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what age should we bring another baby in to the picture?

Emily - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my boyfriend and I have an 15 month old we have been talking about haveing another baby... but as of right now we live in my mothers house because we moved to davenport from burlington so my boyfriend could get a better job which he has done.... so in feb. after taxes we are going to look for a place we have been but..... we have 3 dogs and tons of tool so its hard finding a house to rent in are price range with everything we need too.......

I want 4 kids but I have been thinking about it and almost feel bad to have another because my 15 months old is still a baby and I dont want to take away from her time with mommie and daddie .... soooo which leads me to my ? what do you guys think would be a good age for my daughter .... when we go to have another baby? and did any other moms feel this way when they were going to have another baby ?

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Erin - posted on 12/23/2009

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My boys are 20 months apart. It was recommended that I wait a year before having another baby. However, since I need help to concieve, I went of the mini-pill at when my eldest was 6 months old. I saw my doctor again when he was about 10 months old. I went back on the medication that had helped me previously and discovered I was pregnant during the vacation that was for my son's first birthday. Turns out I had been on the medication only a month before I concieved so I did let my body recover for almost a year. My second was also a boy and they are already showing signs of being best friends. My sister and I were 3 years apart and sometimes during adolesense it seemed like that 3 years was a major gulf between us. However, we're good friends now. Do what works best for your family. There is no magic number.

Sheryl - posted on 12/23/2009

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well mine are 18months apart and they are the best of friends! they are truly best friends! i guess it just works for you guys! i feel there really no perfect age for anyone! i feel it depanding on you guys and what you can handle! hope that helps! good luck and marry chirstmas!

Erin - posted on 12/23/2009

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I read somewhere that it is recommended that women wait 2 years after having a baby before they have another one, that way your body has the time it needs to adjust after having kids...I also personally think that is a good time to wait in general! My son turned 3 yrs old 2 mos before we had his brother and he absolutely adores his little brother!!! He'll come up and hug him and say "I love my baby" and cute stuff like that!!! I didn't worry about mommy/daddy time soo much because the whole time we were pregnant Derrick attended a few drs appts w/me, he came to see the ultrasound, and visited us in the hospital. Jake is HIS baby and he will call him "little Derrick" because they look the same as babies!!! Derrick talks great and is of an age that he can help out w/brother and comprehend things I tell him! Plus the baby sleeps alot at first and I get to spend that time w/my oldest, he also goes shopping with me, and since there are only 2 kids when I take 1 the other gets daddy time, and as they get older it will be easy enough to alternate between the two kids who goes on what outing and gets mom/dad time that day!

For you in your situation as well I think it would be best if you all waited until you got in your own place and got situated! If you have too many pets I hate to say it, but there are shelters you can give your dogs to, or see if someone can adopt them! I couldn't imagine trying to move w/that many pets!!! I understand the tool thing! I live in a duplex w/no garage and it absolutely sucks having to have a huge ass tool box around the house!!! Frankly, I also wouldn't be adding to the mix while you are all b/f & g/f...I totally realize being married doesn't mean you all won't split up, but IDK? Call me old fashioned I guess...

Tanya - posted on 12/23/2009

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I had my second 2 years after my first, my third 15 months after that and the fourth 16 months after that. When they are close in age they get along really well! My kids are so well-behaved and they look out for each other. When I go place with my 4 kids under age 5 people are just shocked at how good they are! BUT financially, you really have to be prepared..right now I have 2 in diapers so it can be expensive..and you have to keep them in clothes & shoes that fit them (damn they grow fast!) and you need more bedrooms in whatever place you rent/buy. It's a blast having four kids but it can be stressful at times too! 4 college funds!

Tammie - posted on 12/22/2009

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2 to 3 years apart at the most ...my daughter is 4 and my son is 17 mths and i can bond with them both at their age plus they can grow up together and the age gap won't be such a huge difference now my brother has a 10 yr old and 5 mth they will never be able to grow up and play together the age difference is too huge yu should start now or at least when you two are more stable....working on baby number 2 keep in mind ya biological clock so they say best wishes God bless ya

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