what did you teach your son to call his penis?

Merry - posted on 07/03/2010 ( 163 moms have responded )

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Eric is 15months and has learned about 30 words and a few body parts already. He plays with his penis in the tub and i am going to teach him it is called something......my instinct is that i should just go right for penis and bypass peepee, weewee, winkie, etc. but if he starts going around saying my penis this my penis that then what? should he call it something more childish or is it smart to teach him the real word?

opinions? experiences?

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Brandy - posted on 07/09/2010

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i've taught mine to say penis, its the correct word and you shouldnt let the immature levels of others determine what you teach your children.

Megan - posted on 07/09/2010

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i have a three year old son and a three year old daughter. they call there privates what they are and they will even say kenzie has a vagina and brayden has a penis. i think that is the best way that is what it is!

Ashley - posted on 07/09/2010

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I agree Heather - would you teach him to call his nose a hose? Or his ear a bear bear? It's just silly.

Ashley - posted on 07/09/2010

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I call it penis. It is the anatomical name and the correct name. He can't get in trouble for it at school or anything if he is just saying a scientific term. I believe in teaching kids the real name for body parts. That's what my parents did and that's what I do. If he asks me what my breasts are I say breasts.
My son is going to be 4 this fall and he doesn't go around saying anything about penises. The only time we talk about it is if he is pottying or if we are washing. He doesn't just start talking about it.
I'm sure there will be a time when I will have to tell him we only talk about penises when we are talking about potty... etc. But so far no big deal. I think if you make it a big deal is when it becomes a big deal.

Heather - posted on 07/09/2010

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I agree with you... it's a penis. I never got into baby talk with my children and they are all very articulate. I wouldn't emphasize anything just yet. A simple no, no, is fine... although it is very normal for a child to be curious about their body. I think it's just smart to call it the "real" word. Just as you would call any other body part by it's real name. By not making any big tado over it - your child won't either and won't be any more likely to shout out "PENIS" as he would "ARM". Yah know what I mean? Hope that helps :) ~mother of 4~

Christi - posted on 07/09/2010

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we are teaching him to call it wee wee. i just think it sounds a little weird to hear a kindgardener saying penis. but to each his own. i would crack up each time he said penis though, i don't know why but in his lil boy voice it would be just too damn funny.

Amber - posted on 07/09/2010

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My daughter seen my son and said why does he have a tail? We called it a tail for a while, but then My husband started calling it a tailadega. So that is what he now calls it. It makes for not as many looks when he says it in public.

Julie - posted on 07/09/2010

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I think either way is fine. I wouldn't look at a mom or her son strangely if he was out and he called it his penis. My Travis calls his Wee wee or his privates, but in a year or so when he's less likely to talk about it everywhere we go we will teach him the proper word.

Eva - posted on 07/09/2010

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for my son i say peter mostly.... but for my daughter im using a suzzie i think having something that at least show the same gender helps them with the idea that it is a male and female difference beside i really dont think they all will connect it that its not the proper word

Kimberly - posted on 07/09/2010

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Thanks for posting this question because I was wondering the same thing and I had no idea about the sexual abuse and molestation part of it. Thanks! :)

Jazmin - posted on 07/09/2010

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We have 4 boys and we call it your noodle! My older 2 know it's correct name but we taught them later when they were older. The 2 smaller boys still say noodle. My oldest 3 call their testicles "balls" because my husband has a habit of saying it. They know the correct term but they dont like to use it. I don't think it matters. They will learn it eventually.

Justina - posted on 07/09/2010

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If you read what the experts say, they say call them body parts by their correct names. I am teaching my 3 year old twins the correct names and my daughter forgets and says pekus meaning penis. It's so cute. I

Caryn - posted on 07/09/2010

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We have always just called it a penis. My son is 15 mos and he knows where his penis is. It is what it is!

Merry - posted on 07/09/2010

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yes, please no cookie! cookie is just asking for a preditor to abuse the term. and willy could turn out to be your childs best friend.....

Gayleen - posted on 07/09/2010

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WOW! After reading all the comments, I really wasnt too sure what to teach my children. I automatically say Willy and Cookie. But the child molestation thing made me think. I do like the "Private parts" description, because then it also teaches them that no matter what "parts" they have, its private!!!! How we have to protect them hey!

