usually i scoop him into our bed or fall asleep in the lounge chair in his room with him, im hoping he grows out of it but i dont hold much hope :( good luck and hopefully something will click... sorry not much help :(

Terina - posted on 05/11/2012

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totally. i had an issue with my daughter where she has no problem being in her bed just had problems keepng her asleep. i guess im just not lucky with sleeping kids. i think we all know what the answer is and perservere but im with you on the fact your so worn out you go with whatever will give you a bit of sleep even if its means you go with the easier option.in time he will sleep in a bed im sure i mean lets face it hes not going to be 15 and still be in it ! lol , i spose it all depends on how desperate you are too if deep down you want to change things because he ` should ' be in bed by now and society expects that but your really ok with it then fine hes your son hes happy which means your happy. i get your frustrtion though he will grow out of it x

Joy - posted on 05/11/2012

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We've got the same problem! Or similar. We've had this problem with our 2 year old ever since we took the crib down she wouldn't sleep in her toddler bed and ended up in our bed.

Its taken most of the year, but the last couple of weeks she's started sleeping in her room the entire night. She still wakes up a few times in the night to grab me and drag me back to her room to lay down with her so I'm still not getting a solid night's sleep, but its getting better.

We have a bedtime routine that we stick to, but she doesn't tend to go to sleep until 9 or 9:30 (and then is cranky in the morning to wake up.) She also has a queen sized futon mattress on the floor along with a toddler bed (this takes up a lot of space btw.) which helps me to be able to lie down next to her.

I also sat down and talked to her about it. She said she's lonely so I also told her she couldn't have a baby brother/sister until she stayed in her room all night which seemed to work. Looks like she's getting her wish!

Could just take a lot of time. Other moms told me they had 5 and 6 year olds climbing into their beds. Although I hope that's not the case with you or me in a few years.

Kristina - posted on 05/11/2012

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He does takes naps but he doesnt go to bed until 9-9:30 because we are still trying to finish our day. I have also tried giving him a bath with the night time wash and lotion...Put nice pjs on him and lay down with him but its always the same...He ends up with us and its hard for mom and dad to have alone time if you know what I mean...lol

Kristina - posted on 05/11/2012

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He does takes naps but he doesnt go to bed until 9-9:30 because we are still trying to finish our day. I have also tried giving him a bath with the night time wash and lotion...Put nice pjs on him and lay down with him but its always the same...He ends up with us and its hard for mom and dad to have alone time if you know what I mean...lol

Kristina - posted on 05/11/2012

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Well we have tried buying the bed clothes...he loves trains and we decided that he could pick whatever. I bought him a train nightlight and a push nightlight last night and it worked for about 5 hrs then he woke up and came into our bed...I am tired so I let him stay. I know I need to pick him back up and go put him back into his bed but I am just frustrated.

We thought about buying a tent bed for him but I don't want to spend a lot of money and it not work. I keep telling him that he needs to be a big boy like his brother (HE'S 17) but he don't care. He picks us at night and is constantly pulling on us or digging his feet into us and we are wore out!! lol

Terina - posted on 05/10/2012

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what about tking him shopping and getting him to choose his own bedding? my son went through a stage when he was about 2 and half / 3 he was petrified to even go in his room let alone sleep in it even till this day have no idea what caused it as hed been in his own room since 4 months old . and as wer were in the process of moving ( a very looong winded move at that) we decided to put his mattress in our room to sleep on while we used his room as storage for a while, we had a deal with him that when we moved he would have a brand new room and it would be deocrated with dinosaurs !! i found on the net puctures of the duvets i was getting and curtains etc so when i took my son out ( of course i knew where to go so i wasnt aimlesly waundering shops with a toddler) we found them and got them, it made him feel so grown up and the look on hs face ..... priceless he understood he couldnt have the new curtains and duvet unless he was going to be clever and brave and sleep in his big boy bed . does he have a torch or nightlight to encourage him either ? its difficult at that age as they want to be grown up but telling them constantly be a big boy makes them want to hold onto the baby stage a bit longer as they feel they are loosing or missing out on something,specially if they get comfort from somthing . it also depends on how your son is with change , good luck

Katherine - posted on 05/10/2012

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Try reading a book, tell him it's time for bed and you'll be back in 5 minutes. LOL, always works for mine. Is he active? Does he take naps? What time does he go to bed? Start a routine.

Kristina - posted on 05/10/2012

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He used to sleep in a packnplay but he will sleep on a cot at babysiters we have tried the sleeeping in his bed but as soon as we get up he wakes and comes in our bed.

Katherine - posted on 05/10/2012

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Hmm, a pack n play? I'm surprised he still fits lol. I would try sleeping with him in his room for a couple of nights if you can to get him in his bed. Is he afraid? My 3 year old sleeps with me. She won't sleep in her own bed either.

We just bought new bunk beds for my 6 year old and her and neither one of them will sleep there! I'm at my wits end. My 6 year old says she's scared, my 3 year old has no reason except she wants to sleep with mommy.

What does he do when you try to put him to bed? Can you start a rewards chart and give him something special to sleep with?

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