Kayleigh - posted on 07/09/2010

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my family always called it a turkey for a boy. That about the daughter calling a clock a cock is pretty funny my mother told me my first word was frog but it sounded like i said f*ck instead she said people gave her all kind of dirty looks n she had to explain to people in public what i was really trying to say.

Karen - posted on 07/08/2010

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We say penis and vagina around here. My son is 17 months but doesn't call his anything yet, my girls (2 & 4) know/say the correct terms though. Sometimes they do just say "privates".

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Wow Kandace... What ever issue you have w/ men and/or penises.... I seriously hope you overcome before your son is old enough to understand. :(

Melanie - posted on 07/08/2010

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I am teaching my 2 year old son to refer to his penis as just that, his "penis". I've also taught my teenage girls to refer to body parts by their proper name. We don't use cutesy names for any private parts. I don't want any of my children to feel ashamed of any part of their body and I want them to be able to talk with me and their Dad honestly about any uncomfortable issues. That has to begin at a young age. It's worked for our girls and I am so grateful that they talk with us about what's going on with them and what their friends are doing. You have to keep those lines of communication wide open! Another worry about using cutesy names for body parts is that child predators also use cute little names and I don't want my children to be more vulnerable to any solicitation attempts. Everyone's bodies should be respected and that's what we try to instill in our children.

Cora - posted on 07/08/2010

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When my son was first born I taught him to call it his weedewacker. He used that term until he was 2 years old and them I taught him the real word I had those same apprehension my logic was that if some one touched him inappropriately and he told some one, they may not know what he was referring to, this seem to seal the deal for me.

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I find that too many people are ashamed of the real names for our body parts..but, I have taught all 3 of my boys 4,5,and 6 yrs. old to call it what it is ..their penis and testes...if anyone ever touches them inappropriately they will be able to tell me straight away the correct words and that is my strict belief the earlier you teach them these things about the differences between girls and boys and all the correct names the easier it will be to talk to them about anything in the future. Hope that helps!

Kandace - posted on 07/08/2010

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it is hard for him to say that cause my son is only ten months and the better off that he dont know what it is the better. as far as i am concern he can call it a pickle and that it is bad and will cause problem when grown and moved out.

Merry - posted on 07/08/2010

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@ jennifer Bentley
your daughter calling her vulva a cookie REALLY disturbs me as cookies are meant to be eaten and honestly that just made me so disturbed that she would call it that.
@jessie mozret
lol about front butt, i remember calling it that when I was little too :)
and as for calling it a willy or a peter, how rude! I mean there are children who are named these names and your child thinks it is a word for his penis?? I would be so ashamed if my son thought it was called a willy and then met a boy named willy. That could get to bad if the parents of "willy" find out your son is calling his penis their sons name. awkward!

Erica - posted on 07/08/2010

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I'm a mother of three boys, ages 6, 3, and 8 months.My 6 year old calls it his private and my 3 year old calls it his pee-pee. works for me for now!

Adrieanne - posted on 07/08/2010

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I always told my now two year old from birth its a penis. I hate little cute names for things...call it what it is and stop confusing them...that my opinion.

Kandace - posted on 07/08/2010

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i havent yet he plays with it but i i just tell him that is his winkey and he can not play with it it will cause bad problems when he gets older

Paula - posted on 07/08/2010

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i call it his winkey that way its not vouger in any way and can be said in public if need be

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2010

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both my boys call theres thier willys!!!! my oldest sometimes calls his penis but he is 8

Mhairi - posted on 07/08/2010

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I have a daughter, and we taught her that she has a vulva like mummy and dad has a penis. And we were in a store and she started yelling that she had a penis like daddy and pointing at it and running head first into my husband's crotch. It was hilarious. People stared and laughed, it was no big deal. And when she helps change her younger cousins nappy, she knows he has a penis and will point it out and start yelling. It's really no big deal, if people stare in the store - I figure at one point in time they have had kids or been around kids and they usually say the weirdest things at the quietest or interesting times, hahhahahahaaha!!!

Clare - posted on 07/08/2010

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when i was younger my mum had always said 2 me that a boys privete parts was a micky n a girls parts was a mini or a flower

Oluwatomilayo - posted on 07/08/2010

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Hi dear, whatever you call it is a choice, but i feel confortable giving it a name, and in my house, both my son and daughter calls theirs "ko ko ro", saying penis in public could be embarrasing,all the same they still know the proper names because the teach the proper names of the part of the boby in school, i think they call it the private part which i think is okay. take care.

Nancy - posted on 07/07/2010

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my son is two and half and he calls it his winkie
it seems to work for me and him

Sarah - posted on 07/07/2010

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Does anyone who was talking about calling them by the proper names preventing or detering child molesters have a link to a study? I'd like to read that.

Maggie - posted on 07/07/2010

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I'd start with proper names. Once your son gets older he'll hear slang term and he'll decide what he wants to call it. My little bro calls his a "hang down". (I kinda hope my son doesn't pick up that one.)

Jessie - posted on 07/07/2010

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we have called a penis a penis but the kids will sometimes call it a peanut ( sound better from a kid) and our oldest girl calls hers a front butt.

Rose - posted on 07/07/2010

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Teach him the real name of his body parts including his penis. Unfortunately, we have to prepare our children to protect themselves and should your child ever have to report abuse or testify in court- he needs to know the true name of his body parts.

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

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i pray that this doesnt happen but i was told to teach them the proper name bc of the fact that if they were molested and you nicknamed it peter weter for example it wouldnt stand up in court! i know thats a serious note but that is what i was told. now if you wanna nickname it then by all means just make sure he knows the proper name as well.

Jessica - posted on 07/07/2010

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I am a psychology major and so is my husband. According to psychologists, it is best to call it what it truly is: a penis. That is what we call it and so does our son. I do not think there is anything wrong with it and it is less confusing than calling his penis a pee pee and urine pee pee too.

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

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Well I 2 had that delima, But my kids cleared that right up 4 me. My sons both call their "Penises" A "Weedle" and my daughter calls her "Vagina" HER "Cookies". I just figures I will let them make the decision 4 them selves. I tried to give them the names I thought was proper, And every one of my kids ended up calling themselves their own names. So I let it be. :) Good luck.

Danielle - posted on 07/07/2010

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Look, maybe I'm just a weirdo or something, but I believe that you should give him the correct term whether it's appropriate or not. The truth is, it helps to prevent your kid from being ashamed of their body, and also protects him from predators. Like the other women stated, it's easier for a molester to take advantage of a child that doesn't use the correct term, and causes problems when they tell people about it. The police have to take reports and write word-for-word what the kid is saying so that they can get all the information to stop the person. I fully believe that no matter who you are, you should always take your children's safety into consideration. Yes, inform them that no one should touch it but themselves, and yes, tell them that they shouldn't just shout the name in the middle of a store or something (even if it is funny for people), but give your kids the ability to protect themselves. It makes it easier for you and you don't have to teach them another word later on, because it gets hard to call something another name if you've been calling it one thing all their life.

Oh, and like some other people on here, my kids also do not usually say the word in public. Usually it's in the bath or when they're using the potty.

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What frightens me about this subject is grown women saying that THEY didn't even know the real words as a child... and they see no problem w/ repeating the cycle. Call it whatever you want on a regular basis, but teach the REAL word from infancy and there will be no shame in it.

Zara - posted on 07/07/2010

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We just call it a wee wee, but I have always heard that it's best to just call it what it is so they don't feel embarrassed by the real word. My son has noticed that my daughter has different parts and I am still trying to figure out what to call it...

Jayme-Lee - posted on 03/16/2011

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My little one is only just 1 a few weeks ago. We haven't got to the part of him speaking much. only get mum mum mum or da da da. but we just call his penis a willie. everyones different. my sister in law with her daughter called it a rudie. i think its not about what is correct. but what you feel is appropriate. if you don't mind eric saying penis then teach him that. i think people look at what may be easiest for the child to pronounce

Karen - posted on 03/16/2011

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My son calls his penis his pee pee. I figured it would be easier to know what to do with it when he potty trains but he won't even consider the potty.

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